Dad Posted June 5 Posted June 5 So in my culture being gay is seen as wrong, i don't plan on ever coming out. Luckily i come across as masc so have no issue in hiding it. Marriage is seen as a duty more than something done for love, normally it is arranged by both families and then its made to work. I've been meeting with this girl who is interesting in getting married to me, i haven't told her i am gay, but we have hooked up and even though it is not my preference i can still manage to do the job and look after her/provide a good life, i do genuinely care for her and will keep her happy always. I can't really see myself growing old and being all by myself like all gays normally are, no family, no partner, scrolling through grindr for some company, it is honestly sad. She wants to start a family with me and i am happy to do that for her, i feel like it is a win win situation. Is anyone here in a similar situation? Please no bottom queens telling me how awful i am for considering this 1 8 1 13
Europe Posted June 5 Posted June 5 Quote arranged by both families What in the 15th century is this 3
Cottonmouth Posted June 5 Posted June 5 Why not try and find a lesbian in a similar situation? The you both could live your lives without worry about the other. 10
Popular Post Space Cowboy Posted June 5 Popular Post Posted June 5 Girl get out of that country and just be happy. There is just one life. 1 22
Dad Posted June 5 Author Posted June 5 Just now, Space Cowboy said: Girl get out of that country and just be happy. There is just one life. I am happy. I don't feel the need to be out and proud like most gay people, i don't think that life is for me. I hook up with guys every now and again but i can't see myself being in a relationship with one, it seems like all you have to gain by being gay is a life being lonely and hooking up with random guys constantly. 5 12
Popular Post SweetTalker Posted June 5 Popular Post Posted June 5 So you'll turn out to be that muslim dude from the US version of Shameless that is married, has a whole family, yet gets his back blown in a convenience store by some twink 20 years younger than him. Nice! 1 19
Popular Post Burn Posted June 5 Popular Post Posted June 5 Do not do this. You may feel like you can keep up the charade now, but sometime, it might be in 2 years, might be in 20 years, the truth will come out and you'll ruin that woman's and your future kids lives - and your own as you'll regret not being true to yourself all your life. 11 4
SweetTalker Posted June 5 Posted June 5 Just now, Dad said: it seems like all you have to gain by being gay is a life being lonely and hooking up with random guys constantly. And that's truly your own weird twisted perception of reality. Hopefully you get to live a happy life with no regrets, and a better perception of the world around you 2 1
Raphy23 Posted June 5 Posted June 5 7 minutes ago, Dad said: like all gays normally are, no family, no partner, scrolling through grindr for some company What!? I'm happily in a 5 year monogamous relationship with my partner. We've lived together for many years and I've never had the need to use grindr or any dating apps. So yea NOT "all gays". 10 2
Dad Posted June 5 Author Posted June 5 Just now, SweetTalker said: And that's truly your own weird twisted perception of reality. Hopefully you get to live a happy life with no regrets, and a better perception of the world around you Am i wrong though? Gay couples are rarely built to last, men are not meant to be monogamous we are animals, sooner or later one of them will cheat. Nowadays being open and gay just means a life of cheap hookups and dying alone with no family 1 1 9
Katamari Posted June 5 Posted June 5 (edited) reminds me of this movie i think it was called borot or beto something @feelslikeadream Edited June 5 by Katamari 2
Dad Posted June 5 Author Posted June 5 1 minute ago, Raphy23 said: What!? I'm happily in a 5 year monogamous relationship with my partner. We've lived together for many years and I've never had the need to use grindr or any dating apps. So yea NOT "all gays". 1 5
Popular Post 50thStateofMind Posted June 5 Popular Post Posted June 5 1 minute ago, Dad said: Am i wrong though? Gay couples are rarely built to last, men are not meant to be monogamous we are animals, sooner or later one of them will cheat. Nowadays being open and gay just means a life of cheap hookups and dying alone with no family married to my husband...monogomous....7 years together. 30 3
jonapova Posted June 5 Posted June 5 I was going to reply properly but then I saw your other replies and you're just acting ridiculous. Not all gays die alone, have no family and use Grindr. Gay relationships last. If any of the things you have written are how you truly feel, you need to work on your self hatred and be at peace that you're gay 7 3
SweetTalker Posted June 5 Posted June 5 Just now, Dad said: Am i wrong though? Gay couples are rarely built to last, men are not meant to be monogamous we are animals, sooner or later one of them will cheat. Nowadays being open and gay just means a life of cheap hookups and dying alone with no family Going by your logic, you could literally say the same for straight couples so I'm not sure what your point is? Divorce, infidelities, abuse. Going on daily in both queer and heterosexual couples. I've been on a beautiful relationship for 5 years. Thank God for that. My straight girl friend in that same span got married, had a kid, got separated (not divorced), dated a few guys before she got engaged (?!) again not even a year later after being separated. your posts reek of insecurity, and a very limited view of your world. I'ma go and blame it in your upbringing because my boyfriend used to think somewhat similarly to you until he broke free from whatever generational and cultural traumas he had. 4 1
Cain Posted June 5 Posted June 5 9 minutes ago, Dad said: I am happy. I don't feel the need to be out and proud like most gay people, i don't think that life is for me. I hook up with guys every now and again but i can't see myself being in a relationship with one, it seems like all you have to gain by being gay is a life being lonely and hooking up with random guys constantly. I mean, I guess that may be true in a repressing country? However where I live gay people can have fulfilling lives full of friends, love, romance, partnership and growing old surrounded by loved ones I wish that for you too 2
Raphy23 Posted June 5 Posted June 5 5 minutes ago, Dad said: I am happy. I don't feel the need to be out and proud like most gay people, i don't think that life is for me. I hook up with guys every now and again but i can't see myself being in a relationship with one, it seems like all you have to gain by being gay is a life being lonely and hooking up with random guys constantly. In Canada people don't care. But if it's such an issue for you my boyfriend and I are both masc and straight passing. We do not participate in any "out and proud" lgbt things as that it not our thing at all. So I doubt anyone even knows we are a couple. So just letting you know it's not one of the other, you can definitely live happily with another man and still fly under the radar, but at least you get to be happy and in love.
family.guy123 Posted June 5 Posted June 5 As long as there is open communication, do what makes you happy. Marriage is whatever you make of it. 2
Khal Posted June 5 Posted June 5 This seems like one of those concern trolling Reddit posts People are trying to make you see the bright side, but you just keep responding with homophobic rhetoric. Okay, marry a woman then, goodluck, happy married life, ENJOY! Pop out some kids too while you're at it 1 1
Archetype Posted June 5 Posted June 5 (edited) 15 minutes ago, Dad said: Am i wrong though? Gay couples are rarely built to last, men are not meant to be monogamous we are animals, sooner or later one of them will cheat. Nowadays being open and gay just means a life of cheap hookups and dying alone with no family What messed up propaganda have you been reading about gay people? No offense but you seem really uneducated about what it means to be gay and are projecting what society has told you about gays to be the absolute truth. This is very messed up. Coming from someone who has been in a committed and serious relationship for over 10 years. You choose the values you follow. Never project your ignorance on an incredibly diverse community you clearly know very little about. Edited June 5 by Archetype 8 1
50thStateofMind Posted June 5 Posted June 5 Do what you want, but yeah, youʻre really just hoping that being out is a miserable life to justify your decisions...itʻs not - being out is the best thing that ever happened to me. 1
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