discussion Is It Immoral To Buy Sex?

[GraceRandolph]

I don’t get the appeal of buying sex at all, and honestly kind of judge people who would buy sex. Although I understand that we need to destigamtize sex workers, I don’t think we should be uncritical of the overall industry, or reasons why people may be buying sex. I just don’t get how I could get off having sex with someone who wouldn’t have sex with me without cash.

[Sheep]

I definitely wouldn't do my job if it was for free idk why it should be different for sex workers

[GraceRandolph]

1 minute ago, Century said:

I definitely wouldn't do my job if it was for free idk why it should be different for sex workers

I’m talking about sex BUYERS. Why do you want to have sex with someone who doesn’t have any interest in you aside from money? Even a sugar arrangement seems more ethical. 

Edited October 10, 2023 by GraceRandolph

[perpetual novice]

I think it can be immoral in many cases where the worker is under financial difficulty or other pressure to be doing that work but if everyone involved is happy with what’s happening I don’t think it’s inherently immoral

[GraceRandolph]

Just now, perpetual novice said:

I think it can be immoral in many cases where the worker is under financial difficulty or other pressure to be doing that work but if everyone involved is happy with what’s happening I don’t think it’s inherently immoral

Yeah under ideal circumstances it could be considered ethical, but online conversations tend to focus on the most privileged in the sex trade rather than survival sex work. 

[Revolution]

idc we're all gonna die soon anyway. do whatever u want.

[MusicLoverDude]

Of course you of all people would create this thread. 

 

Let people live as long as it's two consenting adults and not something shady like sex trafficking or human trafficking. 

[Breathe On Moi]

well that person is attaining something they know they could never get otherwise, they treat it like a new iPhone I guess.

 

the immoral part is that they’re most likely cheating, or knowingly passing on a disease to the sex worker, or not paying the sex worker at the end knowing cops can’t do anything about it. 

[Sheep]

3 minutes ago, GraceRandolph said:

I’m talking about sex BUYERS. Why do you want to have sex with someone who doesn’t have any interest in you aside from money? Even a sugar arrangement seems more ethical. 

I don't fully understand the inclination but I wouldn't call it immoral.

3 minutes ago, GraceRandolph said:

Yeah under ideal circumstances it could be considered ethical, but online conversations tend to focus on the most privileged in the sex trade rather than survival sex work. 

To this point, I think most people are just working to survive too, I don't get how it's any worse than any other risky job in that regard.

[nostalgic]

A mutual transaction between 2 consenting people is nobody's business and who cares if it's "immoral"? Who decides that? Sex work has existed since the dawn of civilization (whether that is a good or bad thing and the reasons behind it being a whole other discussion).

Edited October 10, 2023 by nostalgic

[Frappucino]

Immoral? Everyone's moral compass screaming SOS in this time and age. 

[GraceRandolph]

1 minute ago, Century said:

I don't fully understand the inclination but I wouldn't call it immoral.

To this point, I think most people are just working to survive too, I don't get how it's any worse than any other risky job in that regard.

It could be considered worse because of the power play occurring over your body during the work. Violence, coercion, and exploitation of a sexual nature is usually regarded as especially cruel. 

[GraceRandolph]

Just now, nostalgic said:

A mutual transaction between 2 consenting people is nobody's business and who cares if it's "immoral"? Who decides that? Sex work has existed since the dawn of time.

This is a misnomer. Sex work has only existed for a fraction of human existence. It’s a result of class society and class antagonism. 

[LustSpell]

No. What two adults do in their own time is not your business. Piss off

[Sheep]

Just now, GraceRandolph said:

It could be considered worse because of the power play occurring over your body during the work. Violence, coercion, and exploitation of a sexual nature is usually regarded as especially cruel. 

There are many roles in society that are physically or mentally dangerous/damaging that still need filling though. 

[GraceRandolph]

1 minute ago, Century said:

There are many roles in society that are physically or mentally dangerous/damaging that still need filling though. 

No one needs sex though. It’s an incel talking point that sex is something necessary, and why should poor women not have other options besides sex work?

[The Man Who]

17 minutes ago, GraceRandolph said:

Although I understand that we need to destigamtize sex workers

But then you go on to stigmatise the people paying for that work? 

[GraceRandolph]

Just now, The Man Who said:

But then you go on to stigmatise the people paying for that work? 

Why are they not just looking for people who would consent to have sex with them? I don’t get it. 

[petty]

*continues selling cat* 

[jediah556]

Is it immoral for someone to buy the labor of someone else to cut down a tree, clean their home, walk their dog? Is it immoral for someone to sell their labor doing those things? 

 

Is it immoral to buy a cup of coffee from Starbucks when you could make it at home? Is it immoral to buy it when you have someone that could make it themselves for you because they want to? 

 

The answer to these questions is, obviously, NO.

 

Do not judge the people buying a service - there are people that need physical touch without the ability to get it otherwise, there are people that want to have sex with someone attractive, there are people that will pay to have a specific fantasy. NONE of which is ANY of your dusty concern!

 

[jediah556]

1 minute ago, GraceRandolph said:

Why are they not just looking for people who would consent to have sex with them? I don’t get it. 

now what if they're ugly. then what

[SLAG]

3 minutes ago, GraceRandolph said:

No one needs sex though. It’s an incel talking point that sex is something necessary, and why should poor women not have other options besides sex work?

Why women specifically? You do know that there are male sex workers right?

 

This is a weird and pointless ass topic. Go touch yourself if you’re this bored.

[dumbsparce]

No, quite the opposite actually. There are people whose only option to experience sex is by "buying" it. Whether it be bc they're ugly, lack confidence or whatever else, they too deserve to get a taste of it.

[GraceRandolph]

1 minute ago, jediah556 said:

Is it immoral for someone to buy the labor of someone else to cut down a tree, clean their home, walk their dog? Is it immoral for someone to sell their labor doing those things? 

 

Is it immoral to buy a cup of coffee from Starbucks when you could make it at home? Is it immoral to buy it when you have someone that could make it themselves for you because they want to? 

 

The answer to these questions is, obviously, NO.

 

Do not judge the people buying a service - there are people that need physical touch without the ability to get it otherwise, there are people that want to have sex with someone attractive, there are people that will pay to have a specific fantasy. NONE of which is ANY of your dusty concern!

 

The majority of sex workers are poor, indigenous and poc women. By saying that sex work is a necessity you’re saying that these groups being exploited is a necessity because it’s the only way the sex trade has existed throughout history. No one NEEDS sex, that’s an incel talking point. 

[Devin]

Civics worthy?