Relampago. Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Lately I’ve been feeling somewhat ashamed to be gay. Just hearing about different anti-LGBTQ groups, people and movements popping up where we are the bane of their existence. Ultimately, I know that there’s nothing wrong with it, but I can’t help but feel a sense of fear, shame and sadness around being gay. I never really wish I was straight, but I also walk around on eggshells, hoping that I never upset anyone just for being gay. I’ve sort of lost the “pride” in it for that reason, as subconsciously I start to feed into the narratives that I’m pushing an agenda even though I know that’s not true. How do you feel? Do you live your life loud and proud, or are you feeling similar ways? 3
Johnny Jacobs Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Considering im in the closet... Not really. Maybe someday
Oktober Knight Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I used to feel this way when I was a teenager and my family was struggling to accept it. Then I spent 10 years with my ex who couldn't accept being part of the community and had internalized homophobia so he pressured me to supress who I was. Now that I'm in my 30s, I am so comfortable in my own skin and proud to be gay. IDGAF what others think of me and I enjoy being myself. 3
livelikemusic Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Most of the time, yes. But then some viral s**t happens on social media or people remind me that "society norms" are what people prefer / believe out the community, or some "stan" s**t happens, and I'm immediately bowing my head in some kind of shame.
Revolution Posted February 1 Posted February 1 People hate everyone. So idc what others think. I stay chill. 1
Tudors Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) First of all that's a bunch of different groups smushed into one acorcym so no I'm not lgtbq+. I'm not a lesbian I'm not bi I'm not trans or questioning. I'm only gay not all those other categories but I'm indifferent. I in 8 people is gay bi or lesbian so who cares who's what really. Not proud and Definitely not ashamed but I own it 😎 it's mine and me. Edited February 3 by Tudors
Illuminati Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Proud but also scared for my well being I knew growing up that I wouldn't have support from anyone else but myself
playboi Posted February 1 Posted February 1 i am neither proud nor ashamed but I don’t really identify as lgbtq+ only as gay 1
Pendulum Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Depending on my current geographical location. In my home city - yes. In my current city - no.
My Tears Ricochet Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) Proud to be gay? Nop. It's what I'm and I'm ok with it. But I don't associate myself with the LGBTQ+ tag ever since the feminists and pronoun warriors hijacked the movement and made it all about gender identity while sidelining the topics of sexual identity Edited February 1 by My Tears Ricochet 6 7
Santhosh Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I'm not even proud to be a human.... let alone as a LGBT person
Curaga Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Yes, I love being a gay man, and I have been really lucky to have a loving family who accepts me and my bf (now fiancé). It was a little rocky at first when I came out as a young teenager, but nothing like awful stuff a lot of queer people all over the world have to go through. I wouldn’t change who I am because I feel like I belong among queer people, which is feeling I think we all yearn for. It just feels right and it’s where I feel comfortable being myself. 1
brooklyndaddy Posted February 1 Posted February 1 In the context of society’s ills… yes. I’m proud that I can stand firm in my sexuality and not need to hide it. It’s a triumph given our discriminatory history which has shunned us due to religious insanity. But in every day life? No lol I don’t walk around feeling proud of anything other than my own personal achievements. 3
D.Va Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) Damn those answers are depressing I'm proud to have overcome homophobia in my town and what some insanely mean people would say, but I am not proud to be gay in itself. It's a very neutral feeling, it's just a part of who I am. However I FOR SUUUURE don't feel ashamed at all. I don't know how y'all could feel that way. Edited February 1 by D.Va 4
Illuminati Posted February 1 Posted February 1 8 minutes ago, My Tears Ricochet said: Proud to be gay? Nop. It's what I'm and I'm ok with it. But I don't associate myself with the LGBTQ+ tag ever since the feminists and pronoun warriors hijacked the movement and made it all about gender identity while sidelining the topics of sexual identity I'm pretty sure lesbians have been fighting for women's rights for decades. How did trans people hijack the LGBTQ+ movement?
Cheers Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I am not ashamed and I am happy with who I am tbh. Proud is a weird word to describe it though. Like proud to be a dick sucker idk? I think it’d be weird to be a proud heterosexual too. It’s just something that is lmao. It’s not like an achievement. 4
gatito Posted February 1 Posted February 1 15 minutes ago, My Tears Ricochet said: Proud to be gay? Nop. It's what I'm and I'm ok with it. But I don't associate myself with the LGBTQ+ tag ever since the feminists and pronoun warriors hijacked the movement and made it all about gender identity while sidelining the topics of sexual identity sounds like you need help and i hope you get to heal someday OP: i know times are scary rn but i'm proud of myself and my fellow gays we share the same struggle but we always pull through 1
Flower Posted February 1 Posted February 1 No, I am forced to be because I am gay But it is what it is after all, I've accepted it. If I have a chance to choose straight I would do it in a heartbeat. Life would probably be so much easier (though that would probably also mean giving up a lot music that I love, such as Charli XCX, Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift, Kpop and etc. if I am not gay ) 1
Relampago. Posted February 1 Author Posted February 1 16 minutes ago, D.Va said: Damn those answers are depressing I'm proud to have overcome homophobia in my town and what some insanely mean people would say, but I am not proud to be gay in itself. It's a very neutral feeling, it's just a part of who I am. However I FOR SUUUURE don't feel ashamed at all. I don't know how y'all could feel that way. I didn’t expect this response at all but I guess it’s kind of telling I definitely have my struggles as I mentioned in the OP, but ultimately, I still feel very resilient and have to remind myself that even though I don’t feel a particular “special” type of pride just for being gay, I do believe being gay has opened me up to struggles that have made me more creative, empathetic and respectful in general. For that, I’m very grateful and “proud”. The people who are peddling homophobic narratives have no basis to do so, and their whole goal is to make us feel ashamed so they can feel better, which won’t fly. To me, it seems like there’s just an extreme response to the progress queer people have made in the past 10 years or so, and once the dust finally settles, it won’t be queer people that disappear but rather the ignorant bigots who’s outdated mentality will die with their body. Even these narratives that young people are more anti-LGBTQ than before I don’t fully believe because there are more LGBTQ youth coming out than ever before and exposure to these types of lifestyles is proven to make people more open minded to it generally. I think most of these kids are parroting their parent’s beliefs and whatever they see on the internet, but ultimately that narrative will crumble for them once they see queer people in general are normal everyday people too. Long essay aside, I hope everyone here realizes we’re all in this together and having a community like ATRL for over 10 years is something I’ve been extremely grateful for even though so many of you guys act like fools. I hope anyone struggling with this knows that you’re definitely not the only ones to feel scared or shame, and if you ever feel like you’re alone, you’ve got a community of rabid stan baguettes right here who know exactly what you’re feeling 1
tiagol88 Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I can't be proud of something i don't have any control of. I'm only proud of my accomplishments. Am i proud that i managed to get out of the closet in this society? Yeah...but not proud of being gay per say. I like what i like.
Trent W Posted February 1 Posted February 1 (edited) Yes and no I’m a closeted bi man, basically irl live by the privilege of being straight while always being supporting the community Only a few ex partners know and honestly I never had the need to put my business out there. I might have to come out one day if I find a good guy, but idk. Ironically these days is becoming easier to find a male partner than a girl. Straight dating SUCKS right now Edited February 1 by Trent W
The7thStranger Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I'm proud that we continue to survive and persevere in the face of indifference, hatred, death, and ignorance. 5
wish Posted February 1 Posted February 1 Of course, I'm very proud to be a part of this community. We suck c*ck, who cares. It's more about our community, culture, history, the obstacles we've overcome, and the freedom we continue to fight for. 5
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