tost1 Posted July 15 Posted July 15 1 minute ago, Oktober Knight said: Nothing would change between my husband and I, we'd be back to where we were 10 months ago But if your husband still wants to be with him or vice versa? Wouldn't that be weird?
psychodiva336 Posted July 15 Posted July 15 He's wasting your time. Be serious and have some self respect… clearly you want / expect different things from this relationship. This feels like a big slap in the face to me! Best wishes to you. You deserve someone who's willing to get on your level
Littlejfrey Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Now why this thread reminded me of this? I don't know, this is exactly why I wouldn't be in an open relationship, it all gets too complicated and limits get confusing if you are in a open relationship with your husband, why can't the other guy be in a open relationship with other people? Ok, so you guys talked and agreed it was a closed relationship between the three of you, but it just not logical! Why you guys can but he can't? You're either open, or closed, not this in between situation... you can't have it all sis. 8
Burn Posted July 15 Posted July 15 7 minutes ago, Slayn said: If you have a husband and BOTH have this bf, why would you want this third wheel to be only devoted to you guys anyway? Seems wrong to the third party to me, but if you're annoyed dump him I guess.. I don't know how easy it would be to find someone willing to be in the kind of relationship you are describing. ‼️ Like how can you want a fluid/open relationship or whatever the hell it's called, but that 'fluidity' only applies to the two in the married couple and they want to restrict what the 'third' does. Chi... 9 4
UnusualBoy Posted July 15 Posted July 15 (edited) Normal relantionships are complicated, why complicate it more by adding another person? that screams trouble Anyway, your "bf" doesn't take what you guys have as something serious so why waste time on him? Dump him and move on. Edited July 15 by UnusualBoy
Badgalbriel Posted July 15 Posted July 15 3 minutes ago, Littlejfrey said: Now why this thread reminded me of this? I don't know, this is exactly why I wouldn't be in an open relationship, it all gets too complicated and limits get confusing if you are in a open relationship with your husband, why can't the other guy be in a open relationship with other people? Ok, so you guys talked and agreed it was a closed relationship between the three of you, but it just not logical! Why you guys can but he can't? You're either open, or closed, not this in between situation... you can't have it all sis. Waitttt this makes so much sense. If you two are open, why is this guy closed?
Raver Posted July 15 Posted July 15 You have a husband and a boyfriend? You and your husband are essentially open but you want to be closed/exclusive with the boyfriend? You know that's not fair, no matter how you paint it. Op I felt bad for you in the beginning but the revelation of the husband threw that right out the window. You bring the drama to yourself 6
simplywohoo Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Wait what happened to that throuple you had with that one other guy
Maxxie Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Is this what gay dating has become? What's wrong with monogamy 2 6
crymelanie Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Girl what is this get a grip yall have no dignity when im dickless here DELETE.
iHype. Posted July 15 Posted July 15 The way you purposely left out him being the third wheel in a marriage to make you seem in the right There really is two sides to every story lmao. 6 1
ATRL Administrator Ryan Posted July 15 ATRL Administrator Posted July 15 Break up with your boyfriend.
Venice B Posted July 15 Posted July 15 3 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: and even when we're out and about and he's logged in 3 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: they have been snapping each other every day for a week and it seems he was a guy he hooked up with years ago that contacted him recently. They exchanged nudes, flirted a lot, and talked about how much fun they had years ago in bed 3 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: When I asked about us deleting the apps all together, he gave a firm no, claiming that he wants to make more friends for us and likes flirting with others without any intention to meet them oh my god just LEAVE that man what the ****
Carla Rosón Posted July 15 Posted July 15 1 minute ago, Venice B said: oh my god just LEAVE that man what the **** read the whole thread his hypocrite ass deserves all of it 1
Venice B Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Just now, Carla Rosón said: read the whole thread his hypocrite ass deserves all of it i just got to the throuple plotwist and i'm honestly so confused 3
Dessy Posted July 15 Posted July 15 I understand wanting boundaries, even in a poly relationship, but it seems like this dude signaled his intentions early on anyway and you chose to ignore that sign to the point of being suspicious enough to go through his messages. This was never going to work.
iHype. Posted July 15 Posted July 15 OP you honestly give scary level of narcissist/manipulative. 1. People who tend to have multiple partners are narcissists even if the partners in question are okay with it. (Just imagine how narcissistic men with 10 wives are) 2. From the information given it seems you are the ones who sets the controls and boundaries on all ends. You told your husband you wanted to open the relationship into 3, while also you are telling the third person how they should operate. 3. You specifically knew positioning the story as a monogamous relationship when telling it would work completely in your favor and acted like you just casually decided not to be transparent. I find it hard to believe every detail you left out was something you weren't purposely aware would make your character come off questionable. The best advice I have is to simply recognize this all looks a mess and should probably be ended to save all parties trouble if you clearly aren't on the same page with the dynamics of the relationship. 5
Mephisto Posted July 15 Posted July 15 omg this thread I would advise your bf to break up with you+your husband asap.
DAP Posted July 15 Posted July 15 3 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: Yes I was trying to dodge confusion for the members that didn't know So may as well give the full spectrum. My husband stopped using the apps early on and he doesn't give AF about our bf chatting with other guys. HOWEVER, he did say that if it bothers me so much that I need to speak up. And if our bf isn't willing to comply then a decision needs to be made. My husband is very neutral in this situation. I don't mean to be crass but it sounds like you are more into the boyfriend than your husband is. 2
Cyanide Posted July 15 Posted July 15 Incompatible. Also don't let him gaslight you into feeling like you're insecure or that this is normal or respectful
drip drop Posted July 15 Posted July 15 41 minutes ago, Ryan said: Break up with your boyfriend. which one
ATRL Administrator Ryan Posted July 15 ATRL Administrator Posted July 15 Just now, drip drop said: which one Aren’t him and his husband in a throuple with the boyfriend?
katara Posted July 15 Posted July 15 This is such a joke LOL. I hope that BF leaves you and your husband for his own sake. 1
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