is it superficial to make it a significant factor?

Anyone saying no is in denial IMO

absolutely 

Yes, it matters, but it shouldn't be the only factor.

Of course they do, especially at first, but the more you know someone the less they matter

Absolutely, sexual attraction is very important for a relationship to work.

58 minutes ago, tost1 said:

Of course they do, especially at first, but the more you know someone the less they matter

So true.

A little.

 

He needs to have a good set of hair on his head that's it with me. If there isn't attraction I get the ick and suddenly wouldn't even want to kiss the guy.

 

 

you're asking a site full of gays, it's a shallow asf community

 

for straight relationships it matters but not always. women don't care as much and straight men often take any woman they can get

i mean, how someone looks is generally the first impression you have before you even speak. i think its natural for it to matter.

if its the most important thing.. you in danger girl

is water wet ? 

Absolutely but it shouldn’t be your deciding factor. Sometimes someone you are physically attracted to can have a very boring personality and vice versa. It takes time to get to really know someone

Duh

Yes it does matter, and everyone who says "personality is more important looks shouldn't matter" is ugly and saying that to cope

Looks are important for initial (and ongoing) attraction, personality is what makes someone a keeper

1 hour ago, favorite crime said:

you're asking a site full of gays, it's a shallow asf community

 

for straight relationships it matters but not always. women don't care as much and straight men often take any woman they can get

Straight men care about women's looks too wtf. Women can also be shallow, although not always about looks. I don't understand why people act like only gay men care about attractiveness, because I have seen plenty of gay relationships where one partner is more attractive than the other.

Yes it matters, but I honestly don’t even bother shooting my shots when a guy looks too good. Unless of course they shoot their shot with me, but I’d try my best not to get too attached too soon (assuming they’re an unfaithful f*ckboy). In other words, they’d have to prove good, strong character for me to even trust in a relationship. So by looks being important, I don’t always mean the best of looks. I have more faith in the 6, 7 and 8s over the 10s. 

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Yes it does. 
 

One day you will have a disagreement or even an argument. Being mad at an ugly person would make you even more pissed. 

the phone they have matters more to me

personality IS more important and its quite shallow to think otherwise imo but looks do matter. who would date someone they don't find attractive? 

 

that being said, a lot of people (especially in the LGBTQ+ community) have a very narrow and often discriminatory "taste" in looks, which is also part of the conversation imo

When dating it is important, but after that what makes someone stay or leave is personality.

Yes, I need to be attracted to you to want to date you. Looks aren't everything, however, because I could look at someone who's traditionally attractive and still not find them attractive due to their personality, demeanor, etc. And, often times, a person actually can become attractive to me when I get to know them even if I wasn't initially physically attracted to them in the beginning.

 

There's a dynamic here that does shift.

Being a 4 and having a thing for 10s is a real issue in the Gay community tbh especially around NYC. 

 

 

physical attraction is the first thing that attracts you to someone (unless u are doing "blind dating"/pen pals without seeing photos)...

Of course, they determine If I wanna get to know you or not.