Just now, Mastamaind said:

I wanna add, entertainment and distractions do work. If you can focus on them being healing content, like psychological content, you're helping yourself 2x.

 

I recommend this popular psychology YouTube channel if you don't already know it:

 

 

Thank you. I also went for this strategy but unfortunately, it didn't work on my side. The as*hole was still there plaguing my thoughts but I genuinely appreciate just at least hearing from voices who have been where I was before. 

Witchcraft 

1 hour ago, kweenofxanax said:

I'm finally embracing the heartbreak. But also can't help but think about him in the process of it.

 

how do I, in the healthiest way possible, move on and forget him and embrace a new version of myself that no longer needs him? 

I know in my heart that there's more to come, greater things to go through, happier times to be a part of. But he somehow makes his way into my thoughts and it sucks. 
 

Help me!

You have to wait babe.

It took me more than 1,5 year to move on and during that time it seemed like I'll be feeling this way forever.

Now I don't think about him at all !

 

 

EDIT. Wow that was not funny !!

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2 minutes ago, MonsterNavy said:

you'll just have to wing it I guess. i've asked tons of people before on how to do it and I followed everything they said but still didn't work

It felt like the end of the world for me  I was young and dumb and today the man doesn't even cross my mind like at all and i've met countless hotter (and better men after him)

feel all your feelings. don't try to forget about it or whatever. you'll get tired of it eventually and one day you'll wake up and say okay enough I deserve better and I dont wanna feel sad forever

 

it sucks. sending you love bb 

 

 

 

Aaah exactly what I needed to hear. From a navy like me too 💀

Well from there, this is what I'll say:

I know that the first few weeks will hurt

maybe the next few weeks after

..all I know is that I can and will be a better person after all of that.

I'm great, amazing, absolutely ******* insanely genius. Just waiting on someone to get on my page <3

1 minute ago, kweenofxanax said:

Thank you. I also went for this strategy but unfortunately, it didn't work on my side. The as*hole was still there plaguing my thoughts but I genuinely appreciate just at least hearing from voices who have been where I was before. 

I get you, it's only natural.

 

However, don't give up on this strategy just because it didn't work immediately, if you have free time to do it you got nothing to lose. Look at it as a treatment for a chronic illness. You may not see the results overnight, but if you maintain the treatment you'll start seeing results eventually.

1 hour ago, kweenofxanax said:

I'm finally embracing the heartbreak. But also can't help but think about him in the process of it.

 

how do I, in the healthiest way possible, move on and forget him and embrace a new version of myself that no longer needs him? 

I know in my heart that there's more to come, greater things to go through, happier times to be a part of. But he somehow makes his way into my thoughts and it sucks. 
 

Help me!

There is no such a thing like healthiest way possible. Everyone if different and react and deals with sadness grief and trauma differently.

 

I don’t know how old you are but just enjoy your life, take it as it is and your heart will heal with scaring but also experience that will help you later in your life. Nothing happens with no reason. You will be fine. Be strong.

I shared my experience and you made fun of me but that’s ok, maybe you’re just confused after your break up 

1 minute ago, Winged said:

There is no such a thing like healthiest way possible. Everyone if different and react and deals with sadness grief and trauma differently.

 

I don’t know how old you are but just enjoy your life, take it as it is and your heart will heal with scaring but also experience that will help you later in your life. Nothing happens with no reason. You will be fine. Be strong.

Can I ask if age matters that much? I'm pretty old (mid 20s) but you know. I'm also taking these things as best as I can. I gave away my V card and kissed a guy super late but I also don't mind my age honestly 

3 minutes ago, the70s said:

I shared my experience and you made fun of me but that’s ok, maybe you’re just confused after your break up 

I made fun of you?!

Just now, kweenofxanax said:

I made fun of you?!

I could never do that and if I did, it was never intentional. I'm extremely sorry, I would never do that

1 minute ago, kweenofxanax said:

I made fun of you?!

You reacted hahaha I thought you laughed at my experience with a break up 

Just now, the70s said:

You reacted hahaha I thought you laughed at my experience with a break up 

Which post did I react pls tell me.

None of my actions were ever made to make fun of anyone. If it ever did, I'm sorry and let me try to fix whatever BS I did 

Just now, kweenofxanax said:

Which post did I react pls tell me.

