byzantium Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 Hmm. Depends on the individual. I would say maybe 22 is the ceiling. A senior in college dating a freshman isn’t really that weird.
Taste of Honey Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 Once you hit 18 I’m ok with 4-5 years up. So 22-23 on that end. After that it’s kinda weird for me. I mean, y’all can be friends but a relationship is kinda weird in that particular age range, personally. I’m 30 so I’m ok down to like 25, and on the upper end maybe 36-37 at the most.
Nightingale Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 I remember being in college and thinking those outside of college being so old. Even if you want to add a couple of years, I still think 25+ would be weird
Armani? Posted December 12, 2022 Author Posted December 12, 2022 (edited) Btw, when I was 14 my 1st Homecoming date was 17 (a few months away from 18 actually)? I didn't even really realise how big the age difference was till now tbh. But we were childhood friends, so that's how that worked out (although I had a small crush at the time). I was friends with her whole family & brothers & younger sisters. I would go over their house and have sleepovers sometimes @Devin @Thinking Of You Edited December 12, 2022 by Armani?
Vrx. Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 21 tbh If you’re over 21 and dating under 21 it’s weird like you can’t even legally grab cigs or a drink with them idk
jezebelvictoria Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 1 hour ago, BOOMBAYAH said: You sound desperate no shade And? I love d.
Devin Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 11 minutes ago, Armani? said: Btw, when I was 14 my 1st Homecoming date was 17 (a few months away from 18 actually)? I didn't even really realise how big the age difference was till now tbh. But we were childhood friends, so that's how that worked out (although I had a small crush at the time). I was friends with her whole family & brothers & younger sisters. I would go over their house and have sleepovers sometimes @Devin @Thinking Of You 14 and 17 isn’t too bad considering y’all both kids in high school. Plus y’all being childhood friends. It be different if they was outta high school.
Armani? Posted December 12, 2022 Author Posted December 12, 2022 8 minutes ago, Devin said: 14 and 17 isn’t too bad considering y’all both kids in high school. Plus y’all being childhood friends. It be different if they was outta high school. Yeah... I think she had graduated that year so she was technically out
mintpasty Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 I’m actually concerned at the responses here Even if 18 is technically legal, 18 year olds are still children mentally. The limit is 21 or 22, 23+ and older is weird and yes borderline pedophilic. Why would you be a 23/24+ year old and want to be around an 18 year old? Very different stages of development.
Archetype Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 (edited) I’d say if you’ve graduated from college, whether you are 21 or 23, you should veer away from dating 18 year olds. Honestly, I loved dating older guys when I was 17-18 and thought nothing was wrong with this, but realized a few years later how f***ing gross it is for people with a fully developed and mature mind to actually commit to dating someone who just graduated from HS. Actual psycho behavior Edited December 12, 2022 by Archetype
Youtakemehigher Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 (edited) 21/22 i think. 18 year olds are literally idiots still. Edited December 12, 2022 by Youtakemehigher
Guest Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 3 hours ago, Cheers said: 20. Why would you date someone you can’t legally drink with for 3 years? It’s weird!
duybeeGAshantiGA Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 The weird thing here is yall and your judgemental mindset
Gorjesspazze9 Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 No one in the real world cares who you date or marry after 21. Your brain might not be fully developed but you know exact what you are doing when you’re 20.
Nazareth Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 It just depends on the situation and I don’t think it’s weird to date someone that’s a lot older, especially if you bond as people. One of my exes was 20 years older than me and was more than just a boyfriend, we were together for quite a while. I never once felt pressured to do anything and would’ve stayed with him if it wasn’t for societal reasons. I’m not with that person anymore, but we’re still very good friends.
Distantconstellation Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 1 hour ago, mintpasty said: I’m actually concerned at the responses here Even if 18 is technically legal, 18 year olds are still children mentally. The limit is 21 or 22, 23+ and older is weird and yes borderline pedophilic. Why would you be a 23/24+ year old and want to be around an 18 year old? Very different stages of development. Why would a 35 year old be around a 60 or 70 year old?
Distantconstellation Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 I would personally never date anyone but to me I see no difference between someone who is 18 years old and 75 year olds. Once u are legal, then I see both as adults. I'm not too concerned with what atrl thinks is right or wrong, if atrl starts paying my bills then I might give it a second thought, otherwise nope.
KMO Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 (edited) I think 21-22 is the upper limit as well, for a relationship. Anything older, and you’re at such different stages of life that it wouldn’t last anyway. For just sex, I’d say getting close to 30 is pushing it. But if you’re exclusively seeking out 18 year olds as you continue to get older, that’s very weird and I can’t condone that. Edited December 12, 2022 by KMO
KMO Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 32 minutes ago, Distantconstellation said: Why would a 35 year old be around a 60 or 70 year old? They say that by 30, your brain is basically fully developed and your personality is set. By then, your career is more or less on the track it’ll be on, and you’re independent. I think once you hit 30, age gaps are mostly irrelevant. Yes, people will still judge a 70 year old for dating someone as young as 30, but they won’t be seen as predatory. Just weird or maybe insecure?
aesthetic bih Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 7 hours ago, Devin said: Anything 21+ deserves a side eye. This
MoonGoodandHappy Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 (edited) 19 Edited December 12, 2022 by MoonGoodandHappy
Karla Cabello Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 always. not even when youre 18 you should be dating a 18 year old
Kingpin Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 Going by the half your age + 7 rule it would be 22 which I don’t see a problem. But 18 year olds are legally adults where I live (can buy alcohol etc)
vale9001 Posted December 12, 2022 Posted December 12, 2022 Americans as always think they are the centre of the universe. In the rest of the world you can drink at 18 and buys alcohol at 16. And you can drink privately even if you're 10. We love our excellent wine. Of course you can't relate. At 18 you're an adult. If you're 30 and in a relationship with someone 18 is kinda weird cause life is really in different stages. It's not like 52 and 40, that's make sense also in a relationship of course. Sometimes I read americans being against this kind of situations too If it's just sex at 18 you are completely sexually formed and you're an adult (this is why in every country age consent is at around 16. ) so i don't see what is a difference to **** for 5 minutes in a bar with someone 23-25 or 28. It's just sex, not a relationship.
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