discussion I got gay bashed today, but I'm gonna power through.

[JoeAg]

Just now, TaggedGalaxy said:

You didn't fight back?

 

I would have blacked the **** out

if he had gone a few seconds longer I probably would've started kicking but like it happened SO quickly that I couldn't wrap my mind entirely around it before he walked away. I use to have way sharper reflexes cause I did muay thai throughout 2019, but tbh I should definitely get back into martial arts or working out in general cause of this. i'm a man with a pretty small frame, everyone in my fam has a similar physique tbh

[imabadkid]

OMG this is so scary. I'm sorry you had to go through this... it's also a reminder that YES we have come a long way, especially when I look at Gen Z BUT there's still A LOT of work to be done and situations like this are a reminder, there's still a lot of evil out there.

[imabadkid]

6 minutes ago, TaggedGalaxy said:

You didn't fight back?

 

I would have blacked the **** out

I feel like it's easy to say that from the comfort of your phone/laptop but when you're in the situation no one knows how they'd react tbh

[JoeAg]

11 minutes ago, Alfred said:

God damn this is awful. Im so sorry @JoeAg I’ve been to Denver a few times and honestly would never expect this kind of thing to happen there in broad daylight.

 

I also hope this doesn’t stop you from taking those midday walks. F*ck that guy. He’s a piece of sh*t and has no power over you. So take all the time you need processing this, talk to a therapist or family/friends for support bc this is a traumatic attack. So sorry. Sending my support to you through this forum.

 

10 minutes ago, OreGuy said:

all love hun, glad you are safe and alive... which is something that man wouldn't be in the very near future.

 

10 minutes ago, StormFury said:

This reminds me of the time a homophobe tried to smash my head through a window. In past threads I've said I've never faced homophobia but that isn't true. I just prefered to keep it under wraps then.

 

Homophobia is terrifying and I'm so glad you're alive and ok

thanks babes 

 

also @StormFury i'm so sorry that happened to you babe ? you know i'm always here if you wanna talk about it

[JoeAg]

Just now, imabadkid said:

I feel like it's easy to say that from the comfort of your phone/laptop but when you're in the situation no one knows how they'd react tbh

THIS

like I totally get the notion, cause now as I'm sitting on my bed I'm like "f*ck I just wanna knee that guy so hard in the nuts" but in the moment it felt like time kind of stood still

[Yog]

@JoeAg I’m so sorry and I’m absolutely furious this happened to you, that motherfucker will get his at the end, I’m just glad your alive & breathing, absolutely unacceptable & disgusting 

[JoeAg]

Just now, Yog said:

@JoeAg I’m so sorry and I’m absolutely furious this happened to you, that motherfucker will get his at the end, I’m just glad your alive & breathing, absolutely unacceptable & disgusting 

thanks babe  yeah i'm glad it didn't go the WORST it could've gone yknow

[sugarysunflower]

I would take this as a sign, and sign up for some self defence classes or practice with your siblings 

 

unfortunately if this encounter repeated (which has a higher likelihood to out LGBT members), you kick their ass into the ground and leave you alone

 

very sorry to read about your tragic ordeal ?

[Yog]

2 minutes ago, JoeAg said:

thanks babe  yeah i'm glad it didn't go the WORST it could've gone yknow

Absolutely, I’m just glad you’re safe 

Edited October 14, 2022 by Yog

[BtDecember]

This kind of incidents makes me think of getting a body cam. I live in Canada and people here are generally nice but won’t still trust other people.

 

By the way, sorry that you experienced that, OP! Hope you get a nice Starbucks soon and that ignoramus a jail time. 

[Attitude]

I'm so sorry this happened to you OP. There's a lot of crazies in the world. 

 

Buy a taser and maybe enroll in some self defense classes. Better safe than sorry. 

 

 

[CandleGuy]

33 minutes ago, JoeAg said:

ugh this is why being mentally ill is so f*cking difficult sometimes because I know at my core that I did nothing wrong, but at the same time I'm like "oh sh*t I shouldve been more prepared. where did my muay thai crazy instincts I had a few years ago go? ahhh I'm just a weakling" like this is the WORST time for intrusive thoughts and yet they still manage to sneak in 

It's completely normal to want to feel in control. One of the most difficult realities to deal with is that the world is ******* chaos. We are not in control. Awful **** like this can happen to anyone, anytime, anywhere. 

 

The universe's chaos chose you at that moment in time and there is no part of you that is at fault, at all, for what happened.

 

 

28 minutes ago, JoeAg said:

thanks, and yeah I was wearing somewhat of a feminine long sleeved crop top my ex girlfriend gave me at one point. it's so like... there are so many nuances here at play I'm just now thinking about because i'm definitely the most in-touch-with-my-feminine-side bisexual guy I know and a lot of bi and gay guys can have that more masc privilege. idk I like to think i straddle androgyny pretty well. like yeah i'm 5'6 but i can grow a pretty impressive beard/mustache. idk I think I need to bulk up again

I hope you don't let this event stop you from being you. That's what people like this ******* want. The best revenge is to continue to be unapologetically you.

