discussion Muscular gays. Could you date a guy with no (or little) definition?

[BrentB]

So this is for my gym rats in hera. Could you date a guy who has no (or little) definition? Would you expect your bf/hubby to have the same amount of definition that you have or are you okay with your bf/hubby not having a six pack, arms or legs? 

 

I'm not super buff or vain so I'm not particularly choosy when it comes to looks. However, I'ma NEED my future boothang to either have a naturally toned legs (nothing too grotesque though) or attend some leg day appointments I set up tbh.

[Gladiator]

yes

[HRHCOLLECTION]

I like bears

[Bloodflowers.]

Yes

[ontherocks]

No

[Material Girl]

twinks > 

[Janet]

1 minute ago, Material Girl said:

twinks > 

Size differences >

 

[What_A_Mess]

No. I work hard for my body. Why would I settle for guys who are fat/emaciated/don’t look after themselves. 

[glitch]

I'm not massive, but I've got a pretty lean/athletic build and have been going to the gym for a while. I don't really care about muscles on guys I date though. I tend to go for slimmer guys and men with an average build, but I kinda got over the muscle obsession when I was like 21

Edited November 23, 2023 by glitch

[Peroxide]

I wouldn't say I'm muscular but I'm probably more toned than the average 29 year old.

 

When looking for a romantic partner - it's important to keep in mind beauty and youth aren't forever

 

One day, you're going to be old, wrinkly and perhaps a little overweight... that's just life. Putting so much emphasis on how chiseled someone is can only work against you if your goal is to find a partner.

 

You might meet someone who's super toned... and then life happens, 5 years later, he's gained weight... what do you do then?

Edited November 23, 2023 by Peroxide

[The Man Who]

38 minutes ago, BrentB said:

or attend some leg day appointments I set up tbh.

[CBC]

nope, if the veins aint poppin i aint toppin 

[byzantium]

I’m not a body builder, more lean and toned like an athlete.  Muscle definition is not something that really I look for, but I tend to like people who are active and that naturally tends to be people in better shape. 

[KatyPrismSpirit]

whats this weird obsession in the gay dating world with only desiring / dating muscular and slim people. its so extremely superficial  Like are you not ashamed if you actually think being emaciated equals not looking after yourself? Pure delusion. And i say this as a person on the skinnier side.

18 minutes ago, What_A_Mess said:

No. I work hard for my body. Why would I settle for guys who are fat/emaciated/don’t look after themselves. 

 

[KKW]

5 minutes ago, houdini said:

whats this weird obsession in the gay dating world with only desiring / dating muscular and slim people. its so extremely superficial  

Dating is inherently superficial tbf

[Alongoria13]

I know in the end it won't matter since we all age but I like people who at least keep a healthy lifestyle.

[Revolution]

if he has a nice butt, then yes

 

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Edited November 23, 2023 by Revolution

[Cain]

I’m toned but I prefer guys who are buff, not in a veiny kind of sense (😷) but as in someone who has muscles and also a  bit of fat on top of that

[HardBambi]

Absolutely. I like normal upper body but great legs. 

[Gaia]

I don’t need to date someone else muscular, but I probably wouldn’t date a fat or obese guy realistically. I’m not at all attracted to it. Now a hairy dad bod is IT when I say fat I mean genuinely and not some slightly protruding stomach 

[ScorpiosGroove]

19 minutes ago, Revolution said:

if he has a nice butt, then yes

 

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not the yummy (and horny) butt exposé being followed by a user saying they are into fart smelling and warning us of the dangerous "butts to scat pipeline" 

[Khal]

 

 

Jk

 

 

[Trent W]

I’m muscular, not in an extreme way but build up

 

I’m always mostly interested in guys with a norm body

 

The masculine attitude attracts me more sometimes then the physical.

[Nightingale]

No. I love big arms and a big chest way too much. They don’t necessarily need to have definition or abs. I generally like a muscle bear or muscle dad bod more

[What_A_Mess]

1 hour ago, houdini said:

whats this weird obsession in the gay dating world with only desiring / dating muscular and slim people. its so extremely superficial  Like are you not ashamed if you actually think being emaciated equals not looking after yourself? Pure delusion. And i say this as a person on the skinnier side.

 

Would you date a guy that looks emaciated/fat/doesn’t look after themselves? 

Edited November 23, 2023 by What_A_Mess