Ended my first relationship today, we were together for almost a year. Feeling lots of things, any tips on how to handle all of this?

Edited September 22, 20232 yr by ~Start The Music

It's hard. Just hold on, treat yourself, go out and remember, it'll come time when you'll be fine again. Right now it's ok not to be fine, but you'll get throu it

Firstly, give yourself some time to "mourn" the relationship. Don't reject the sadness or it will creep up on you later on with a bang. 

 

After that, do whatever makes gou feel good and happy. Travel, eat junk, listen to music or whatever you like to do. It's cliché but it works. 

 

After that, only time will help, there's nothing you can do to speed it up or move on. Only time. 

 

It sucks but it happens. Just remember, dont blame yourself. 

 

It's going to be ok 

Accept the relationship is over. Write down all the reasons why this person was not your end game and hold on it when you need it, knowing you’ll meet someone who you are meant to be with.  Let yourself be sad but don’t ruminate on the what ifs with this specific person.   You’re doing great !

Relationships are silly and will be a thing of the past soon. 

cry it out, listen to some music that helps you, keep your mind busy

Stream Butterfly for healing 

Allow yourself to feel your emotions, process them, and know deep inside that with time you'll be okay. 

It's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, just let it all out

 

Although it's a different pace for everyone, I hope you'll feel better as soon as possible, get over and be happy like you deserve! 

1 hour ago, God_Donna said:

Relationships are silly and will be a thing of the past soon. 

What in the world.

The first breakup is one of the hardest things but time will help you. Give yourself some space to do things you enjoy or try new things that you might. It can be a good opportunity to get further in touch with yourself.

Don't try to hold back any emotions you feel in the moment, feel everything and get all your anguish out now instead of letting it build up and fester to the detriment of a future relationship. Take the time to recoup your emotions and don't immediately throw yourself into another emotional situation until you feel completely detached from the one that just ended. You can look at the breakup as a stepping stone for something greater, don't let it bring you down.

allow yourself to mourn the end of the relationship. it’s ok to be sad and feel conflicted because it’s part of accepting the loss of someone from your life that you probably still care about. also, don’t stay in contact with them. you need time to heal and grow on your own without being distracted by them if they try to get in touch with you.

i went through the exact same thing earlier this year with my first serious relationship (11 months). the first few weeks were rough but allowing myself to grieve helped me rationalise my own feelings about him and i was fully over it after a month.

 

hope you’re ok, hang in there! things will get better 

Edited September 22, 20232 yr by Dolce Vita

connect with friends, focus on you, don't lean on substances to make you feel better

Nostalgia is the best medicine. I watched all of my favorite childhood movies. Had ice cream. New food recipes. Went to the movies solo. Visited home/mom. Joined a gym. Bought a PS5. Started gaming/streaming. Ran (a lot). Self help tiktok. Positive affirmations, daily and nightly. 

 

Treat yourself, but be humble and modest. Healthy distractions. When you're lost in the dark, look for the fireflies. 

Listening to Red (Taylor's Version)

 

 

 

1 hour ago, Power love said:

What in the world.

☠️ I tried to help 

24 minutes ago, oscar13 said:

Listening to Red (Taylor's Version)

 

 

 

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Do the things that make you happy. Spend time with the people you love. Eat your favourite foods, watch your favourite films, play your favourite games, listen to your favourite artists. That person was only one part of your life, focus on the other parts that bring you joy. 
 

You’re going to be emotional and that’s ok, it’ll pass.

The only advice I can give is do NOT do anything you will regret later. Breakups suck but my god the stupid things I did after relationships will haunt me for years.

Look at it this way - you're not the only person in the universe that has gone through a break-up. It might be your first but also might not be your last either.

1. Don't pick up the phone. You know he's only callin' 'cause he's drunk and alone.
2. Don't let him in, you'll have to kick him out again.
3. Don't be his friend. You know you're gonna wake up in his bed in the mornin'.

First things first: let yourself feel all of the pain. Mourn the end of the relationship, cry, listen to break-up albums, watch Bridget Jones in your underwear eating ice cream, sleep in until noon. The first couple of weeks might feel line they’ll never end but just take each day as it comes. Be as kind to yourself while you mourn as you would to a close friend going through a break-up. You don’t deserve any less love that you give to others.

 

As time goes on you’ll start to have more good days than bad days. You might notice the first day you don’t break down in tears in the shower, or that you’re not leaving your dishes on the side anymore. 

 

You’ll also have days where you feel like you’re back to square one. You may feel depressed, angry, even apathetic, and back to depressed in an emotional cycle. Let yourself feel it. It will get better. The good days will start to outnumber the bad days. 

Its ok it won’t be the first. you’ll become numb to it in time

Let yourself feel all your emotions. Journal. Cry. Listen to your favorite music. Watch your favorite movies. Talk to your friends. It is painful but with time you will heal. Definitely cut them off, do not try to be friends with them it will only increase the pain and the time it takes to feel better. Focus on you. Workout. Focus on your hobbies, friends and family as much as you can. There are really sad parts about breakups but also new freedom. You will be ok, promise.