What are some subtle signs that someone is into you?

I'm getting weird signals from a gay coworker because he's very reserved, but recently he's been talking and opening up with everyone but me. I made attempts to be warm and make him feel comfortable before... to no effect, apparently. I made sure I wasn't overwhelming because it has come to my attention that he once said that I single him out and don't loop him in- which isn't true at all so I don't know where this came from.

Some people tell me this is textbook behavior: because he likes me, he avoids me. But he does absolutely nothing to get my attention, does not engage with me at all, and he allegedly got into a relationship recently so I don't know I'm so confused.

Edited March 5Mar 5 by Spicy Pisces

It sounds like he hates you tbh. Some gays have a weird thing about gay colleagues and just hate them for existing idk

If they avoid eye contact with you when you speak to them (and they're good at holding it with other people) that can be a sign they're into you.

There are no signs tbh. Like I was sure so many men were into me and were not. And the reverse. The only sign is that they do/say something blatant

It sounds like he hates you in my opinion lmao

If he’s avoiding you, hang it up. He either doesn’t like you or is a walking red flag.

Healthy signs that someone likes you (aside from the only way to know for sure is to ask…) is when they pay attention, respect you, and make you feel important and interesting. Don’t give attention to people who ignore you.

You're reading too much into this. It seems he's avoiding you, let him.

Find out their birthday and birth time and I'll get right back to you sis

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Don't pursue anything with a gay coworker, like ever.

I had a similar situation at my last job. The guy was 4-5 years younger than me and he was already working there when I first started. Clocked that he's a gay immediately and I thought he's cool cause he had a nice fashion sense and listened to the same music as me pretty much. He wasn't cute nor my type and I was not about to pursue anything with somebody from my team (although I have done that with other gays from the project and a team lead ). Anyway, our dynamic was really off which I found weird because we haven't even talked AT ALL so like?? Where was all this stemming from? I thought he might find me too intimidating because I'm an older and a more experienced gay but I digress.

He had behaviour issues from what I could tell because he was always involved in a conflict with the others and barely communicated, even for work-related stuff which pissed off everybody.

Co-worker: avoids you at all costs

OP:

29 minutes ago, Aston Martin said:

If they avoid eye contact with you when you speak to them (and they're good at holding it with other people) that can be a sign they're into you.

We never had conversations long enough for me to notice but I'll try

If they unlock their album for you

21 minutes ago, Pendulum said:

Don't pursue anything with a gay coworker, like ever.

I had a similar situation at my last job. The guy was 4-5 years younger than me and he was already working there when I first started. Clocked that he's a gay immediately and I thought he's cool cause he had a nice fashion sense and listened to the same music as me pretty much. He wasn't cute nor my type and I was not about to pursue anything with somebody from my team (although I have done that with other gays from the project and a team lead ). Anyway, our dynamic was really off which I found weird because we haven't even talked AT ALL so like?? Where was all this stemming from? I thought he might find me too intimidating because I'm an older and a more experienced gay but I digress.

He had behaviour issues from what I could tell because he was always involved in a conflict with the others and barely communicated, even for work-related stuff which pissed off everybody.

9 minutes ago, Toxic Love said:

Co-worker: avoids you at all costs

OP:

That's the thing, I don't even like him nor is he my type. He's cordial and nice only when prompted. When not, he keeps a distance. He's about 15 years older than me too so I don't get it. These weird signals get in my head and my dramatic gay ass has to wonder

Ignore him, he sounds petty and he does not like you.

They can hardly breathe....

2 hours ago, Spicy Pisces said:

because he likes me, he avoids me.

yeah he likely sense that's exactly what you're thinking

so best you keep distance esp in the workplace

They communicate to you that they're into you.

Ask if they play Sims 4, chances are they are woohooing with you there

They say "I'm into you"