SmittenCake Posted October 28 Posted October 28 I'll start off by saying that interracial dating is actually a great thing. I'm not a nazi or those fake woke twitter tards however some people do too much. To sum it up: I have a friend (he's Vietnamese) and his main preference is white. He likes white women with tattoo's and look like goth baddies. But he also likes women who are traditional. He wants a traditional woman. Anytime he dates a white woman he gets annoyed because when he takes em' out to eat, they choose to eat American food at a traditional Viet restaurant. He also gets annoyed when they don't have any trad qualities. How are you supposed to find anyone with trad qualities if your preference is strictly white / goth / baddie ???? he says he doesn't find ANY type of Asian women attractive because "they're all snobs" and he's just not into Black or Hispanic I'm sometimes on the phone with him for 2+ hours listening to him rant. Its starting to lowkey give incel. Btu this isn't unique to straight people bc tons of LGBT people are too hung up on wanting a white S/O but get upset when their S/O is nothing how they want them to be. I dunno. Try maybe dating someone who has a similar background to you!? 14
Katamari Posted October 28 Posted October 28 It's the fact they like to shout from the clouds that they only date whites for that annoys me like no one actually cares they wear it like a badge of honor 3 9
Rotunda Posted October 28 Posted October 28 (edited) I used to find them annoying then I realized they're saving other people of their race from having to deal with their internalized race issues. Also @SmittenCake - I've started telling people that if they can't find their ideal type they either need to be ok being alone until they do, or alter their preferences. It's nipped a lot of those convos in the bud. Edited October 28 by Rotunda 10
CherieMoon Posted October 28 Posted October 28 This is very annoying indeed lol. I don't know how you put up with someone like that. White women are gonna be white no matter how many tattoos and piercing they have. 3
Popular Post Rotunda Posted October 28 Popular Post Posted October 28 Just now, NewStanner said: It's none of your business who are other people dating tho Are you illiterate or did you ignore the part where OP was talking about their friend spending hours making it their business? 12 1 3 1
Gorjesspazze9 Posted October 28 Posted October 28 (edited) They are annoying, but my brother was the same way. So I can't even judge. Then married her and is happy. Lol ill take anyone at this point 😭 #ForeverAlone Edited October 28 by Gorjesspazze9 1
Saintlor Posted October 28 Posted October 28 15 minutes ago, SmittenCake said: I'm sometimes on the phone with him for 2+ hours listening to him rant. Why? Just don't participate
SmittenCake Posted October 28 Author Posted October 28 Just now, Saintlor said: Why? Just don't participate Because I am a friend. And he goes on and on and on and on. And I listen. Because I am good person. 3 1
Bussea Posted October 28 Posted October 28 (edited) Anyone who solely only date white people are annoying but POC who do this make my ass itch. ESPECIALLY when they're constantly putting down their own race and the white person let's them + are a bit racist them damn selves I personally don't care enough to argue with people anymore about racial preferences/exclusions anymore bc at the end of the day date who you want, but some ppl are just v weird about it Edited October 28 by Bussea 12 2
Letters From Adi Posted October 28 Posted October 28 Dating within your community (ethnicity, I mean) is fine because of cultural reasons but chasing after people based on their skin color is very problematic. It gives identity crisis and self hate. 4
Pavement Princess Posted October 28 Posted October 28 IDK dating preferences are a touchy subject because realistically everyone should seek what they're genuinely attracted to, I just think one should develop a bit of tact and keep it to themselves! My rule of thumb is unless you're in my bed, my business is not yours. 12
karron0624 Posted October 28 Posted October 28 Idk. There is a difference between racism and preference, and then their is fetish. Your freind is confusing fetish with preference. He fetishized white goth women, but white goth women and traditional women is an oxymoron so your friend is just ******* stupid. 8
David_Greengrass97 Posted October 28 Posted October 28 Me, a Vietnamese twink dating a white Englishman. I better find a hole to hide 🙈 2
GentleEarthquake Posted October 28 Posted October 28 He's delusional, it's like saying you want meat but make it vegan lol 1
itshyolee Posted October 28 Posted October 28 4 minutes ago, SmittenCake said: he says he doesn't find ANY type of Asian women attractive because "they're all snobs" and he's just not into Black or Hispanic This definitely reeks of self hate and him putting anything that's white on a pedestal, which is a pattern that I notice from many POCs who date interracially. Sad. 4
Jotham Posted October 28 Posted October 28 7 minutes ago, Bussea said: Anyone who solely only date white people are annoying but POC who do this make my ass itch. ESPECIALLY when they're constantly putting down their own race and the white person let's them + are a bit racist them damn selves I personally don't care enough to argue with people anymore about racial preferences/exclusions anymore bc at the end of the day date who you want, but some ppl are just v weird about it This. There is a gay Asian content creator who went semi-viral for this a couple years ago. He made a TikTok video about how he went to a party for gay men where him and his friend were the only Asian men and everyone else was white, and that the white men kept ignoring him and his friend. He got called out by people in the comments because they noticed that he himself only ever hangs out with white gays. 7
Devin Posted October 28 Posted October 28 interracial dating is cool but intentionally dating outside ur race is internalized hate or fetishization. 1
SmittenCake Posted October 28 Author Posted October 28 (edited) 4 minutes ago, NewStanner said: You didn't, but you also just said that some POC people's preferences are annoying so... I agree, what he said is really shallow and gross, but generalizing other POC people based on one of your friends ain't a good look, sis The POC's preferences that I find annoying are the one's who want want want want want from White people to be exactly like the family (heritage/culture/identity/etc) on their side and get disappointed when they are not. That's what I find annoying. Nothing else. Edited October 28 by SmittenCake
Sheep Posted October 28 Posted October 28 16 minutes ago, Gorjesspazze9 said: #ForeverAlone Taking Forever 1 a bit seriously I see.... 7
Smarticle Posted October 28 Posted October 28 How do yall date white people and know that they aren't trying to fetishize u. I really wanna know that 2
Bussea Posted October 28 Posted October 28 Just now, Smarticle said: How do yall date white people and know that they aren't trying to fetishize u. I really wanna know that the same way i date u and you have my name in your phone as "bbc baby 🙈❤️🧔🏿♂️" 10
Gorjesspazze9 Posted October 28 Posted October 28 1 minute ago, Sheep said: Taking Forever 1 a bit seriously I see.... My first Love, My Angels, My Sunshine 1
Bussea Posted October 28 Posted October 28 6 minutes ago, Jotham said: This. There is a gay Asian content creator who went semi-viral for this a couple years ago. He made a TikTok video about how he went to a party for gay men where him and his friend were the only Asian men and everyone else was white, and that the white men kept ignoring him and his friend. He got called out by people in the comments because they noticed that he himself only ever hangs out with white gays. omg was it that one that went viral for shaving his boochie cat on youtube
Saintlor Posted October 28 Posted October 28 White people who strictly date Asians are just as annoying 4
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