My mom died unexpectedly, I'm depressed

[Otter]

What truly aweful year for you, I'm so sorry! Have the therapists prescribed any medication to help you through, like anti depressants? They can be an amazing stepping stone, to allowing to find a new perspective and dealing with the trauma.

 

It sounds lazy but time is the ultimate healer so keep fighting and try and do things which bring a bit of joy to your life, whilst also doing things which might bring the briefest escapism. 

 

Also if it might help, try and see it that you'll fight for yourself in order to make your mum proud and find the eventual happiness she wanted for you and your family 

 

 

[lonnie]

That's a lot happening at a short time, I'm really sorry you're going through all of that. I hope the storm clears soon for you. I think you should continue with therapy if that option is still available to you.

[apasionata]

You're a fighter and I know, not believe you can see this through and move on stronger and better.

 

At least you have your husband. I'm 23 and am yet to find a partner/boyfriend on top of my psychiatrical (can't stand the term 'mental health') hardships

[theweekend]

so sorry for this year. this has been such a trip. I really hope you can overcome all of this again as you've been doing all year long.

vent it out. talk about it. be with the people you love and talk to them. let it get out of you so you can heal.

 

it's not going to be easy but I'm sure you're going to overcome it. bless your heart.

[ichabe]

I am sorry you have had been through this. Sending love and prayers for you. I had been gone so much **** this year but I am so grateful for everything that I have had. My dad has passed away either and lot of things happened since 1st of January 2022 up until now. Therefore, you are not alone.

[Keter]

Wishing you well! You are doing the healthy thing by communicating and letting your husband know what’s going on! I pray he can be a support for you during this time, as well as your sisters. You are not alone!! There’s a mountain to climb and grief can be paralyzing, but you will overcome and be out of this! Don’t lose hope and don’t lose focus. Keep striving for that life you have been working so hard to build. It’s within reach. I am thinking of you! 

[Massive_Teardrop]

Wow bb I’m so sorry this is all happening to you and in such short time.. I know it is extremely painful and hard right now but please try to talk to someone about the suicidal ideations. That combined with the grief is a dangerous mental space for you 

[PoisonCandy]

That is all so sad. I'm so sorry you've had such an awful year. What you're experiencing is completely understandable considering what you've been through. It can't be easy. Make the most of those therapy sessions, get it all out there. I'm not a therapist, but just like others have said, if you really need someone to talk to, feel free to message me anytime, especially if those harmful thoughts become overwhelming. Reach out to someone, whether it's us or a professional, or both. It's hard right now, but you need to be here, you have people that want you here 

[Totami Legend]

I'm so sorry for you loss. Sending good vibes in your way. 

[Archetype]

This year has been very tough for you and those around you.  2022 could possibly be the worst year of your entire life.  However, you fought to make things work by trying to be kind to others, encouraging others to be open and honest, helping your father, and even paying to give your mother (rest in peace) a great vacation.  You care for those who you love and this is the time during which they’ll need to try and care for you.  It’s okay to feel depressed and shattered from your mother’s passing, these feelings could last for weeks or months (it’s normal).  
 

Please try to remember that your mother is always with you.  Her genetics have left a permanent mark on your life, maybe some of your likes, favorite foods and flavors, maybe some personality traits (good and bad) are from her.  You’ll carry her with you in this way and you can still honor her by living your life to the fullest and taking yourself to new places.  You seem to work very hard and have a lot of ambition, I’m sure she was incredibly proud of you, and that’s what you should continue doing once you’re ready.  You will feel happiness and regain your drive, it will come in time.  Please be open with your husband and family, let them know you’re having a hard time with your loss and might need their help.  It’s okay to be vulnerable.

 

I’m very sorry for your loss. 

[Outlaws]

I am so, so sorry. Rest in Peace to your mother and I hope you can find some peace as well among all this chaos

[A.R.L]

Losing a loved one especially a mother is hard and no kind of sympathy will heal that.. But death is the only truth in life. All I can say is do ur best to stay strong and remember she still sees you.

