So in university I met this girl who was cool and attractive. We started out at as friends but  we started getting more close and started being intimate. I never really wanted it because I didn't want to ruin the friendship, we had our ups and downs some crazy fights and cool love sessions. I found out through all this time she was still texting her ex who she told me that they never really formally broke up and that she and him are just friends however he was in another country. Like everytime we fight it's always about him and why he keeps texting her. We kinda decided to call it quits at the end of university and just become friends. We ****** once more for my birthday but nothing serious. Now he is back in the country she tells me she gonna visit him. Long story short they ****** and started to rekindle but now me and her work at the same place and our apartments are next door. We are still friends but on my end I feel played and she doesn't think she was in the wrong because she says she and him never fight the way we did. I value our friendship but I think there is still some hurt there but we still do almost everything together and I don't know how to create distance when we are so close. Sometimes we play like back in school but then she randomly draws the line and says she has a bf and that I don't respect that which I said but u first initated this ****. Before that guy came back she was sleeping at my apartment because she was scared but as soon she went to visit him she changed basically said they are now in a relationship but before that she never confirmed that, she always said they just talk but I know throughout university they communicated and even sent nudes. I just want to move on from this but she wants us to be close friends which I don't know I can do any longer even though we go to work together and cook together the only thing we don't do together is ****. 
 

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I don't know anything about that. I haven't dated a female since 5th grade 

Run 

It's always reassuring to know straights are just as messy as us gheys

 

You did

but what's done is done. It's clear that while she's moved on you can't get past this. And that's understandable. But your lives are so intertwined with you living and working together. One of you has to go. And you can't really ask her to change her whole life, so it needs to be you that looks for a job elsewhere, move away and build a new life for yourself (ideally to another town where there's 0 chance of you seeing her).

Girl, ditch this girl. She ain't a good lover nor a good friend. 

Should've just kept it as friends and nothing more

Yeah you ruined the friendship and she's lowkey unfaithful 

 

end it and cry about it for a while until you feel better  

I had a very similar experience. You need to cut her off. As Madonna once said, don't go for second best

You have feelings that she doesn't. You're on two separate pages and it's gonna hurt you to keep going on this emotional roller coaster knowing your past. Even if you remain friends it's still not gonna feel good. Block and forget. 

Ditch her...also this is a great example of why you never date or mess around with coworkers. Distance yourself from her in whatever way you can, whether that means moving to a different department at work, getting a new job, getting a new apartment unit, or moving somewhere else.

Her family likes me and her dad calls me his son in law and everytime I try to tell him she is in another relationship she either shuts me down or says I am still family and her best friend and flirts with me. 

12 hours ago, glitch said:

It's always reassuring to know straights are just as messy as us gheys

 

girl if anything, they are messier. gays are at least honest about being hoes, straights will just lie and cheat 

I'm in the middle of getting out of a messy FWB situation. The circumstances are different, but I'm feeling hurt over how things have changed, cause they were great originally. My multiple attempts to resolve the weird feelings haven't really made things better. If anything, its made it worse, since im not enjoying myself as much when we get together. At this point, it's clear he no longer feels the same way he used to about me. 

 

It really sucks, but I know the answer is to prioritize my own well being and create distance. You need to do the same! You need to think only of yourself in this moment, cause it's clear this situationship no longer serves you