Test to see if he's a cuckold. Get handsy with guys in front of him but say youre just playing. If he doesnt react much or shrugs it off, youre in the clear!

If you guys aren't going to reply with genuine advice don't reply at all.

18 minutes ago, #Beautiful said:

you need to kill yourself

What a disgusting thing to say

OT: for being in a relationship, you have to be at least a little responsible emotionaly, people are not toys just keep on being the mistress if you like it, but don't play with anyone just for a kink (which I must say, I find highly hypocrite that you want him to be monogamous when the whole point of your plan is cheating from the get go...)

all cheating is ethical

if they were a good partner you wouldn't want to cheat in the first place, so really it's all their fault

One of the most essential things about kinks is consent. If you cheat without the other person knowing or without telling them about this kink and getting their consent to cheat, then you're violating a boundary and crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed in a relationship. Consider opening up to this person about the kink and see how they respond. Otherwise, just keep things at this stage and don't proceed further if you're planning on engaging in this behavior.

Break up with your partner first and then shag as much you want

Remember how you called kacey's disco balls tacky a few days ago?

4 minutes ago, Mythical said:

If you guys aren't going to reply with genuine advice don't reply at all.

Im serious girl. Some guys like a little cat and mouse game when it comes to cheating. Just test the waters

34 minutes ago, GGD said:

Then don't tell him if you're really into that kink.

Privacy is compatible with honesty. A person does not owe a partner unrestricted access to every part of their life, but withholding information becomes ethically problematic when that information materially affects the partner or their choices.

The ball's in your court with this one.

Good point.

To OP - On the topic of honestly, have you tried opening about your cheating kink to them? Who knows maybe the guy you have talking stage may have a kink for "being cheated on" and could match your freak?

cheating by definition is unethical

12 minutes ago, Kota said:

all cheating is ethical

if they were a good partner you wouldn't want to cheat in the first place, so really it's all their fault

This makes a lot of sense actually

40 minutes ago, Mythical said:

People have piss and scat link, why can't I have a cheating kink? I'm not the only one with it, there's a subreddit with like minded folks on /r/gaycheaters

14 minutes ago, Mythical said:

If you guys aren't going to reply with genuine advice don't reply at all.

Piss and scat kinks are consensual. The very idea of cheating rather than opening the relationship suggests that you like the idea of deceiving someone who is trusting you and you don't care how it'll affect them. That is not a kink, it's an egoistical and manipulative way of thinking that likely hides a deeper emotional need.

Don't do that to the guy you're talking and seek healthier ways to relate to people. This is my genuine advice to you.

10 minutes ago, Baby Dancer said:

Im serious girl. Some guys like a little cat and mouse game when it comes to cheating. Just test the waters

He does have a hot friend

53 minutes ago, J-esper said:

No offense, but I don't think you have a kink. The way you describe it, makes it sound like you experienced something which makes you 'crave' to have this behaviour. Like don't take this the wrong way, but have you tried therapy before?

Because if you are serious about this man, you might aswell get to know yourself completely. Because you can't enter a 'closed' relationship, if you already plan on cheating. That's not fair to him or yourself.

Kind of this, "I get a thrill knowing he chose me" sis, if you'd of said no it would have been the next nasty, immoral and emotionally immoral twink after you. With men like that, the only person they think is special is them. As the OP perfectly illustrates with their entire post.

Seek therapy.

There's no ethical way about it. Find someone with a cuckold fetish or have an open relationship otherwise you're just gonna hurt this guy you claim to care about.

Everything alright at home?

1 hour ago, Julien said:

Hold on, there's an ethical way?

Yes. It's called open relationship.

Go to therapy, perhaps?

there is no ethical way.

besides the emotional aspect, if someone is in a 'monogamous' relationship with you, they are trusting you with their body. you can take prep, but what are you gonna do when inevitably you catch some other std and pass it onto your partner? it's borderline sexual assault to be gambling with someone else's body like you want to, and should be seeking serious help rather than a serious bf

1 hour ago, Mythical said:

People have piss and scat link, why can't I have a cheating kink? I'm not the only one with it, there's a subreddit with like minded folks on /r/gaycheaters

Because that isn't a real thing you're just telling yourselves that it is so you don't feel bad for breaking the heart and spirit of people that think you cared about them

1 hour ago, #Beautiful said:

you need to kill yourself

Oh!

while we're at it, anyone have tips for ethical tax fraud?

1 hour ago, Mythical said:

People have piss and scat link, why can't I have a cheating kink? I'm not the only one with it, there's a subreddit with like minded folks on /r/gaycheaters

Because they're not remotely the same thing... Those kinks are shared and agreed upon by both parties. What you're wanting to do is cruel and emotionally scarring to another person because you solely care about yourself. That's not a kink; that's being an *******. He deserves much better.

1 hour ago, Mythical said:

If you guys aren't going to reply with genuine advice don't reply at all.

Everyone were ethically replying