discussion At what age is it wierd to date a 18 Year Old?

[Feanor]

23 and older.

[Roberto]

More than 22, tbh. 23 would feel odd already. 

[RunUpDoneUp]

I find anyone going lower or older by 3+ yrs very odd.

 

Most people aren't good at picking a partner because most people don't take the time to even know themselves much less to being able to know someone else.

 

The age gaps are signs of mental immaturity and for a lot of older people, a desire to imprint and shape the mind of someone younger or not on their level. It's an innate power thing and I don't much care to try or engage with the normalized 18-30 pool of embarrassing encounters that people call "relationships."

 

Naturally mental development and social standings differ and weigh more or less depending on who's involved. I don't think these relationships are crimes or are worth more attention from me than I already give them(that is the side eye at most) and aren't something I wish to pursue as an issue in society that I should devote time to.

 

I don't vouch for anyone involving themselves in the private affairs of others usually in the first place. Most people don't understand boundaries and social commentary does not get to cross the right to privacy all humans ought to have.

[zasderfght]

5 hours ago, vale9001 said:

Americans as always think they are the centre of the universe. In the rest of the world you can drink at 18 and buys alcohol at 16. And you can drink privately even if you're 10.

We love our excellent wine. Of course you can't relate.

 

At 18  you're an adult. If you're 30 and in a relationship with someone 18 is kinda weird cause life is really in different stages. It's not like 52 and 40, that's make sense also in a relationship of course. Sometimes I read americans being against this kind of situations too 

If it's just sex at 18 you are completely sexually formed and you're an adult (this is why in every country  age consent is at around 16. ) so i don't see what is a difference to **** for 5 minutes in a bar with someone 23-25 or 28. It's just sex, not a relationship. 

 

 

When you start off with "Americans, as always, think they are the center of the universe," you're clearly pushing/clamoring for your country to get some sort of attention. 

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

I’m 27 now. I wouldn’t date anyone younger than 22 at this point. I was still majorly figuring out who I was as a person between 18-21 and still had a lot of growing up and insecurities to work through at that time. I also think most men at that age just want to drink, hook up, have flings, and get through college/their first full time jobs. That’s a lot by itself. 

 

I also think they look way too young when they’re 18-21 at this point and have no attraction/interest. The age gap is too far for me.

[DevonRoars]

I’m recently 25 and I’ve never dated anyone 18, but I’ve hooked up with some and my friends scolded me for it.. then again.. I’ve hooked up with guys upward of their late 40’s. 

 

When it comes to the idea of dating either end I come to the conclusion we don’t have a lot in common. If people click with these people and date then let them. 

[CaptainMusic]

18 is legal in every country so I really don’t care what adults do and people really need to stop throwing certain words around. 

 

Personally I couldn’t do it, I’d **** an 18 yo but dating is a whole different story, you have very little in common when you’re over 25.

Edited December 12, 2022 by CaptainMusic

[CaptainMusic]

17 hours ago, Tropez said:

20. And anything older is weird and predatory 

So your fave Taylor who dated 18 year old guys when she was in her 20s is a predator? Interesting

[Theshigo Washidu]

18 year-old's aren't kids anymore. They are now young legal adults.

 

I would say 23+ onwards would be quite problematic to be dating an 18 year old.

[State of Grace.]

Idk maybe 22-23? 

 

I'm currently 24 and I honestly can't even hang out with 18 year olds, lets alone dating one. Really different stages of life and I don't even know what we're supposed to talk about. Music, TikTok and HS/college experiences?  

[John Slayne]

it depends on the situation but generally over 22 is potentially unsafe for the teenager. 18yo really are children in many ways but most importantly they are inexperienced, still not make their own money and have less access to resources and support. 

 

think of this way - an 18 year old has just finished high school, they've had like 1 serious relationship at most if even that, they're probably broke and/or going to uni

 

a person in their mid-20s is probably out of school, have started their career, and are in general more confident in who they are and more established. plus they can probably navigate dating life a lot better because they have years of experience

 

the levels of maturity are simply not the same, and that creates a potentially toxic power imbalance in the relationship. as a teenager i was always into older men but never dated one even though i wanted to, but looking back i'm glad i didn't. i thought i was sooo mature but in retrospect i know i wasn't ready to date, especially not grown men.

[John Slayne]

11 hours ago, Karla Cabello said:

always. not even when youre 18 you should be dating a 18 year old

lowkey this lmao i never found teenagers attractive even as a kid, it's such an awkward stage of life and there's nothing sexy 

[Tropez]

4 hours ago, CaptainMusic said:

So your fave Taylor who dated 18 year old guys when she was in her 20s is a predator? Interesting

Taylor is not my fave. 

[Attitude]

23 and up. Imagine being 28 and saying your partner is fresh out of high school.

 

[Blade]

21. You can go out and drink and your SO would have to wait 3 years?

Also at some point dating someone with "teen" in their age HAS to gross you out.

[CottageHore]

I mean you gotta question how someone awhile is out of college owns even possibly in the work force is developmentally even able to relate to where an 18 year old is at, either about to leave high school or just starting college. 

[Distantconstellation]

4 hours ago, Attitude said:

23 and up. Imagine being 28 and saying your partner is fresh out of high school.

 

I've never heard anyone say "fresh out of highschool". 

[Bussea]

social media and their obsession with age gap relationships and branding everything as “weird” is so annoying. 

[FreeXone]

I’d have sex with a 19 year old but I wouldn’t date one. I’m a cougar lol

[Giancor]

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[Giancor]

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[Giancor]

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[Giancor]

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[lauvender]

By 20-21 I’d say, what does anyone older even have in common with an 18 year old anyways? 

[lauvender]

By 20-21 I’d say, what does anyone older even have in common with an 18 year old anyways?