Popular Post Archetype Posted July 16 Popular Post Posted July 16 The real answer is to become a monk and dedicate your life to translating ancient texts. Only in those texts will you find the wisdom required to navigate this situation. 18
Santhosh Posted July 16 Posted July 16 The nerve Maybe he is bored of you Just like how you bored of your husband and vice-versa 3
katara Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) 18 minutes ago, Santhosh said: The nerve Maybe he is bored of you Just like how you bored of your husband and vice-versa The irony of OP being mad the BF is bored with him when OP only got the BF in the first place coz OP is bored with his husband But narcs cannot self-reflect like that Edited July 16 by katara 1
katara Posted July 16 Posted July 16 Honestly I only feel bad for the 60 yo husband in all of this. It's pretty clear he was happy being in a mono marriage but OP got bored/unsatisfied with him and wanted to open the marriage and the husband being so old knew that he can either oblige or end up single. Now the BF is giving OP a taste of his own medicine 4 1
NextBish90 Posted July 16 Posted July 16 8 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: Update: spoke with my husband and he understands why it's upsetting me but did say we need to cut him a little slack since he's young and obviously likes talking to guys. But he did have some great ideas such as getting a joint account on the apps and/or him being up front and open on who he's talking to for extended periods of time. He did say though that if he's caught cheating, he's gone and I agree. Either way, the golden rule at home still applies - no signing in on the apps while we're all spending time together. He's coming over tomorrow so we can have a discussion. My husband did a great job at listening to my concerns and calmed me a bit. Just no. No,no,no,no,no. It's your choice, but no. I feel sorry for the twink or whatever he is. You don't need a joined account. He doesn't have to explain to you if he goes beyond 500 symbols texting with someone. This is such a mess. Make it all open for him and ask him what his needs are. He shouldn't feel in a prison on feel you as parents. Btw out of curiosity how old are the 3 of you?
Illuminati Posted July 16 Posted July 16 10 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: I'm 39, husband is 60, our bf is 28. If yall ever look for a 4th I'm also 28 8
tost1 Posted July 16 Posted July 16 10 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: I'm 39, husband is 60, our bf is 28. And the bf is now probably looking for someone who is 19... I hope it stops there 3
Cyanide Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) After dealing with an ex-friend who was a narcissist, I can already see so many similarities between her and OP -Tells stories in completely skewed perspective to absolve themselves of any responsibility and play victim -Hypersensitive about their own needs while completely indifferent towards everyone else's -Unable to take accountability for the role they play in negative situations… -Manipulative and controlling -Needs interpersonal relationship dynamics to revolve around them Edited July 16 by Cyanide 10
NEX Posted July 16 Posted July 16 10 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: I'm 39, husband is 60, our bf is 28. It's giving grandad, father and son 13
Badgalbriel Posted July 16 Posted July 16 Omg this story is crazy I don't wanna say what I think cause I don't wanna get banned 1
Rider Posted July 16 Posted July 16 1 minute ago, Badgalbriel said: Omg this story is crazy I don't wanna say what I think cause I don't wanna get banned It's giving very much the Folklore love triangle ATRL edition. 5
Rider Posted July 16 Posted July 16 I can't stop laughing at everyone being on OP's side at first and then the sheer amount of shock at finding out there's a husband involved in here. 5
Badgalbriel Posted July 16 Posted July 16 Just now, Rider said: It's giving very much the Folklore love triangle ATRL edition.
cuteboyzay Posted July 16 Posted July 16 It's the way this thread BACKFIRED!!! This is why I love the Gays!
cuteboyzay Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) 10 minutes ago, Rider said: I can't stop laughing at everyone being on OP's side at first and then the sheer amount of shock at finding out there's a husband involved in here. I literally wrote like 4 paragraphs giving advice, and then I read more and found out about the husband and deleted EVERYTHINGGG. And re-wrote EVERYTHINGGG. Edited July 16 by cuteboyzay 11
Burn Posted July 16 Posted July 16 1 hour ago, Illuminati said: If yall ever look for a 4th I'm also 28 Sorry sis I think you're too old. 60 > 40 (20 year difference) 40 > 28 (~10 year difference) By that logic the 4th will need to be at least 5 years younger. 23-year-old ATRLers, shoot your shot! 2
Daddy Posted July 16 Posted July 16 16 hours ago, Cheers said: How yall be fawking every single day? That's an addiction cause hooking up every (other) day sounds exhausting as hell. 1
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