I had been talking to a guy for a few months, and we finally decided to meet. Beforehand, we discussed some roleplay ideas. One of them was that he'd pretend to seduce a straight guy. We also briefly talked about dom/sub dynamics, me dominating him while a hypothetical partner was unaware, and some other kinks.

When I got to his place, he asked me to be very quiet because his roommate was asleep. This was the first time he'd mentioned having a roommate, but I was already there. We had a drink, chatted for a bit, and eventually hooked up in the living room with music playing.

At one point, he said something like, "Keep playing with my hole while my partner watches." I immediately stopped and asked if he was serious. He said it was just part of the roleplay, so we continued. After he finished, I got dressed and left without finishing myself.

As I was leaving, he asked if I'd seen anyone near the bathroom because he thought he heard something. I said no and left.

Today he texted me saying he had a great time, then added, "By the way, my friend says he's been with you before, you've been to our place." That didn't sound right. He sent me a picture, and it confirmed we'd never met. When I asked how his friend knew me, he said he'd shown him my profile on the app.

That made me ask, "Is he your partner?" He replied, "Yes." He had never mentioned having a partner.

Now I'm wondering whether his partner was actually there watching the whole time and whether I unknowingly participated in some kind of voyeur fantasy. If that's what happened, I feel like my consent was violated because I never agreed to being watched.

Am I overthinking this, or was my consent actually violated if his partner was secretly watching?

this happens VERY frequently in the gay community

BITSNSNSCH WHAT?!!!!

wait what music was playing

If I understood correctly, he lied about his "roommate" being his partner...

That's suspicious, that's weird...

Off-Topic: I miss the Roof bc this would fit so much better in there

sounds like you ****** crazy and got crazy

Just now, Pavement Princess said:

Lmaooooo I thought of this gif too

OT: That sounds really creepy, I'm glad you're safe.

3 minutes ago, Bussea said:

wait what music was playing

1432

2 minutes ago, Illyboy said:

If I understood correctly, he lied about his "roommate" being his partner...

That's suspicious, that's weird...

Off-Topic: I miss the Roof bc this would fit so much better in there

He never mentioned having a roommate, he just said he could host, so this might've been on me for not asking prior. Once I was there, we stayed in the living room coz his "roommate" was sleeping in the bedroom. I don't know how I didn't connect the dots at that moment….

But yes he only revealed that the "roommate" was his partner when the whole thing got suspicious to me and I asked.

EW he definitely watched without your consent and the guy absolutely lied to you. That's so ******* creepy..

that's kind of f*cked up and creepy

2 minutes ago, Weld_E said:

He never mentioned having a roommate, he just said he could host, so this might've been on me for not asking prior. Once I was there, we stayed in the living room coz his "roommate" was sleeping in the bedroom. I don't know how I didn't connect the dots at that moment….

But yes he only revealed that the "roommate" was his partner when the whole thing got suspicious to me and I asked.

And what about his bedroom? I don't think it's typical for roommates to share a bedroom so that was a giveaway that they are together. Odd that he wouldn't just tell you that upfront but say he's his roommate instead.

You should ask him

Just now, Abracadabra said:

And what about his bedroom? I don't think it's typical for roommates to share a bedroom so that was a giveaway that they are together. Odd that he wouldn't just tell you that upfront but say he's his roommate instead.

We agreed to chat first to see if we clicked, which is why we sat in the living room. Then he made a move, and we went with it. About halfway through, I asked if we should head to the bedroom, but he mentioned the roommate was sleeping there. I was too caught up in the moment for it to click…

Yeah you have every reason to overthink this. As someone who's very much into kinks and roleplays, my most important tip is to build trust and safety. Hang out or have a normal hookup a couple times before jumping in with the kinks.

Edited July 5Jul 5 by Spicy Pisces

the way id be going to the police …..

Having sex with other people in the house is never a good idea for this very reason

31 minutes ago, TedLasso said:

1432

In this case it should be Witness

yeah block him

You were unaware of the cuck involved so yes your privacy was violated

Not to make you paranoid but i'd be more concerned about being filmed during it. If he lied about his partner, god only knows what else his creepy ass would be willing to do. Men like that make me ******* sick.

1 minute ago, Terrielle said:

Not to make you paranoid but i'd be more concerned about being filmed during it. If he lied about his partner, god only knows what else his creepy ass would be willing to do. Men like that make me ******* sick.

THIS!! I'd be very careful....

7 minutes ago, Terrielle said:

Not to make you paranoid but i'd be more concerned about being filmed during it. If he lied about his partner, god only knows what else his creepy ass would be willing to do. Men like that make me ******* sick.

Agreed!

I’m so sorry this happened to you

Honestly at any red flag people should just leave