 

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope you have the means to talk to someone to help you process this.

[Aston Martin]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Not only do I hope that this man gets caught, but I hope that the rest of his life is filled with misery and suffering. I wish you a speedy recovery, both physically as well as from any trauma that results from this. People are horrible. 

[JoeAg]

15 minutes ago, BtDecember said:

This kind of incidents makes me think of getting a body cam. I live in Canada and people here are generally nice but won’t still trust other people.

 

By the way, sorry that you experienced that, OP! Hope you get a nice Starbucks soon and that ignoramus a jail time. 

honestly that's a pretty great idea I didn't really consider before. like some of us said a bit earlier, Denver has a reputation for being a pretty safe city, but this just shook me to my core... I could have never predicted this sort of thing happening in MY neighborhood

 

and thanks 

[JoeAg]

18 minutes ago, Attitude said:

I'm so sorry this happened to you OP. There's a lot of crazies in the world. 

 

Buy a taser and maybe enroll in some self defense classes. Better safe than sorry. 

 

 

 

20 minutes ago, sugarysunflower said:

I would take this as a sign, and sign up for some self defence classes or practice with your siblings 

 

unfortunately if this encounter repeated (which has a higher likelihood to out LGBT members), you kick their ass into the ground and leave you alone

 

very sorry to read about your tragic ordeal ?

honestly yeah i'm gonna look into it

it's kind of a difficult thing because I also have a f*cked up right shoulder from sparring with a friend back that same year i did a lot of muay thai  so I should definitely get my shoulder surgery and get right to self defense again after I'm healed from that

[JoeAg]

15 minutes ago, CandleGuy said:

It's completely normal to want to feel in control. One of the most difficult realities to deal with is that the world is ******* chaos. We are not in control. Awful **** like this can happen to anyone, anytime, anywhere. 

 

The universe's chaos chose you at that moment in time and there is no part of you that is at fault, at all, for what happened.

 

 

I hope you don't let this event stop you from being you. That's what people like this ******* want. The best revenge is to continue to be unapologetically you.

 

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope you have the means to talk to someone to help you process this.

oh I could never not continue being myself tbh

that's one of the things about me, no matter how hard i've tried to turn off my queerness or effeminacy or anything like that, when I was still going through all my self-deprecating outsider sh*t in high school... for better or for worse it's impossible to turn it off. i like to think i have a pretty strong personality which can be unusual to some but is ultimately mostly positively eccentric

 

and thank ya  you're so damn right on here

[Bubble Tea]

Omg that is crazy - completely out of the blue and unprovoked PUNCHING???

 

I'm so sorry - hope you recover 100% and get back to normal with HASTE. F*ck that psycho! Jealous psycho behaviour.

[JoeAg]

17 minutes ago, Aston Martin said:

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Not only do I hope that this man gets caught, but I hope that the rest of his life is filled with misery and suffering. I wish you a speedy recovery, both physically as well as from any trauma that results from this. People are horrible. 

thanks  yeah i'm gonna keep telling people about this, and I definitely hope I heal from this sore ass chest soon enough lol

[Haus]

That’s just… revolting, and so traumatizing. I’m sorry bb, thank you for sharing. You’re right, we do need to get serious about self-defense. 
 

I had a couple falling/broken bone incidents last year and fainted and woke up on the floor this year so I think I know the kind of painful confusion you’re describing. But I’ve never been assaulted and the thought chills me to the core. 

 

Edited October 14, 2022 by Haus

[Pikachoo]

I can't believe that! Wow.. just wow. and in Denver too. you can live in a 'liberal city' and still have this happen to you. im sorry you went through this. I hope you're okay.

[Breathe On Moi]

That’s terrifying! I’m so sorry that happened to you babe. Don’t blame yourself, at all, it wasn’t you. 
 

There’s large community of drug addicts in Denver specially in areas like what you described. That + mentally ill, you just never know what to expect. Maybe you did the right thing by not fighting back, who knows what could have escalated. He’ll get his. 

[JustHoran]

I'm glad you're ok and that is terrifying! Also yeah being gay or LGBTQ+ we always need to have pepper spray, mace or a taser on us at all times tbh unfortunately. I need to get some too.

[Invisibility]

Very hard reading about what you experienced, please try to take care of yourself emotionally, even though there must be a thousand jumbled thoughts and feelings in your mind rn. You're supported here 

[insomniac]

I am so sorry this happened to you. Stay strong baby and don’t let it dim your light  Please remember this has nothing to do with you and it’s a problem of the assaulter that he can’t let others who are different from them just live. You keep being you and live out proudly! Don’t hold in any thoughts about this either, it can eat you up. It’s a very traumatic experience so seek some counseling if you aren’t able to continue normal life after a few weeks. Also, you did the right thing contacting the cops, and yes get some pepper spray for next time. 

[Dragonfly]

Wow, in the middle of the day at a busy spot? The nerve of that guy... or the mental instability. Take care!