I'm in the talking stages with a guy (as in we talk and **** but not bf/bf). We both don't want an open relationship. He is a nice and hot guy so I'm conflicted on what to do if we go exclusive. I have a cheating kink. I've never had a bf to cheat on before but I've been the mistress for dl and out guys. I love the secrecy and the taboo of it all. Knowing that I managed to make a guy stray even tho he has a gf/bf/spouse makes me feel sexy. And once I get into a relationship having another guy break those boundaries with me turns me on.

How do I go about this in an ethical way?I'd probably end up taking prep in secrecy and still get tested so I don't spread diseases.

just don't . there's no way to twist cheating on someone.

Hold on, there's an ethical way?

There is no such thing as ethical cheating.

ask the artist formerly known as whis

Just now, Julien said:

Hold on, there's an ethical way?

There better be cuz I'm doing it either way.

How would u feel if u found out he was cheating on u?

Just now, gelato said:

ask the artist formerly known as whis

@Whis advice pls

No offense, but I don't think you have a kink. The way you describe it, makes it sound like you experienced something which makes you 'crave' to have this behaviour. Like don't take this the wrong way, but have you tried therapy before?

Because if you are serious about this man, you might aswell get to know yourself completely. Because you can't enter a 'closed' relationship, if you already plan on cheating. That's not fair to him or yourself.

Edited Monday at 01:30 PM2 days by J-esper

Get help with that cheating "kink" you sicko, karma is real. But anyways if it's talking stages it's not considered cheating l.

Then don't tell him if you're really into that kink.

Privacy is compatible with honesty. A person does not owe a partner unrestricted access to every part of their life, but withholding information becomes ethically problematic when that information materially affects the partner or their choices.

The ball's in your court with this one.

You put JLo music while you're with your lover. Hope this helps!

5 minutes ago, J-esper said:

No offense, but I don't think you have a kink. The way you describe it, makes it sound like you experienced something which makes you 'crave' to have this behaviour. Like don't take this the wrong way, but have you tried therapy before?

Because if you are serious about this man, you might aswell get to know yourself completely. Because you can't enter a 'closed' rekationship, if you already plan on cheating. That's not fair to him or yourself.

4 minutes ago, Maxxxine said:

Get help with that cheating "kink" you sicko, karma is real. But anyways if it's talking stages it's not considered cheating l.

People have piss and scat link, why can't I have a cheating kink? I'm not the only one with it, there's a subreddit with like minded folks on /r/gaycheaters

Don't get a monogamous boyfriend.

I ain't exactly one to kink shame, but some deserve it. Get a grip, you're more then your dick

Edited Monday at 01:21 PM2 days by Thin White Duke

don't start a monogamous relationship tf

you need to kill yourself

4 minutes ago, Mythical said:

People have piss and scat link, why can't I have a cheating kink? I'm not the only one with it, there's a subreddit with like minded folks on /r/gaycheaters

Then you don't get in a relationship with someone who doesn't want it open. Cheating is disgusting and literally emotionally destroys a person, I hope he finds someone better.

Use a condom, for both oral and anal. And no kissing. Its not cheating as long as no bodily fluids are exchanged

s/

1 minute ago, Mythical said:

People have piss and scat link, why can't I have a cheating kink? I'm not the only one with it, there's a subreddit with like minded folks on /r/gaycheaters

I mean you do you. But then you also have to accept the consequences that come with it.

If your end goal is a monogamous/non-open relationship, then this behaviour will only be destructive for yourself and/or your partner.

But again, that is your own prerogative.

Don't be in a committed/monogamous relationship knowing you're not mature for it and stick to the casual hook-ups? Problem solved!

Or leave the poor unsuspecting guy out of your cheating kink mess and stick to being the "other woman" to other people's relationships if you find old habits die screaming?

Edited Monday at 01:50 PM2 days by aesthetic bih

7 minutes ago, Prisoner said:

Use a condom, for both oral and anal. And no kissing. Its not cheating as long as no bodily fluids are exchanged

s/

by this logic I can't even kiss

I do wanna say I don't think cheating kink is real and its just people's way of trying to have their cake and eat it too. A fantasy perhaps, but absolutely not a kink.

And not to go all old-age I think it's because of p0rn culture. But if you must be like that I suggest an open relationship, or just not dating full stop.

Stop making threads

32 minutes ago, Mythical said:

I'vebeen the mistress for dl and out guys

Some of you are just mindless whores controlled by your dick.

You find someone nice and agree to keep the relationship closed and all you can think about is "but what about me and my cheating kink???"

Genuinely pathetic.