discussion Muscular gays. Could you date a guy with no (or little) definition?

[DeadInside]

1 hour ago, What_A_Mess said:

No. I work hard for my body. Why would I settle for guys who are fat/emaciated/don’t look after themselves. 

The out of shapes downvoting u 

[Heirloom]

No fats. No femmes. No spices.

[DoubleRainbow!]

Wow, this thread confirms most gays are trash 

[madonnas]

I love that my bf is not really into lifting / working out bc it keeps me grounded.  
 

so yes. 

[GeeDuval]

Don’t they usually go for twinks that look like detox and trinity the tuck, full of Botox cause they’re scared of aging or winkles ?

 

bye 

[Dante Silva]

Being a natural mesomorph I consider myself above those who unlike me, are committed to the gym who don’t possess that genetic advantage. I have always enjoyed geeks and jocks, but would never lick a geek.

[alexrex]

Why is gay world so shallow? 

 

In the sha ah shallow, in the shala shalalalallow 

[John Slayne]

a twink here, currently in a relationship with a guy who works out and is strong, but not that defined. it doesn't bother me, i think he's attractive the way he is. i think looks are more important for hookups, a serious relationship is more about personality than looks. a guy that is funny, interested, and treats you right >>>>>> 

[TheCheshireCat]

Side ramble: I've seen a few muscle gays recently have meltdowns on twitter because Dad Bods are becoming more desirable and their crown is ever so slightly threatened, which has been very telling. Some interesting social psychology going on there, like they need to feel like they are better, not for themselves and their health but they literally need to feel like they are above others and can demand that of their sexual partners in order to feel like all that chicken breast and juicing was worth it. I'm personally not into guys who spend a ton of time "perfecting" their bodies because it comes off as a very feminine trait and I tend to be attracted to guys who just live a decently healthy lifestyle and don't stress about their bodies.

[John Slayne]

16 minutes ago, TheCheshireCat said:

Side ramble: I've seen a few muscle gays recently have meltdowns on twitter because Dad Bods are becoming more desirable and their crown is ever so slightly threatened, which has been very telling. Some interesting social psychology going on there, like they need to feel like they are better, not for themselves and their health but they literally need to feel like they are above others and can demand that of their sexual partners in order to feel like all that chicken breast and juicing was worth it. I'm personally not into guys who spend a ton of time "perfecting" their bodies because it comes off as a very feminine trait and I tend to be attracted to guys who just live a decently healthy lifestyle and don't stress about their bodies.

the gay guy body fascism is such an interesting social phenomenon to study. of course there's nothing wrong with working out, being active, taking care of your body, or even wanting to look attractive, but the extremes to which gays take it to and the way they attach their own and other people's worth to it is so fascinating.

[getback]

I doubt all the guys saying yes are being truthful 

most muscular gays literally only hang out with other muscular gays (maybe with some bears mixed in for "diversity")

 

[TheCheshireCat]

29 minutes ago, John Slayne said:

the gay guy body fascism is such an interesting social phenomenon to study. of course there's nothing wrong with working out, being active, taking care of your body, or even wanting to look attractive, but the extremes to which gays take it to and the way they attach their own and other people's worth to it is so fascinating.

I know a straight guy like that too, he is obsessed with getting his body to be perfect and when he hears/sees that some beautiful women prefer slightly chubby guys or twinkish built guys he cannot accept it. He starts saying that is wrong, they are clearly lying or there is something wrong with those women, they are wrong. (To be fair I'm pretty sure he is a little autistic lol)

[Karla Cabello]

men are so stupid 

[Carla Rosón]

95% wouldn't (unless they have money) lbr

[John Slayne]

2 minutes ago, TheCheshireCat said:

I know a straight guy like that too, he is obsessed with getting his body to be perfect and when he hears/sees that some beautiful women prefer slightly chubby guys or twinkish built guys he cannot accept it. He starts saying that is wrong, they are clearly lying or there is something wrong with those women, they are wrong. (To be fair I'm pretty sure he is a little autistic lol)

oh it definitely exists among other demographics (incels are notoriously obsessed with facial/body aesthetics), but i think on average gay guys are a lot more prone to fall into this. there's several reasons, but i think a part of it is the psychological need to feel equal/superior to your peers. we as gays grow up in a society that tells us that we are lesser than our straight counterparts, so many of us feel the drive to be 'better than average' in some ways - some gays channel this into their careers, while others obsessively work out to prove a point.

 

it also works as a defense mechanism against othering - if i can work out and look big/strong/muscular/straight-passing, i don't need to concern myself with homophobia as it doesn't apply to me, and in its uglier version this can also manifest as internalised homophobia and femme-shaming. 'yes i am gay, but not like those annoying effeminate gays, unlike them i am normal!'. it's the theory of freaks - every marginalised person has an instinctive desire to distance themselves from more marginalised people in their category to deflect the focus from themselves. it's the reason why straight-passing gays look down on fems, and why passing trans people look down on non-binary and non-passing trans people. it's a desperate effort to fit in with the oppressor in order to avoid persecution by throwing others like you under the bus.

[glitch]

23 minutes ago, TheCheshireCat said:

I know a straight guy like that too, he is obsessed with getting his body to be perfect 

It's so concerning the way some guys talk about their bodies like they're engineering projects. When people get into the minutiae of wanting the tiniest bit of extra definition in the head of their left bicep or something, things have gone too far. 

[ugo]

Nope, it's not sexually attractive to

[Tropez]

Wow didn’t know there were so many muscular guys on Atrl. Some people are lying.  

[St. Charles]

4 minutes ago, Tropez said:

Wow didn’t know there were so many muscular guys on Atrl. Some people are lying.  

Yeah probably only like 10% or less gays would be considered muscular. I think a lot of people just have low body fat and associate visible abs with being muscular.

[Into The Void]

Now I know some of u r actually overweight like me. 

[Last Boy on Earth]

I’m muscular and I **** skinnys twinks bears otters etc etc.. as long as its not too obese or too skinny .

 

I don’t date but if I did I wouldn’t like to date a gym rat obsessed with his body. As long as they take care of themselves it’s fine for me 

Edited November 24, 2023 by Last Boy on Earth

[JoeAg]

I’m toned and exercise at least 4 times a week. yes, I absolutely could 

[katara]

4 hours ago, Last Boy on Earth said:

I **** skinnys twinks bears otters etc etc.. as long as its not too obese or too skinny .

 

I don’t date but if I did I wouldn’t like to date a gym rat obsessed with his body. As long as they take care of themselves it’s fine for me 

Exactly the same on all points 

[Last Boy on Earth]

10 hours ago, Tropez said:

Wow didn’t know there were so many muscular guys on Atrl. Some people are lying.  

You can go to Post Your Pics thread and see there’s actually a lot of muscular/toned atrlers . We live in a gay dictatorship, gone are the days where people permanently online fighting for popstars were fem twinks or overweight sedentary, most of us are lifting weights now 😮‍💨

Edited November 24, 2023 by Last Boy on Earth

[Kern]

14 hours ago, getback said:

I doubt all the guys saying yes are being truthful 

most muscular gays literally only hang out with other muscular gays (maybe with some bears mixed in for "diversity")

 

For real tho, this thread is full of bs and out of (shapes) touch.