base talk Why is "poppers gays" a drag?

[Dear Reader]

Some of them are pick-me gays that want to cater to the straights for sympathy points but they'll still hate us the same at the end of the day. I honestly believe a lot of straight people still see us as inferior to them and a lot of gay men are turning conservative to "fall into the norm". As other users have stated, it also falls into misogyny and internalized homophobia. 

[tost1]

12 minutes ago, Breakdown said:

neither being promiscuous nor taking drugs is the flex some of y'all think it is. where are the morals? where's the dignity. i have no respect for it, sorry not sorry. and the whole concept about poppers is just plain disgusting. i have to vomit.

There's absolutely nothing morally wrong with enjoying sex and/or drugs. People can do whatever they want with their bodies and they're not forcing you to do the same.

Edited July 31 by tost1

[The7thStranger]

It's a homophobic way of **** shaming other gay men for being comfortable with their sexuality.

[SweetOreosOfHeaven]

15 minutes ago, Breakdown said:

neither being promiscuous nor taking drugs is the flex some of y'all think it is. where are the morals? where's the dignity. i have no respect for it, sorry not sorry. and the whole concept about poppers is just plain disgusting. i have to vomit.

"Niall's Cumrag"

[sunbathinganimal]

3 minutes ago, SweetOreosOfHeaven said:

"Niall's Cumrag"

i have to vomit

 

[Robyn.]

Do whatever you want, but why am I seeing "internalized homophobia" or "shaming gay man for their sexuality" though?  

 

What is the connexion between using poppers and your gayness, be so serious right now 

[Dear Reader]

1 minute ago, Robyn. said:

Do whatever you want, but why am I seeing "internalized homophobia" or "shaming gay man for their sexuality" though?  

 

What is the connexion between using poppers and your gayness, be so serious right now 

Did you read the thread title or OP? 

[SweetOreosOfHeaven]

3 minutes ago, Robyn. said:

Do whatever you want, but why am I seeing "internalized homophobia" or "shaming gay man for their sexuality" though?  

 

What is the connexion between using poppers and your gayness, be so serious right now 

That's like claiming mocking men for being effeminate has nothing to do with homophobia because gay men aren't necessarily effeminate. Don't be so naive.

Discrimination is always trying to mask itself as really being about something else. It's not.

Edited July 31 by SweetOreosOfHeaven

[glitch]

1 minute ago, Robyn. said:

Do whatever you want, but why am I seeing "internalized homophobia" or "shaming gay man for their sexuality" though?  

 

What is the connexion between using poppers and your gayness, be so serious right now 

It's that people are immediately called "poppers gays" for listening to certain music which feels a bit like internalised homophobia. It almost sounds a bit like "ugh basic gays with their basic gay taste".

[Robyn.]

1 minute ago, SweetOreosOfHeaven said:

That's like claiming moking men for being effeminate has nothing to do with homophobia because gay men aren't necessarily effeminate. Don't be so naive.

What?  

 

Gay men who are effeminate are generally naturally effeminate. Using poppers is not really mandatory or part of your nature?  

You could say you're being shamed for using drugs, but how are you being shamed for your sexuality  

[Prodigal Self]

Typical self-soothing and homophobic behavior from the horse girls

[SweetOreosOfHeaven]

Just now, Robyn. said:

What?  

 

Gay men who are effeminate are generally naturally effeminate. Using poppers is not really mandatory or part of your nature?  

You could say you're being shamed for using drugs, but how are you being shamed for your sexuality  

Then why is it always "popper-gays" and not just "popper-users"? Read between the lines girl

[Robyn.]

1 minute ago, SweetOreosOfHeaven said:

Then why is it always "popper-gays" and not just "popper-users"? Read between the lines girl

Because this site is filled with gay men  

 

 

[Taylor fanboy]

19 minutes ago, SweetOreosOfHeaven said:

"Niall's Cumrag"

Where are the morals?

[duybeeGAshantiGA]

I have never thought that using poppers is so discriminated on here seeing this thread  in here where I live 90% of gay use poppers. So 90% of us here are in the wrong?

[Carla Rosón]

31 minutes ago, glitch said:

It's that people are immediately called "poppers gays" for listening to certain music which feels a bit like internalised homophobia. It almost sounds a bit like "ugh basic gays with their basic gay taste".

Basic white girls get called out all the time for their basic taste

 

There's no rule that forbids doing the same to basic white gays, especially when it comes from other gay men

 

Internalized homophobia my ass

[Carla Rosón]

8 minutes ago, duybeeGAshantiGA said:

I have never thought that using poppers is so discriminated on here seeing this thread  in here where I live 90% of gay use poppers. So 90% of us here are in the wrong?

Yes, especially when the awful smell pollutes what are meant to be "safe" spaces for all kinds of gay people

 

Y'all should be ashamed for romanticizing drugs.

[glitch]

1 minute ago, Carla Rosón said:

Basic white girls get called out all the time for their basic taste

 

There's no rule that forbids doing the same to basic white gays, especially when it comes from other gay men

 

Internalized homophobia my ass

Whataboutism. Often calling out girls for being "basic" is rooted in misogyny, so that's not good either 

[duybeeGAshantiGA]

8 minutes ago, Carla Rosón said:

Yes, especially when the awful smell pollutes what are meant to be "safe" spaces for all kinds of gay people

 

Y'all should be ashamed for romanticizing drugs.

What the hell. We use them in our bed rooms, not on the metro.

[itshyolee]

11 minutes ago, Carla Rosón said:

Basic white girls get called out all the time for their basic taste

 

There's no rule that forbids doing the same to basic white gays, especially when it comes from other gay men

 

Internalized homophobia my ass

 

Kinda spilled, idk.

 

[Carla Rosón]

14 minutes ago, glitch said:

Whataboutism. Often calling out girls for being "basic" is rooted in misogyny, so that's not good either 

It might have a component of misogyny especially when it comes from straight men. Mind you it's the basic white girls that get called out most often so it's not entirely rooted in misogyny but that's another conversation.

 

Similarly, the basic white gay stereotype is often accompanied by a component of privilege. So calling them out for something as silly as basic music taste is not necessarily rooted in any form of discrimination.

[The7thStranger]

1 hour ago, Breakdown said:

neither being promiscuous nor taking drugs is the flex some of y'all think it is. where are the morals? where's the dignity. i have no respect for it, sorry not sorry. and the whole concept about poppers is just plain disgusting. i have to vomit.

...but why would anybody care about your opinion?

[alexrex]

I think it refers to the stereotype of the gays who constantly go to the club, consume poppers and are highly promiscous. So it has a negative connotation. 

 

Like every stereotype, there are things that are true to it. But others that come from a hateful place. 

[OmegaRidley]

1 hour ago, popmusicisdead said:

it's a euphemism for "Kim Petras listener"

But I don't do poppers 

 

wait are poppers actually drugs? I thought it was just something to loosen your hole 

[HASHTAGPOW]

1 hour ago, Breakdown said:

neither being promiscuous nor taking drugs is the flex some of y'all think it is. where are the morals? where's the dignity. i have no respect for it, sorry not sorry. and the whole concept about poppers is just plain disgusting. i have to vomit.

Mom, I'm sorry