SlowGinFizzzz Posted April 17 Posted April 17 It's 2024, everybody should just pay for their own drinks/dish by default; at least on the first date. Sure, sometimes I'll offer to pay the whole bill, sometimes the other person will offer to do so, but outright expecting someone else to pay for your stuff is just weird. 2 1
Aramis Posted April 17 Posted April 17 1 hour ago, velocity said: i'm a woman and i'd never pay on a first date i think men who demand it are embarrassing What is embarrassing is expecting a man to pay for your things. Zero self love I see 2 1
geodude Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Whoever asks should pay tbh. But it really depends lol. I've been on dates where I wasn't feeling them and split lol
The Next Day Posted April 17 Posted April 17 19 minutes ago, Machete said: For men and women the man should always pay 1000%. This is not an "archaic" view 19 minutes ago, Machete said: Not only are women the prize 19 minutes ago, Machete said: For all they know this man could be a serial killer/r*pist and she's putting her life in danger, then there's even the simpler things of her spending more time getting ready, etc. The least a man can do is pay the entire bill Paying the bill doesn't absolve your responsibility to make the other one feel safe and comfortable. And viewing dating in general as economic transactions is... a choice. 6 2
TaggedGalaxy Posted April 17 Posted April 17 I always go in expecting to split unless one of us is adamant on paying for the whole bill 1
Bencharmer Posted April 17 Posted April 17 (edited) I prefer going with the flow, no rules needed. If i had a great time, i will propose to pay it all. Sometimes i take the drinks plus my part. If the guy does it first, i propose to split... If he says no i let him. Edited April 17 by Bencharmer 1
Daddy Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Splitting of course. But I would never go on a dinner date. The movies is much easier. I get the tickets, you the drinks/popcorn.
Ascareus Kratos Posted April 17 Posted April 17 I am ok with split or not. But sex in the 1st date is a must. You need to test drive
Into The Void Posted April 17 Posted April 17 I don't think splitting a check is weird. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with it. It shows your willing to pay your part instead of expecting them to. But usually If I ask someone to dinner obviously I will pay, unless they want to split. I won't say no if someone wants to pay for their meal.
Cain Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Omg the 'the one that asks pays' people sound insane to me like you're holding the other person hostage They have agency and have willingly agreed to a date with you, how does that absolve them from any costs on their part jddj 5 1
alfonso12 Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Yes, I'm not desperate so I wouldn't pay for anyone's food.
Pheromosa Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Well I've never had to pay but I wouldn't be against it either
velocity Posted April 17 Posted April 17 58 minutes ago, Aramis said: What is embarrassing is expecting a man to pay for your things. Zero self love I see Yes, me setting a standard and expecting certain things screams no self love
Saddy Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Split always, but if the girl or guy on first date insist to pay, I won't stop them
JohnWayneHolland Posted April 17 Posted April 17 Bottoms be like "I expect the man to pay!", you're not a girl *****! 1 4
Dolce Vita Posted April 17 Posted April 17 i dont mind splitting but 99% of the time guys will pay for me which is very sweet
St. Charles Posted April 17 Posted April 17 I think split by default but if I ever went out with a girl I'd just pay since it's not a huge deal to me.
St. Charles Posted April 17 Posted April 17 21 minutes ago, velocity said: Yes, me setting a standard and expecting certain things screams no self love But men who ask to split on the first date are embarrassing? Arent they setting their own standard as well? 3
PrettyHurts Posted April 17 Posted April 17 2 hours ago, getBusy said: Literally helping save money to someone you don't know is weirder It's not "helping save money" it's just a courtesy. If you can't afford a meal then don't go out
velocity Posted April 17 Posted April 17 15 minutes ago, St. Charles said: But men who ask to split on the first date are embarrassing? Arent they setting their own standard as well? It's my personal opinion. I'm not forcing anyone to do anything but if they don't then they're not the one for me 1
Cyanide Posted April 17 Posted April 17 (edited) I think this is a no-brainer unless one person is way older than the other. Like if you're in your 40s taking a 25yo out on a date you better throw that card down Since I earn a lot and have a public-facing career I definitely want to weed out any of…. Those guys. The ones with no prospects that bring nothing to the table but think they are deserving of being treated like a trophy wife just embarrassing and delulu. I want an equal. Edited April 17 by Cyanide
dreampop Posted April 17 Posted April 17 I would thank him for choosing such a nice place for the first date and for asking me to come to this place with him. I would also ask his advice on what to order just to plant the seed in his mind that he will pay.... Im joking nnnnnnnn. I don't mind splitting but him offering would be such a generous courtesy
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