 

May 2023 be an even better year for you and everyone else.. 

[XxxKatyCatxxX]

Yeah, that's life... Bad things happen, pile up, and there’s no end in sight. Keep seeing a therapist because there may be an underlying issue in the way you are thinking. Life isn’t easy or fair unfortunately and sometimes we just need to change how we look at it. Death is a normal thing, be sad for a moment but don't lock yourself in that place. Keep their memory alive and go with your life. You’ve made it through 100% of your bad days so far, so you’ll make it through this. If you carry too many things under your shoulder, put some on the ground for a little bit until you feel better. 

[UnusualBoy]

Wow, that's a lot to endure in such a short time and probably there's nothing that will make you feel better but you'll make it through, you went through difficult things before and you'll overcome this one too, just hold on. Keep assisting to your therapy sessions and stay busy that will help you through the day, losing a family member is hard and everything about them will make you sad and feel depressed but those memories and thoughts are what'll carry you on during the dark days so cry all you want, scream, let all the sorrow pour out and you'll feel better. 

[Abracadabra]

I'm so sorry for everything you are going through, sending you a lot of love

[brazil]

Be gentle and kind to yourself. There is so much going on. 

 

I still remember the feeling of emptiness and grief after my father passed. Time is usually the best medicine for illments or the heat. I'm sorry for your loss. 

[Oktober Knight]

Thank you to everyone who replied and reached out to me privately. I really do appreciate it! 

 

Today I feel a little better knowing that her body is finally here and being prepared for tomorrow. I'm taking this one day at a time. 

[naval23]

i'm so sorry you're going through all of this - so tough

 

not sure if you have benefits but perhaps you can take a few weeks off work? Grief is a medical diagnosis

 

Sending you love and strength 

[Shelter]

So sorry 

[lillavend3r]

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that, mostly alone. Hope your grieving process won't be that hard on you, sending you all the good energy and biggest hug. Hope all these kind words you're getting cheer you up a bit.  

[Relampago.]

I'm so sorry to hear all of this. I know the future seems daunting but don't put the pressure on yourself to figure it out now. What's in front of you in the present is more than taxing enough. Things will get figured out and you'll be able to live life again to its fullest, as hard as that may seem now. Your resilience and vulnerability in the face of such adversity are admirable, and it makes me believe that you can continue even if things are impossibly difficult right now. I hope you can find that belief in yourself as well love. 

 

I have seen your posts on this forum for more than a few years now and they're always a pleasure to read. You're one of the people on this website who I know will always approach a topic with couth, poise and precision and maybe even a laugh here and there. I know we're all just strangers on the internet here, but just know that things as simple as your posts here bring people joy and a sense of community. And if you can make that impact on strangers, I can only imagine what you mean to, not only the loved ones in your life, but also to yourself once you can truly reflect on what a gem and special person you are. Wishing you the best babes. Much love.

[Danger]

I am so so sorry. May she Rest In Peace.

 

I hope you find a great therapist, if you are open to that of course. Glad you have your sisters and husband as supports

You are strong. You are resilient. You are loved. Never give up.

[LikeaRebel]

Wow, that sucks.  Hang in there and I’m sure with time (and therapy) you’ll be able to come to terms with this. 

[katara]

So sorry to hear that dear.

 

As someone who has lost their father recently: it's going to hurt really badly but you will eventualy heal. 

 

The first 3 months are the hardest and a rollercoaster of chaotic emotions. I strongly advise you to not make any big life decisions in this time. When a parent dies one has the urge to make big changes and decisions in their life. Don't do that. Just wait it out until you can think clearly again after some months. Sadly no one was there to tell me this when my dad died so I did end up making some huge changes that i had to reverse back again after I got a clear mind.

 

After 6 months you'll start to heal and you should be fully ok again after a year. It's really important to talk about your feelings and don't repress any emotions during all this time. The more you cry and talk about it the better you are gonna heal. 

[dabunique]

Sis i'm so sorry for ur loss, sending u much love and a warm hug