Like I'm tired of the apps and online, how else do ya'll meet men? The mall? The park? Where? I'm talking genuine people who actually want a connection. Where do you find them? 

 

 

Public restrooms

 

Grindr, Tinder, Sniffies, Recon, Fetlife, Scruff, at the club

Church 

Not having any luck finding men online or on apps? Try atrl.net!

 

Let me settle camp here until the question is answered

 

Girl just use Tinder -and Grindr Sometimes- but you just have to be fast and selective. If you made a match with a guy then get to a date ASAP, waiting for days or weeks to have a first encounter really ruins the monumentum. That's how I met new men and in a long-term way (not necessarily in a love relationship; in can be whatever you want).

 

i have met the most hot, interesting and funny men in that way, in a world where the gays are slow and picky asf be fast and picky and you'll have the best times in your dating life 

Edited October 26, 2025Oct 26 by Julia Fox

You don't. Go to church. Find yourself a respectable woman.

 

atrl.net 

The gym 

2 minutes ago, David_Greengrass97 said:

The gym 

When I see gays socializing at the gym I always wonder "do they have a WhatsApp group or something, what's happening?"

Edited October 26, 2025Oct 26 by fa77ot

meeting a hot, sensible man at your local park on a random day that is looking to date and is gay/bi and in your age group? better chance of pigs flying tbh 

 

the gays have to stick to digital means unless you frequent gay events/clubs/bars

 

Edited October 27, 2025Oct 27 by Minto

We homosexuals are unfortunately DEPENDANT on dating apps to meet other gays 

 

sad but true

Edited October 27, 2025Oct 27 by HANZ94

At the gym. With the teachers. 

 

 

i've been feeling so pessimistic about dating lately so i feel you

 

a while ago i was genuinely considering trying to be bi and meeting women because finding the type of connection i want feels next to impossible sometimes as a gay dude

 

it really only gets harder once you're in your 30s, which i wasn't really expecting?

1 hour ago, YourFavoriteWeapon said:

Grindr, Tinder, Sniffies, Recon, Fetlife, Scruff, at the club

 

1 hour ago, Julia Fox said:

Girl just use Tinder -and Grindr Sometimes- but you just have to be fast and selective. If you made a match with a guy then get to a date ASAP, waiting for days or weeks to have a first encounter really ruins the monumentum. That's how I met new men and in a long-term way (not necessarily in a love relationship; in can be whatever you want).

 

i have met the most hot, interesting and funny men in that way, in a world where the gays are slow and picky asf be fast and picky and you'll have the best times in your dating life 

Dddd I literally said not dating apps, my problem with dating apps is people and even me, are too picky. But I've noticed that in real life I get to to know someone's personality and I like them despite however they look. I think meeting randomly in real life works best for me. 

1 hour ago, David_Greengrass97 said:

The gym 

 

57 minutes ago, Comedor said:

When I see gays socializing at the gym I always wonder "do they have a WhatsApp group or something, what's happening?"

 

8 minutes ago, Roberto said:

At the gym. With the teachers. 

 

 

Kii'ng because I saw this straight girl get this gay guys number at the gym. Granted he looked somewhat straight but any gay could tell what he was. But I could never approach him like she did, I think that's a privilege straight women have

Right

1 minute ago, limelight elixir said:

i've been feeling so pessimistic about dating lately so i feel you

 

a while ago i was genuinely considering trying to be bi and meeting women because finding the type of connection i want feels next to impossible sometimes as a gay dude

 

it really only gets harder once you're in your 30s, which i wasn't really expecting?

Right? Feels as though gay guys are just so into just the sexual part of daring than the actual dating. There's no emotional attachment with them

 

At home 

1 hour ago, Julia Fox said:

Girl just use Tinder -and Grindr Sometimes- but you just have to be fast and selective. If you made a match with a guy then get to a date ASAP, waiting for days or weeks to have a first encounter really ruins the monumentum. That's how I met new men and in a long-term way (not necessarily in a love relationship; in can be whatever you want).

 

i have met the most hot, interesting and funny men in that way, in a world where the gays are slow and picky asf be fast and picky and you'll have the best times in your dating life 

good advice!

7 minutes ago, KingWitch said:

Kii'ng because I saw this straight girl get this gay guys number at the gym. Granted he looked somewhat straight but any gay could tell what he was. But I could never approach him like she did, I think that's a privilege straight women have

Right

May I introduce you to oomfs @TedLasso.

He met a gym bro and had a crush on him. Don't know the ending but he was too shy to express his love for the man 🌚

Go make friends, shooo shoo hush hush 😘

Edited October 27, 2025Oct 27 by David_Greengrass97

At Target

1 hour ago, Julia Fox said:

Girl just use Tinder -and Grindr Sometimes- but you just have to be fast and selective. If you made a match with a guy then get to a date ASAP, waiting for days or weeks to have a first encounter really ruins the monumentum. That's how I met new men and in a long-term way (not necessarily in a love relationship; in can be whatever you want).

 

i have met the most hot, interesting and funny men in that way, in a world where the gays are slow and picky asf be fast and picky and you'll have the best times in your dating life 

This is so true

 

I've been dating the past couple of months but have been busy af, by the time I do get around to dates and meeting in person they usually think I've lost interest because of the amount of time that has passed

9 hours ago, Vox Lux said:

This is so true

 

I've been dating the past couple of months but have been busy af, by the time I do get around to dates and meeting in person they usually think I've lost interest because of the amount of time that has passed

 

9 hours ago, Strawberry Bubble said:

good advice!

I realized this because I use to put a date asap if we get along on the first hours of chatting and when we met they are all like "this was too fast" -they do it in a surprisingly very good way- and well… dating apps were made to get out and meet new people not to collect all the matches/chats in dust. That leaves a very good impression and always leads up to a new date. 
 

In a world where there a lot of options, you have to mark the difference… that's it! Do it fast or just flop!

Edited October 27, 2025Oct 27 by Julia Fox

At this point, just Grindr. I'm over meeting new guys, though. I've reached an all-time low in how much I care. There's this one guy I'm just focusing on and getting to know. He's not my type on paper, but he could be. Who knows? If it doesn't work, I'm deleting it and staying off for roughly a year.

 

I'm generally out and about. I've noticed guys while walking in the park, shopping around, etc. But, of course, people don't generally make the first move outside of a lounge or club environment. Which, I've even thought about just checking out a club in a nearby city. I still might do that, just to see what happens.