Oktober Knight Posted July 16 Author Posted July 16 1 hour ago, katara said: Honestly I only feel bad for the 60 yo husband in all of this. It's pretty clear he was happy being in a mono marriage but OP got bored/unsatisfied with him and wanted to open the marriage and the husband being so old knew that he can either oblige or end up single. Now the BF is giving OP a taste of his own medicine It was my husband's idea to form the throuple boo. Just like it was his idea for him and I to be open 2 years ago up until our bf came along. Y'all acting like you knew exactly what happened with your assumptions.
Cain Posted July 16 Posted July 16 1 hour ago, katara said: Honestly I only feel bad for the 60 yo husband in all of this. It's pretty clear he was happy being in a mono marriage but OP got bored/unsatisfied with him and wanted to open the marriage and the husband being so old knew that he can either oblige or end up single. Now the BF is giving OP a taste of his own medicine If you read the OP's posts they actually say the husband wanted to open the relationship tho 1
Young In Love Posted July 16 Posted July 16 the husband reveal omg this is def going into atrl history books also this gave me such an insight into what goes on bts of those joint Grindr accounts, i always found them so messy, it's one guy and then a random couple pic like 4
Burn Posted July 16 Posted July 16 2 minutes ago, Cain said: If you read the OP's posts they actually say the husband wanted to open the relationship tho But isn't that just because the 60yo couldn't fulfil the 40yo's sexual desires? I imagine it was a case of the 60yo not wanting to lose his husband so he told the 40yo he can sleep with someone else because that was better than losing him. Quite sad really. OP should've just got a dildo.
katara Posted July 16 Posted July 16 9 minutes ago, Oktober Knight said: It was my husband's idea to form the throuple boo. Just like it was his idea for him and I to be open 2 years ago up until our bf came along. Y'all acting like you knew exactly what happened with your assumptions. Oh sorry i thought that because you wrote your husband doesn't care that it wasn't his idea to get a third. I think all 3 of you should have a long honest talk about what everyone wants and needs and set some clearly defined boundaries.
Oktober Knight Posted July 16 Author Posted July 16 18 minutes ago, Burn said: But isn't that just because the 60yo couldn't fulfil the 40yo's sexual desires? I imagine it was a case of the 60yo not wanting to lose his husband so he told the 40yo he can sleep with someone else because that was better than losing him. Quite sad really. OP should've just got a dildo. How was that implied? I like how some of you are automatically thinking this throuple thing was taylor made for me. It all came naturally and just fell into place
Oktober Knight Posted July 16 Author Posted July 16 19 minutes ago, katara said: Oh sorry i thought that because you wrote your husband doesn't care that it wasn't his idea to get a third. I think all 3 of you should have a long honest talk about what everyone wants and needs and set some clearly defined boundaries. He doesn't care about our bf wanting to be open but knows it bothers me as I want a closed triangle, hence why he's willing to go with whatever flow we choose. The 3 of us are having a good long talk tonight.
Badgalbriel Posted July 16 Posted July 16 9 minutes ago, Oktober Knight said: How was that implied? I like how some of you are automatically thinking this throuple thing was taylor made for me. It all came naturally and just fell into place Stop bringing Taylor into everything! Jk 2
Burn Posted July 16 Posted July 16 9 minutes ago, Oktober Knight said: How was that implied? I like how some of you are automatically thinking this throuple thing was taylor made for me. It all came naturally and just fell into place Ok, I'll accept I was wrong to jump to that conclusion. I was trying to think of a reason why anyone in their 60s would want to enter this kind of arrangement, but only you and your husband know your reasons, so I'm sorry and I hope your conversation tonight goes well! 1
Blade Runner Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) Asking this on ATRL where lonely/unloved gays are going to project their insecurities onto your relationship, lol Edit: Reread the thread. You're just a troll. Edited July 16 by Blade Runner
no_better Posted July 16 Posted July 16 At first I wanted to say I'm sorry baby and you should move on but now hearing you've got an actual husband... Of course bfs behaviour would be unacceptable in a monogamous relationship but maybe he feels justified to do what he does given your specific relational dynamic? If he doesn't want to let go of the apps, and you don't want him to use them, then it's a goodbye
Gaia Posted July 16 Posted July 16 20 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: Yes I was trying to dodge confusion for the members that didn't know So may as well give the full spectrum. My husband stopped using the apps early on and he doesn't give AF about our bf chatting with other guys. HOWEVER, he did say that if it bothers me so much that I need to speak up. And if our bf isn't willing to comply then a decision needs to be made. My husband is very neutral in this situation. I'm screaming at this whole situation. The jealousy with an added bf into the marriage what is going awn
Namie-Knowles Posted July 16 Posted July 16 41 minutes ago, Click Clack said: also, i had no idea the OP is a white man The Soul Train gif manipulated me.
judasmonster Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) expecting someone almost half your ages to be exclusive with y'all is unreasonable, they're younger and prob don't want to settle down yet or at a different part of their life than y'all. Maybe finding a third person closer to y'alls age, then y'all will be in more agreement with each other. Edited July 16 by judasmonster
Johnny Jacobs Posted July 16 Posted July 16 22 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: he understood my disapproval but insisted he could still use the apps to flirt or connect with others for friendships (I don't mind flirting or nude exchanges). Imma give it to you straight. That was your problem. You can't allow him to do something that will make you feel uncomfortable later on. He's not at fault tbh. You should make yourself clear.
X~MoviePoP Posted July 16 Posted July 16 Lowkey the guy i was seeing whose now back with his ex...and i bet his ex doesnt know we were f**king for 8 months and even during that time he was still on grindr..so i know hes gonna cheat on his ex again soon but the guy owes me money and has some of my clothes..yet he blocked me on everything.. what do i do? Cause im over the drama.
orange22 Posted July 16 Posted July 16 4 minutes ago, X~MoviePoP said: Lowkey the guy i was seeing whose now back with his ex...and i bet his ex doesnt know we were f**king for 8 months and even during that time he was still on grindr..so i know hes gonna cheat on his ex again soon but the guy owes me money and has some of my clothes..yet he blocked me on everything.. what do i do? Cause im over the drama. Go get your clothes, send the Venmo request, and DM the ex
Oktober Knight Posted July 16 Author Posted July 16 51 minutes ago, Johnny Jacobs said: Imma give it to you straight. That was your problem. You can't allow him to do something that will make you feel uncomfortable later on. He's not at fault tbh. You should make yourself clear. Well there's a fine line between innocent chatting with nude exchange on Grindr and a consistent Snapchat friendship where he's texting/sexting all day every day and possibly arranging to meet. That's where I felt like the line was crossed.
X~MoviePoP Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) 27 minutes ago, orange22 said: Go get your clothes, send the Venmo request, and DM the ex I tried getting my clothes and the money, showed up to his place but he snapped at me and isnt responding, and i just want my stuff thats all. I dont even want him anymore So now im waiting a few days for him to calm down before i try contacting him again. Edited July 16 by X~MoviePoP
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