25 and I can count on my two hands the amount of gays I have met during my entire life 

not yet desperate enough to go dating sites either

I'm in a relationship

12 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said:

I'm in a relationship

Oh really? This must be fresh because last I checked you were complaining about not being able to find a guy

3 minutes ago, Jynx672 said:

Oh really? This must be fresh because last I checked you were complaining about not being able to find a guy

 

Because technically we still didn't break up, I am unhappy in my relationship

 

I'm not

 

1 minute ago, Bloodflowers. said:

 

Because technically we still didn't break up, I am unhappy in my relationship

 

that's sad, huh? have you brought that up with your bf?

 

I'm antisocial & in an endless state of "working on myself"

5 minutes ago, ProudLBS said:

that's sad, huh? have you brought that up with your bf?

 

 

We did in fact talk about our problems last time we saw each other, that's it

 

I kinda want him to break up with me cuz I don't want to be the cruel person who breaks up with him

 

 

Cus I'm gay

14 minutes ago, Buddy said:

in an endless state of "working on myself"

This 100 %. I keep putting dating off because I just don’t feel like the current version of myself should date. I don’t wanna do that to a person

working on myself and focusing on uni is the main priority which is why i only “date” older men (40+) because there’s no pressure to commit with them. they only want a young piece of ass to parade around and i get free meals/experiences for my time

 

Edited August 6, 20224 yr by Dolce Vita

11 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said:

We did in fact talk about our problems last time we saw each other, that's it

 

I kinda want him to break up with me cuz I don't want to be the cruel person who breaks up with him

 

Let me know when you break up and I'll come over with ice cream

 

I think if I was to get a serious boyfriend who ticked all the boxes I would have to invest a lot of time and money that I simply do not want to right now. I feel like straight people are conditioned into dating because they’ve had the luxury of doing it their entire lives, but as a young gay person who’s never been on a date, the idea of seeing different people every week and spending money on a date just for 99% of them to probably not be the one sounds like hell.

4 hours ago, suneclipse121 said:

Well for me it’s a combination of reasons-

 

1. I am very inconsistent with my active dating phases. I would try dating for about a month or two and go on a couple of dates. And when they don’t pan out I pause dating for years at a time.  
 

2. I notice that a lot of the guys I go out with are emotionally unavailable and that usually leads to very uneven power dynamics where someone gives more than the other person.
I recognize that this might be an issue I need to correct because  my taste seems to be trash. Usually people can’t match my energy. Even when I tone it down. I’m a bit more aggressive with weeding these guys out so I don’t waste my time. 

 

3. I believe in monogamy. I don’t compromise on this core value at all. I would compromise on a lot of things but on monogamy their is no room for negotiation. So that usually wipes out a lot of guys who want to just have fun. 
 

I think I know if I put a LOT more effort into dating and really go all in I could maybe find someone who is compatible and shares the same core value that I do. But honestly most of the time I’m just not motivated enough to even try. 

I agree with everything you said and these are my reasons as well. It’s just that I simply can’t be bothered to go that hard and try to date.

I used to be single my whole life. Now I have a boyfriend for 6 months and it's cool, but I don't feel better than before. It's an interesting realization since I always thought a boyfriend and the feeling of being loved is everything I need to feel complete.

Been in a long long one, now i'm homophobic 

When your single that is WHEN you go out every weekend! ive been in long distance relationship for over a year and haven't gone out clubbing or do anything fun for ages because im loyal 

 

Like Stay single guys unless you find a guy that will put your first and do anything for you (and they don't exist) 

1 hour ago, bliaz said:

Cus I'm gay

Because I don't deserve to be happy

A combination of things, but I guess it all boils down to me having social anxiety disorder 

I prefer to have freedom

 

I’m too good 

Because guys in London are shite

I’m married I couldn’t relate 

I don't want anyone in my house.