alexrex Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I radically accept it. Im proud of the person I've become, but my sexual orientation is just what it is, I can't change what I like. Im not ashamed of it, and if anyone has a problem with that then they should look away then.
mons†er Posted February 1 Posted February 1 as a black gay man I am proud to be gay and to be apart of the LGBTQIA+. I mean a Black and Latino trans woman fought for me to live my best life. my struggles with growing up gay helps me connect with others and has brought me so many incredible friends. it’s hard to explain but beyond black and gay is an extra razzle dazzle to life. 1
Bloodflowers. Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) No, being gay sucks. You can't find any normal gay dating apps because 99% just want hookups and have gross fetishes (Not to mention all evil gay men I experienced who try to blackmail me and stuff, I had such bad experiences this past year that made my mental health worse). And then you find 1% that want monogomous relationship and have low body count, but you have zero chemistry and no common topics. Plus I want to have biological children and leave something behind me when I'm gone, but that's not a possibility when I'm gay and I don't plan pretending to be straight and fooling a woman. Edited February 1 by Bloodflowers.
dawnettakins Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) No. Not that I think there's anything wrong with it though, I'm just not a fan of gay culture and where things are going in the community. Also, a lot of the community is just cringe and really ruins things for the rest of us and giving us all a bad name. So I can't say that I'm proud. I don't even feel I particularly belong in the community, as I don't subscribe to many of its ideals and cultural practices. Also, just because I might be gay, doesn't mean it defines me. It's not all I am. For too many I think they make that all they are, when we have multitude identities. Edited February 1 by dawnettakins
DoubleRainbow! Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I just am ? Do we have the need to feel proud of being something? I wouldn’t change what I am if that answers your question
DamianSolo Posted February 1 Posted February 1 What is there, exactly, to be proud of as it relates to being LGBTQ+? I'm proud of myself, for who and what I am as a person. There's a lot about me that makes me, me—and being LGBTQ+ doesn't have anything to do with my personality.
bliaz Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) To be honest, no. It's the worst thing that could have happened to me. I've suffered enough. And if I had the choice to choose my sexual orientation, it would be heterosexual, without a doubt Edited February 6 by bliaz 2
family.guy123 Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I’m not L,B,T,Q, or + so I would never call my self LGBTQ+ in the first place, let alone be proud of it. I am gay, happy, content, and confident in who I am. Proud wouldn’t be the word I use today. But I am proud of myself for the progress I’ve made in my acceptance of my homosexual identity. 1
wulmite Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) absolutely, so much of the joy in my life has been in one way or another caused by the fact that i'm a raging homo, so yes Edited February 1 by wulmite 4
Dear Reader Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) the usual gays distancing themselves from the “tag” as if the straights are going to love you more because of that. they all still hate you at the end of the day, so you might as well support your community, even if you want to not be a part of it, they’ll hate you the same way they hate trans people. OT: Yes. And it’s not that I’m proud of just being gay but our community’s accomplishments, history, culture, etc. Every single time that I get to hold hands with my boyfriend and feel no fear, I feel proud. Edited February 1 by Dear Reader 2 5 1
Relampago. Posted February 1 Author Posted February 1 14 minutes ago, Dear Reader said: the usual gays distancing themselves from the “tag” as if the straights are going to love you more because of that. they all still hate you at the end of the day, so you might as well support your community, even if you want to not be a part of it, they’ll hate you the same way they hate trans people. OT: Yes. And it’s not that I’m proud of just being gay but our community’s accomplishments, history, culture, etc. Every single time that I get to hold hands with my boyfriend and feel no fear, I feel proud. Literally this. But also I put LGBTQ+ in the OP because there are LBTQ people on ATRL too and their opinions are just as valuable as G’s. I don’t know why so many people are rushing to separate themselves from it cause like you said, heterosexual people will pretty much always group you into that when it comes time to discriminate and hate anyways 3 1
Bubble Tea Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I've never got the whole "pride" thing, not a feeling I've ever felt. I'm not "ashamed" either it's just mostly something about me I don't consider focal to my personality. If you're a grown man and being gay is absolutely core to your personality, you can't have much going on. Also, the LGBTQIA2+ "community" doesn't exist. Everyone who is "not straight" does not necessarily fall under the same umbrella. It's purely for the convenience of straight people to "other" us. Transgender people go through heroic struggles to accept and affirm their gender identity and to feel comfortable in their body. What that has to do with me having same-sex attractions I'm not sure.
Dancehall Queen Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Mess I read are you paid to be lgbt?, was ready to say, I mean, in a way?
Specter Posted February 1 Posted February 1 4 hours ago, My Tears Ricochet said: Proud to be gay? Nop. It's what I'm and I'm ok with it. But I don't associate myself with the LGBTQ+ tag ever since the feminists and pronoun warriors hijacked the movement and made it all about gender identity while sidelining the topics of sexual identity Wow! You're so different and brave!!! Thank you for sharing your struggles with the pronoun police :((( 1 1 1
Kern Posted February 1 Posted February 1 for me this is not about being proud to be queer but proud of how am I queer - what does it mean for me, what do I do with my sexuality, how do I treat people that are like me? These are things to be proud of based on sexuality
glitch Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I knew how this thread was going to pan out before opening it. So sad to see so much self-hate and pick me behaviour... I will say struggling with shame is completely normal as a gay man. I think we have to constantly try to unlearn what society has taught us our whole lives. Am I proud to be LGBTQ? Yeah I would say so. I personally much prefer aligning myself to that and the queer label than just other gay men. I find exclusively gay male spaces to be the complete opposite of welcoming, and pretty discriminatory to people who don't fit into a certain mould. On the flipside LGBTQ spaces are much more open, friendly and accepting of all types of people. 1 2 1
DAP Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Indifferent. Wouldn’t change my sexuality but it is less of a unifying trait than race or class.
Pop Life Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Growing up it was obvious I was a flaming femme gay, so I was never able to hide in any closets. It was pure hell and I very nearly did not make it, but I stuck to my guns and survived. No str8 man can say they've overcome the same challenges to their personhood. You'd better believe I'm proud as hell. 2
AintNoOtherMe Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) I don’t know what is there to be proud of? I don’t identify with LBTQA++ community nor do I identify with queerness. Who I sleep with doesn’t define me. Edited February 1 by AintNoOtherMe
Kern Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Not being proud of simply being gay is not self-hate. You are usually proud of your specific actions, not a sexuality or anything else you are already born with
Eric. Posted February 2 Posted February 2 Yes. I wish I didn't have to deal with all the prejudice, bs and second-guessing, but I'm proud of persevering through all of it.
JoeAg Posted February 2 Posted February 2 sometimes yes, but most of the time I just... am. like it's so fundamental to my being that I don't feel like I need to be proud if that makes sense? but overall, yes as an answer. I'm super proud! we're the strongest community on earth tbh, and we always will pull through no matter what we look like or where we are 1
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