discussion POC who strictly date whites are pretty annoying

[SmittenCake]

On 10/29/2024 at 1:32 AM, Cherryland said:

Your Vietnamese friend just sounds like he likes alt chicks   and im an alt chick looking for a cute Asian boyfriend  

 

but people have a perf tbh.  Like I feel sad when Asians only want to date there own when I'm like please notice me

Alt chicken who are white

 

On 10/29/2024 at 4:24 AM, Bosque said:

How about we let everyone date who they want to?

You didn't read my OP

[Joyride]

taste the rainbow taste my skittles

[RunUpDoneUp]

As a black man, I've experienced all spectrums of ANNOYING and the common thread is: lonely, thirsty people are the problem.

 

You're seeing the classic correlation - causation problem, the interracial dating isn't the cause, the daters are. People who are vocal about what they like tend to be more sure and proud and therefore can overshare or be stubborn about their interests. People who wanna seem different or whom were shamed or disrespected for their interests feel like they gotta take up a sword and be a proud champion or something too.

 

It's a web of mess but it's always the people. Annoying species.

[iHype.]

The issue is they tend to clearly have self-hate issues regarding their race.  As you said, interracial dating can be fine but the ones who are rather 'extreme' in their approach:  minorities who will ONLY date white men come off as essentially saying their own race is unattractive/undesirable. This also means they seek validation from proximity to whiteness.

 

It is a nuanced discussion because if you criticize those specific instances, to some people at surface level you come off as criticizing anyone for interracial dating period. However, I think it relatively important to really think about what has lead to someone believing that their own racial background is entirely unattractive/undesirable and to not instead just normalize that process as 'their harmless preference'. 

 

Were they bullied for their race/ethnic looks when growing up? Did the media they consume place whiteness as the most desirable trait? Were they ashamed of their cultural background when around friends of other races? This tends to be stuff that for many shapes why they find their own race unattractive.