I would ask if they can afford to split the bill before going for the meal.

I have a man rn but if I didn't and went to dates, I'd let men pay for the dinner. If I don't like the guy, I'll split the bill for sure. 

 

I don't know why but men always wanna pay for my dates so yeah... 


I think it has to do more with their personality and also your own.

Yes, I want us to be equals so I'm all for it.

Absolutely is a rule, a guy should always pay for the first date. 

I feel like the rule is the person in a greater economic position pays.  If it is more or less equal then you split the bill. I think this is the principle that "men should always pay" originally came from. 

On 4/17/2024 at 4:48 AM, Space Cowboy said:

Split always. The "men should pay for the woman's bill" mindset is stupid.

I'm legit scared for this new generation. My 16 year old niece seriously broke up with her boyfriend because he keeps wanting to split the bill

I would always say something like "I would love to pay for this as I had a wonderful time with you, if you would allow" but if they insisted on splitting, then I would oblige and happily split.  Even with my friends now, I always offer to pay, and if it's with someone I know can easily pay, we'll take turns paying the next time we see each other.  

Edited April 23, 20242 yr by Archetype

On 4/17/2024 at 9:43 AM, dussel_06 said:

I usually pay because I'm a people pleaser. I don't like it when they still insist to pay their part even though I already said that I will pay. I will think they're not interested in me and don't want to feel that they owe me a favor or something.
 

I need to feel needed that's why I pay everything and always do the extra, even to people who treats me like sh*t.

let's go eat