discussion Am I the Bad Guy.mp3 in the fight I'm currently having with my parents?

[John Slayne]

20 hours ago, YourFavoriteWeapon said:

It's just so weird like I literally just turned 24, I'm not a child and if my boyfriend wants me to visit him for his birthday and is going to pay for everything, I don't see the problem with me going there for a few days?

obviously there is a lot to your story and we could debate all the little details and contexts you typed out but at the end of the day it kinda all boils down to this... you are grown. if your parents don't like that too bad. 

 

i hope your new job makes you financially stable so you are able to move.

[Janet]

They just need to get used to you doing your own thing. I know exactly how suffocating and difficult feels having a mother like that.   

 

 

[YourFavoriteWeapon]

2 hours ago, John Slayne said:

obviously there is a lot to your story and we could debate all the little details and contexts you typed out but at the end of the day it kinda all boils down to this... you are grown. if your parents don't like that too bad. 

 

i hope your new job makes you financially stable so you are able to move.

I do too. It's a teaching position and I'll be making way more than I did in previous jobs so I'm going to save up as much as possible and try to move as far away as possible, preferably to the south. 

[Homebrand]

I don't think you're in the wrong no, but if I had to be objective and look at it from your parents perspective

 

Why are you always being flown out to see him and could he not make the trip to come visit you instead? Your parents are probably feeling like you/him aren't interested or wanting to involve them in your relationship, yet you always get the opportunity to see his family and speak of them in high regard, so I kind of understand the sentiment of jealousy

 

Second, your primary source of happiness shouldn't come from your relationship or partner, it's great that your happy though, but if things don't work out then you're back to square one (or worse) with your mental health, so I guess they're probably concerned in that kind of sense.