discussion Is it wrong to not be attracted to feminine guys?

[LatinFreak]

No. 

[dirrtydiana]

No but does that mean youre femme?

[Before Today]

It isn't wrong. How (if) you constantly say it out loud in a degrading way however most likely is. Personally, I'm attracted to guys who have both qualities tbh. I'm not attracted to those super masculine guys.

[Ascareus Kratos]

No dearr...

 

[Phaunzie]

No, but just because someone is masc doesn't mean they are not over the top, have a deep voice or have more than a 2 pack of abs.

[FakeInsider]

On 5/25/2023 at 7:00 AM, swissman said:

It's not "wrong" but I think what you said about liking masculine guys so you can enjoy a chill dinner without getting too much attention points to the issue. So often, liking "masculine" men over "feminine" men is rooted in a desire for what has been socially accepted as "normal". The closer to what has been arbitrarily established as "correct", the more we identify that thing as "good" or "valuable", and the inverse is true. It becomes less about the specifics of masculinity / femininity and more about how it makes you feel relative to the social conditioning we have all received that puts masculine men well above feminine men in terms of acceptance, praise and desire. In turn, feminine men get ridiculed and excluded.

 

While it may be that anyone may have a natural preference for the masculine man, it also is hard to believe that everyone would have come to this exact, same preference that magically aligns to the exact type of masculinity that has been engrained in us since we were kids through books, tv shows, films, and the many ways we communicate and proliferate this prejudice on a daily basis amongst one another.

 

So while it's not "wrong", but I think it's important that we all look at and acknowledge where biases are and where they are coming from and working as much as we can do undo them, rather than uphold them. It cannot be pure coincidence that society as a whole feels a certain way, because if that were the case we would not have changing or competing ideals of proper masculinity, nor different forms of it depending on the culture. I have little doubt that if feminine men were given the treatment masculine men were, and the inverse shame and taunting applied to masculine men, society and individuals would feel and act towards them much differently.

 

 

Great post

[JoeAg]

no tbh

 

personally, I don't mind it. but then again I really just don't have just ONE type (even though guys with long hair are almost always instantly attractive to me, pretty much no exceptions lol) but I see beauty in all types of ppl yaaa

[Exzime.]

On 5/25/2023 at 6:27 PM, MotoPapi said:

 not an over the top personality so we can enjoy a chill dinner at a restaurant without attracting too much attention. 

"not over the top personality"

 

has it occured to you that they're just being themselves? you seem to have an internalized issue.

[Cheers]

no but they sure will get mad @ you on grindr 

[RunUpDoneUp]

On 5/25/2023 at 7:27 AM, MotoPapi said:

 and not an over the top personality so we can enjoy a chill dinner at a restaurant without attracting too much attention. 
 

 

Right there. It's always right there with you people.

 

You being incognito is not a problem for femme people, please stop acting like your desire to assimilate has anything to do with anyone but yourselves.

 

Gay men who like masculine gay men are fine but it's always you lot, who go out of your way to slander a group because you feel they invalidate your comfort. That's the issue I see feminine gay men rightfully call out and find offensive. It's always clear as day which gay man is which and why they do what they do.

[Kuromi]

Nope, but people lose their minds if you have a preference, which is pretty damn stupid.