a few weeks ago I made a thread about me being confused about a coworker being into me. whole thread turned into a shitshow so I'm making a new one to update!

• we went on a date that same saturday, asked him what were his intentions with me and me said he liked me since he first saw me, literally love at first sight

• since then we've been seeing each other at work and try to avoid people finding out since we do work in the same area.

• he accidentally met both my parents and it... went well now that I wasn't expecting

• he has a whole ass car collection and he's taking me to an exposition on Saturday

• he's been picking me up from work if I work late shifts, or if our shifts coincide

• he's the nicest person I've ever dated. I don't think I've ever met someone so pure and sincere.

• he doesn't drink, smoke, has a nice personality.

• he's asexual and that's okay with me because my sex drive is too low (because of my meds for depression) so it truly doesn't matter.

I don't think anyone's ever made me feel this comfortable and loved. I think I'm starting to catch feelings, but the good thing is that it is mutual and I just love being with him, I love that me sings to me, makes me laugh and doesn't care about... he actually rented an airbnb for a date we planned two weeks in advance. everything is going so well but I'm also panicking because where are the red flags?

This sounds amazing sis, happy to hear good updates

10 minutes ago, Joyride said:

everything is going so well but I'm also panicking because where are the red flags?

Spend the night with him in his house, tell him if he can go to buy some coffee or something like that and when he leaves you alone, go through all his drawers and rooms, you'll find something. And nothing could go wrong really!

you're brave posting this on the same forum Whis frequents , id be keeping my man hidden . but happy for you sis

1 minute ago, May said:

you're brave posting this on the same forum Whis frequents , id be keeping my man hidden . but happy for you sis

who is Whis?

Weren't you fired from your job because of a coniving friend?

Just now, tost1 said:

Weren't you fired from your job because of a coniving friend?

no, that happened in October and I found out a week ago that my coworked had taken my place.

13 minutes ago, Joyride said:

where are the red flags?

14 minutes ago, Joyride said:

sings to me,

1 minute ago, tost1 said:

he's actually a really talented singer

10 minutes ago, Joyride said:

who is Whis?

Exactly

I don't get how someone can date their co worker

Sounds so lovely. Very nice to hear things are going well.

You deserve it!

This is cute. Wish you the best!

That last line hit close to home, you get used to red flags so much that when there arent any there it feels "weird"

Congrats and enjoy

I miss you @Whis

2 minutes ago, Timeless said:

I miss you @Whis

1 hour ago, Joyride said:

everything is going so well but I'm also panicking because where are the red flags?

the asexual of it all def eliminates many potential red flags, as sex and intimacy are not typically sources of stability and balance for gay men, so i feel like y'alls relationship is even more on the right track than not.

56 minutes ago, QueenB said:

That last line hit close to home, you get used to red flags so much that when there arent any there it feels "weird"

Congrats and enjoy

The way I have yet to found a men without red flags i would feel so perplexed like are you an human?

2 hours ago, Joyride said:

where are the red flags?

2 hours ago, Joyride said:

literally love at first sight

interesting that he's asexual, but he's attracted to you

1 hour ago, gorgeouss said:

the asexual of it all def eliminates many potential red flags, as sex and intimacy are not typically sources of stability and balance for gay men, so i feel like y'alls relationship is even more on the right track than not.

he was very upfront about it during our first date, we drove almost two hours to a whole different city and we got a lot off of our chests during the entire conversation and I loved his take on intimacy and romantic love, which he does experience. and to be quite honest I do not need the sexual side of things.

I think the first week was key because we set our boundaries and expectations right away, so now things are going the way I expected them to go... knowing what I was getting into from the start was quite helpful for me

Edited June 16Jun 16 by Joyride