Space Cowboy

Well not really, here is a thread i made back in january sneakily asking for advice. This was right before we became a couple

He's a fairly well-known onlyfans creator (500k+ followers on twitter), and gay guys often recognize him at clubs or when I post him on my stories I'd actually watched a lot of his content before we met. After I moved to a new city for my master's, he randomly messaged me on grindr "oh wow, you're so hot" and i was shook, but I played it cool and pretended I didn't know who he was. We hooked up, it was spectacular, and six months later we were a couple. He's not the self-centered, superficial porn star type. He's extremely sensitive, emotional and romantic, sometimes even too romantic (like gifting me 50 roses on Valentine's Day type of romantic). He hates the porn industry and its fakeness, and wants to quit as soon as he can afford to. He says he wants to reclaim his sex life and only have sex with the person he loves. I've never had a problem with his job. Sex can be and emotional and beautiful thing between two people in love, but it can also just be fun with no attachment, or in his case, work. For me, sex isn't that important in a relationship tbh (cuddles during a movie >>>>>), but for him it's everything. He gets extremely jealous when I hook up with someone, and it bothers him that I don't feel or show any jealousy when he shoots with another creator. He actually wants me to be jealous of his job. But if I were the jealous type, I never would've considered dating him in the first place. I can date a porn star precisely because I'm not jealous. A few days ago he snapped and said he wants to close the relationship, that his job is irrelevant, and that he'll just switch to solo content. That would hurt him financially: his earnings have dropped a lot over the past year because twitter's algorithm has been penalizing adult creators, and he has no savings because he loves to overspends and has really poor financial habits. I told him I never asked for that, and he said, "Maybe we can open it again in the future, but right now I WANT ROMANCE." I honestly don't see what wanting romance has to do with having an open relationship or the occasional hookup for fun, and he couldn't explain it logically either. He told me I should stop trying to rationalize everything and just try to understand him emotionally sometimes. I barely hook up with anyone, and I love having sex with him, but I'd rather have the freedom and choose not to, than a complete ban. We haven't reached an agreement, and I feel stuck. I love him and don't want to lose him, but I don't want to agree to something that doesn't feel right for me and end up resenting it. For context, he's very new to relationships. He's 30, and I'm his first relationship in 11 years, and the first open one. I'm 25, and he's my fourth serious relationship (my second open one). Everything is new to him, and he struggles a lot with anxious attachment.. How do you find middle ground when one person who's an adult content cretor wants a closed relationship and the other doesn't? Am I being unreasonable? is this a fundamental incompatibility? Is he being immature or am i just being too insensitive? Any advice would help.

Honestly, the mod who gave me 2 warning points and restricted me from posting for this post is pathetic as f*ck. How can this forum be so woke for one things and so anti-progressive for others. You can disagree with me, but how the f*ck standing up for women's rights and being against the commodification of women's bodies for the rich is a banneable offense? People will write essays about capitalism, class inequality and exploitation, then the second surrogacy comes up they suddenly become free-market absolutists. A wealthy person paying a woman to take on pregnancy, childbirth, medical risk and permanent bodily consequences for them is apparently "empowerment" now. Give me a f*cking break. The fact that thinking that babies shouldn't be bought and women's bodies shouldn't be for sale is a bannable offense on this forum is honestly pathetic. Yall can ban me again if you want, i know my morals are in the right place.

Having children is not a right. If she couldn't have children on her own for whatever reason and really wanted to raise a child, she could have adopted instead of paying an impoverished woman, who has no other option to sell her body and serve as her human incubator, making her suffer the physical and psychological pain of pregnancy, only to then have the baby she carried for nine months, her baby, snatched away from her. I swear, surrogacy is one of the darkest examples of capitalism. Now even humans are commodities that people can buy.

Idk i was like 8 yo

Yesterday, my bf invited me to have dinner with some acquaintances, there were around 10 gay men aged 25-30. I tried to be social and talkative, but there was a point where I simply gave up. They were SO loud. Everyone was basically talking-screaming over each other. They spent like an hour gossiping about people. I HATE gossiping. I always have, not even out of respect for the person being talked about, I just find it extremely boring, and my brain automatically disconnects. Then, every conversation somehow was about sex. I don't mind talking about sex at all, but it didn't feel mature. It felt like everyone was constantly trying to make jokes as if they were competing in a drag rae comedy challenge every time they opened their mouths. And they were SCREAMING, literally making pterodactyl noises every time someone said something "gaggy". I tried talking about music because madonna was playing in the background, but no one was interested for more like 3 minutes, so I ended up just talking to my bf. I tried bringing up cinema too, The Oddyssey, Obsession, the X-Men casting and again no one was interested to talk about it about more than a minute, the conversation always went back to "sex, when is the next party, hookups, gossiping, etc" My bf noticed that I was extremely uncomfortable, so he got me out of there. For the record, I'm autistic/asperger, and I've always struggled in social environments. I'm also easily annoyed by loud sounds I can't control. Over the years, I've learned how to mask, deal with groups of people, and "seem normal." At this point, I even feel genuinely comfortable around some people. But yesterday I just couldn't keep up the facade, I was visibly irritated by the time i got out of there. I have lots of gay friends, but I've never really been part of a gay friend group, and yeah, yesterday reminded me why. I feel like a lot of gay people have a different energy when you interact with them one on one. Like, you can actually talk and connect with them, whereas in a group, everything seems to become a joke or turn sexual and turn them extremely loud individuals, as if they feed into each other. I don't know if this is an internalized homophobia thing, or if I'm simply a more low-key person. Idk, has this ever happened to you to some degree? Any advice?

Listening to RoL feels like listening to the cosmos. What a flawless and ethereal album

No. Injust couldnt care less about other people and i hate all forms of gossiping

With Madonna receiving renewed acclaim and reaching yet another creative peak at 67, more than 40 years into her career, can we finally say that she is the most creative and innovative artist of all time, even ahead of Björk, whose output after Vespertine has been mostly subpar (except for Vulnicura) Discuss!

Thoughts?

Vote and discuss!!

Haven't listened to it yer, but streets are saying this is better than part one, can anyone confirm?

She is and it's not even close. Her debut album is the best-selling album of all time in Asia and she has sold over 50 million records throughout her career. She is one of the most acclaimed, influential, and commercially successful japanese artists ever. You are just racist and incapable of recognizing impact unless it comes packaged in english and filtered through white western lens. Embarrasing

The fact that you reduced one of the most legendary and acclaimed artists of all time to a "Charlie Puth collaborator" shows extreme ignorance and racism. Get educated

And its used correctly here btw