So basically, my boyfriend broke up with me last year, and three weeks later he got a new boyfriend. Okay. I already knew that guy was a problem because he always wanted to go out with us or see us, but yeah, whatever. I wish them Taylor Swift – happiness.m4a.

I kinda freaked out after that and said a lot of things on my Twitter, dragging both of them, because they were constantly sending indirect **** at me whenever they posted things together, or when their friends talked about them being the perfect couple and me being the worst person ever, blah blah blah.

Fast forward a few months after they got together (July), I got a new boyfriend. It didn't last long because it was rushed, and I truly didn't want to commit. I know I'm still mad at life because everything became a mess with my ex, but whatever. When I posted our first picture with the usual "I love you" blah blah blah, my dear ex-boyfriend suddenly found a shirt that I didn't even know was there and sent it to me through my best friend.

The thing is, it was impossible for him to find that shirt on that date because he had moved out of his old apartment months before. And for God's sake, our styles are completely different. He's a gym bro, and I dress like a vocalist from an indie band with 3,000 listeners on Spotify. Even some of his friends that I'm still in touch with said it was absurd and that he was clearly trying to get my attention.

A few months passed, and last month he started to follow–unfollow–follow–unfollow me on TikTok (and I also found a fake account he was using to stalk me there). He did it again two days ago.

Should I send him a message asking what he wants from me? Because I know he didn't break up, but I can't deal with this BS anymore.

Also, he uses his university account to stalk me on Instagram. Every time I post a shirtless photo or a picture with another guy, that account views my story. But when I post normal things from my life, nothing at all.

Sorry for any grammar mistakes or whatever but really I'm so tired of this.

tldr: my ex boyfriend is stalking me and i'm done with his bs, should i message him asking what he want from me?

Edited January 5Jan 5 by Robburro

Yes you should text him to get closure, but bear in mind that he won't reply to your text.

If he didn't reply to your text, it's time for you to move on because he seems like a troll to me who likes to play around with people's feeling Don't give too much thought about it.

i didnt read the whole thing but no

anything but an enthusiastic "yes" is a no.

13 minutes ago, Robburro said:

A few months passed, and last month he started to follow–unfollow–follow–unfollow me on TikTok (and I also found a fake account he was using to stalk me there). He did it again two days ago.

What kind of a psycho? Just block him everywhere and don't talk to him again

i think u should ignore him and show signs u r doing better w/o him.

any form of communication will be an indicator [to him] that u still care abt him.

14 minutes ago, Robburro said:

I broke up with my boyfriend last year, and three weeks later he got a new boyfriend.

^this shows he did not value yall relationship and had a plan b in case things went sour. YOU broke up with HIM, so entertaining any of his bs [he is doing for attention] would be a bad look for u not him.

6 minutes ago, Devin said:

any form of communication will be an indicator [to him] that u still care abt him.

^this shows he did not value yall relationship and had a plan b in case things went sour. YOU broke up with HIM, so entertaining any of his bs [he is doing for attention] would be a bad look for u not him.

actually he broke up with me

english is not my first language so i'm going to change that on the text, thanks

18 minutes ago, Devin said:

i think u should ignore him and show signs u r doing better w/o him.

I think that's the end point here. Every time I show any sign that I'm doing better or at least have moved on he appears with these stupid little things. First with the shirt thing (which i've picked up from my friends and it smells like him, not in a bad way but it is obvious that he used the shirt and sent me) and now with this

I'm tired of saying that I'm tired but jesus christ

Block him everywhere, make your social accounts private, pretend he doesn't exist and move on. He's not worth it and can't make seem to make up his mind

Edited January 5Jan 5 by Mr. Peanutbutter

2 minutes ago, Robburro said:

actually he broke up with me

english is not my first language so i'm going to change that on the text, thanks

oh in that case, u have a valid reason to be upset and process emotions, the plan b part is still an insult imo.

actually this makes him look worse. his actions show he never mourned the relationship yall had and still thinks abt u even when he has a whole new man. i stand by ignoring and showing ur doing better in life w/o him.

No! Ignore him and post a picture with a gym bro that's bigger than him. That will make him spiral.

Yes, get back together

And there's also the fact that everyone I know that still has contact with him (my best friend for example) said that he's getting ugly and fat.. Like, not only my friend but the people from his uni that i still keep in touch and some girl i talk sometimes said that she saw him on the streets and he's very much different

He's used to be very ripped like these Instagram influencers and now he doesn't has this body anymore so maybe this is also a point?

Some of my friends said that his new boyfriend loved to show him as a trophy on instagram, posting photos of him and of them doing sports.

5 minutes ago, Kavish said:

No! Ignore him and post a picture with a gym bro that's bigger than him. That will make him spiral.

I did that with some guy I was dating a few weeks ago and he used the Uni instagram account to stalk me

7 minutes ago, Devin said:

oh in that case, u have a valid reason to be upset and process emotions, the plan b part is still an insult imo.

actually this makes him look worse. his actions show he never mourned the relationship yall had and still thinks abt u even when he has a whole new man. i stand by ignoring and showing ur doing better in life w/o him.

I'm so confused with everything that is happening because I know that he's loving the life the new guy is giving him (richier than me, takes him to several places I can't afford, actually loves crossfit) but why the f*** i'm still on his mind lmao

Block him and stop thinking about him

I guess you enjoy the attention he's giving you. It's so easy to make your account private and block him but you just post stories and think if you will get that seen notification. This whole thing is so juvenile and easy to resolve but it takes two adults to do that.

Edited January 5Jan 5 by M.R.