None of my actions were ever made to make fun of anyone. If it ever did, I'm sorry and let me try to fix whatever BS I did 

Oh god I see it now. I sent a funny reaction

5 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said:

Can I ask if age matters that much? I'm pretty old (mid 20s) but you know. I'm also taking these things as best as I can. I gave away my V card and kissed a guy super late but I also don't mind my age honestly 

It does matter usually it’s more about experience the older you get the less you care about certain things 

1) Time

2) Not putting yourself in the same situation again (makes you start over)

Also I've never been able to FULLY move on from people. There's always some love and yearning I'll have left and thats ok

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Just now, kweenofxanax said:

Oh god I see it now. I sent a funny reaction

I just wanted to send a heart to say that I understand. But I somehow went there

Just now, kweenofxanax said:

I just wanted to send a heart to say that I understand. But I somehow went there

Ooop it's okay ! I'm sorry I jumped on you, I thought you laughed at my trauma. 

They were a loser and a weirdo, and the mirage just broke one day, and I realised I have nothing to be sad about. It did take years of obsessing, crying, and pain, but eventually, I completely got over it. I even bumped into him once after years and felt nothing. I know it's cliché to say, but I genuinely thought I would never get over him and could not imagine a world where I would be happy again. But it finally came; it just takes time.

Just now, the70s said:

Ooop it's okay ! I'm sorry I jumped on you, I thought you laughed at my trauma. 

Never. Honestly, who am I to make fun of anyone else's hurt when I'm also going through a similar thing. Thanks for understanding and I hope we're good from here on.

1 minute ago, BOOMBAYAH said:

They were a loser and a weirdo, and the mirage just broke one day, and I realised I have nothing to be sad about. It did take years of obsessing, crying, and pain, but eventually, I completely got over it. I even bumped into him once after years and felt nothing. I know it's cliché to say, but I genuinely thought I would never get over him and could not imagine a world where I would be happy again. But it finally came; it just takes time.

Thank you for reminding me that my delusional self is okay haha. One guy in the equation won't matter in the end, I just need to bloody love myself!!!!

23 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said:

Can I ask if age matters that much? I'm pretty old (mid 20s) but you know. I'm also taking these things as best as I can. I gave away my V card and kissed a guy super late but I also don't mind my age honestly 

That's old? lol

 

Anyways, I think they might refer to as you get older, your emotional experiences may have more "backbone" (depending on how you grow, your experiences ofc). You're more realized, you know who you are, what makes you happy, sad, angry, anxious, confused, etc. Also, you have more established ideals and beliefs, so your experiences might affect you differently in intensity and lasting impact.

 

Of course, this is isn't necessarily tied with age, as a 53-year-old person may have the emotional maturity of a 26-year-old and a 19-year-old the one of a 32-year-old for example, but I think that's why they mentioned it.

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21 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said:

Never. Honestly, who am I to make fun of anyone else's hurt when I'm also going through a similar thing. Thanks for understanding and I hope we're good from here on.

Absolutely ! I hope you'll move on soon, as others said it takes time but I promise it will happen

15 minutes ago, the70s said:

Absolutely ! I hope you'll move on soon, as others said it takes time but I promise it will happen

 

34 minutes ago, Mastamaind said:

That's old? lol

 

Anyways, I think they might refer to as you get older, your emotional experiences may have more "backbone" (depending on how you grow, your experiences ofc). You're more realized, you know who you are, what makes you happy, sad, angry, anxious, confused, etc. Also, you have more established ideals and beliefs, so your experiences might affect you differently in intensity and lasting impact.

 

Of course, this is isn't necessarily tied with age, as a 53-year-old person may have the emotional maturity of a 26-year-old and a 19-year-old the one of a 32-year-old for example, but I think that's why they mentioned it.

Thank you so much for being understanding with my messiness. You're f^cking amazing!!!

You ever have a date. And think everything was great? But he said "let's just be friends". So what do I do? 
 

Do I just deal with it? Do I second guess what I said? What I did? Like am I ugly as hell? Ughhhhh

Met someone new most break ups tbh. Always filled the hole with a new person.

 

 

But after my last break I was so done with dating so I filled the hole with my favourite artist instead.

 

Honestly just keep busy, meet new people. It's very hard I know that but yeah not exactly meeting a new person to date but someone to just hang and get to know does help a lot.