nsst Posted October 18 Posted October 18 I've been thinking about this. Why is it that in gay relationships, the moment someone gets a little possessive, people are quick to label it as toxic? I mean, isn't it natural to feel a bit jealous or want to know what your partner's up to? I believe being possessive is just part of caring. If you don't care where your partner is or who they're talking to, do you really care at all? Look at straight couples. You'll see a lot of girls letting their boyfriends check their phones or ask who they're hanging out with, and they don't get mad about it. It's almost like, ''he's jealous because he cares,'' and honestly, that's true! It's not necessarily about being controlling, it's about wanting to stay close to the person you love. If someone cares about you, they're probably going to feel a little jealous, and i think that's totally normal... 1
Princess Aurora Posted October 18 Posted October 18 (edited) It depends on the degree. Also, too much jealousy is dangerous. Edited October 18 by Princess Aurora 4
Baby Dancer Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Let it out girl. Yeah, I can get possessive too. Spoiler If I'm seeing a guy and find out he's sleeping with someone else, I sleep with that person too. I've got to mark my territory. We just have to remember that people aren't possessions. 1
itshyolee Posted October 18 Posted October 18 It's depends on how possessive the person is because shite can turn left really quick…
itshyolee Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Just now, Baby Dancer said: Let it out girl. Yeah, I can get possessive too. Reveal hidden contents If I'm seeing a guy and find out he's sleeping with someone else, I sleep with that person too. I've got to mark my territory. We just have to remember that people aren't possessions. Girl have some class omg. 4
Quiqui4eva Posted October 18 Posted October 18 I only hear about this problem with straight couples tbh
Sheep Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Gay men tend to be more independent than our straight counterparts. Infringing on the freedom of somebody who's been oppressed in the way LGBT people are is a shitty move too. 1 1 5
gatito Posted October 18 Posted October 18 the fact that some people see it as normal doesn't mean that it's good 2
UnusualBoy Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Because most of time that possessiveness comes from jealousy or insecurity? 7 1
JO1s Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Gay men tend to focus their possessiveness on celebrity women instead of their relationships 1 2
nostalgic Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Period. If he isn't treating you like this then it's time to say sayonara 3
Badgalbriel Posted October 18 Posted October 18 21 minutes ago, nsst said: I've been thinking about this. Why is it that in gay relationships, the moment someone gets a little possessive, people are quick to label it as toxic? I mean, isn't it natural to feel a bit jealous or want to know what your partner's up to? I believe being possessive is just part of caring. If you don't care where your partner is or who they're talking to, do you really care at all? Look at straight couples. You'll see a lot of girls letting their boyfriends check their phones or ask who they're hanging out with, and they don't get mad about it. It's almost like, ''he's jealous because he cares,'' and honestly, that's true! It's not necessarily about being controlling, it's about wanting to stay close to the person you love. If someone cares about you, they're probably going to feel a little jealous, and i think that's totally normal... dude, it's not normal in straight relationships either. the f? 5 3
LittleStarmen Posted October 18 Posted October 18 (edited) I think its because you only hear that it is a problem when it is a problem, so you only hear the bad cases when there is positive aspects to it (feeling jealous is cute too, if its not harmfull) Edited October 18 by LittleStarmen
Dolce Vita Posted October 18 Posted October 18 but that's not normal in straight relationships? i can understand being a bit jealous or whatever but regularly checking your boyfriends phone and demanding to know where they are 24/7 is crazy. 1 6
gatito Posted October 18 Posted October 18 (edited) 7 minutes ago, nostalgic said: Period. If he isn't treating you like this then it's time to say sayonara when will you realize that life isn't a lana del rey song? some of y'all really need to seek help/jesus Edited October 18 by gatito
sha-nasty Posted October 18 Posted October 18 I get EXTREMELY turned on when my man gets jealous and possessive
nsst Posted October 18 Author Posted October 18 13 minutes ago, UnusualBoy said: Because most of time that possessiveness comes from jealousy or insecurity? i mean, if you genuinely care about someone, wanting to keep them close isn't necessarily a red flag. it's just part of being human, right? so it's natural to feel a bit insecure sometimes, especially if you're invested in the relationship
nsst Posted October 18 Author Posted October 18 (edited) 21 minutes ago, Dolce Vita said: but that's not normal in straight relationships? i can understand being a bit jealous or whatever but regularly checking your boyfriends phone and demanding to know where they are 24/7 is crazy. tbf a little control can be normal, especially when you really care about someone. it's not about trying to dictate their every move, it's more about wanting to ensure they're safe and happy.. if someone is invested in a relationship, it makes sense that they'd want to keep an eye on things Edited October 18 by nsst
IBeMe Posted October 18 Posted October 18 I find it sexy personally. I want to feel like u own me and I own you (in a cute way lol)
nsst Posted October 18 Author Posted October 18 (edited) 31 minutes ago, Badgalbriel said: dude, it's not normal in straight relationships either. the f? it is there's definitely a double standard when it comes to possessiveness in relationships. in straight relationships if a guy shows a bit of jealousy or wants to check on his girlfriend, it's often seen as cute and caring.. but in gay relationships, the same behavior gets labeled quickly as toxic Edited October 18 by nsst
Badgalbriel Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Just now, nsst said: it is though there's definitely a double standard when it comes to possessiveness in relationships. in straight relationships if a guy shows a bit of jealousy or wants to check on his girlfriend, it's often seen as cute and caring.. but in gay relationships, the same behavior gets labeled quickly as toxic No it doesn't. Only actually toxic behavior is labeled as toxic behavior.
Badgalbriel Posted October 18 Posted October 18 8 minutes ago, nsst said: tbf a little control can be normal, especially when you really care about someone. it's not about trying to dictate their every move, it's more about wanting to ensure they're safe and happy.. if someone is invested in a relationship, it makes sense that they'd want to keep an eye on things This is not possessiveness..... 8 minutes ago, nsst said:
Katamari Posted October 18 Posted October 18 38 minutes ago, nostalgic said: Period. If he isn't treating you like this then it's time to say sayonara who r these ppl @nsst 1
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