simplywohoo Posted Wednesday at 07:49 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 07:49 PM So today I had a little bit of beef with a gay on tiktok and he said it's not a big deal and that no gay will take it in a bad way if you're being asked THEE question. And when I thought about it a little I came to the conclusion that I actually do? Like first of all, why is it relevant to them? Why do they feel they have the right to ask ? I think it also plays along stereotypes because if you're being asked out of the blue, it's probably bc you act a certain way and that's the reason why they felt they have the right to ask. Like it's not a huuuge deal to me, especially not now as an adult and it's not like i stop talking to people after that, but back then it made me feel VERY uncomfortable, ESPECIALLY before I came out. Imo it's very invasive and lbr nowadays there's no need to ask anything like this in the first place. I also think most gays aren't exactly thrilled with this question. But what do you think about it ? Am I taking this too seriously ? 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smartalek22 Posted Wednesday at 07:56 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 07:56 PM No 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Aurora Posted Wednesday at 07:57 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 07:57 PM No 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kayseri Mantisi Posted Wednesday at 07:58 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 07:58 PM It depends on the person & the context for me 8 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LCTV Posted Wednesday at 08:00 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:00 PM Yes. its annoying 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darius Posted Wednesday at 08:00 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:00 PM I think it's weirder when people try to ask without asking ("sooo....anyone SPECIAL in your life???"). Esp coworkers and such 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexrex Posted Wednesday at 08:00 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:00 PM If it comes out of nowhere, it can be a little awkward. But whatever. There are more interesting questions to answer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cesar Posted Wednesday at 08:02 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:02 PM no unless they are asking with a underlying motive 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Jacobs Posted Wednesday at 08:06 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:06 PM Yes it's luke asking if you're pregnant. If i want you to know you would've known. People nowdays loves to get inside people's underwear. Its rude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatyPrismSpirit Posted Wednesday at 08:07 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:07 PM yes its rude. and most of the time, people only ask this with a negative connotation. especially if ur a poc 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Into The Void Posted Wednesday at 08:13 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:13 PM No I don't get bothered like that 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GentleEarthquake Posted Wednesday at 08:27 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:27 PM Yes, I think it's extremely impolite Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bosque Posted Wednesday at 08:29 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:29 PM No, why would I? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChooseyLover Posted Wednesday at 08:31 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:31 PM (edited) I think it could be annoying. The last time it happened to me it was very uncomfortable and uncalled for. My Greek/Latin personal teacher asked me the question without any context or anything. I didn't even know how to react. Edited Wednesday at 08:32 PM by ChooseyLover Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
visions Posted Wednesday at 08:34 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 08:34 PM Context matters ig, if I'm shopping and a group of "lads" came up giggling and asked me I'd be bothered and wanna fight a bit. If I'm in a gay club, no it wouldn't bother me. These are the extreme different ends but I think it's pretty easy to tell what the intentions are behind the question. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
montacelo Posted Wednesday at 09:00 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 09:00 PM (edited) I guess context matters. But it's not like we go up to straight people and randomly ask them if they're straight, right? Edited Wednesday at 09:00 PM by montacelo 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trent W Posted Wednesday at 09:17 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 09:17 PM I get really annoyed because Im pushing 30 and no marriage in sight I never got bothered with this BS when I was younger And is not the part gay that bothers me, is mostly the fact that most people can't process the idea that some people just want to be single for a while. People are so invasive and stupid I'm bi but very private about my personal life( I date men and women). Why are people sooo interested in other's romantic life? Like there is so much more to life than finding a partner I hate society for this tbh. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gladiator Posted Wednesday at 09:33 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 09:33 PM Not really, but I haven't been asked that since middle school. I am straight passing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dumbsparce Posted Wednesday at 09:39 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 09:39 PM (edited) It's only a big deal bc your delusion of passing as a straight man has come to an abrupt end. Bet the opposite would be a compliment right? (ps we've all been there) Edited Wednesday at 09:41 PM by dumbsparce 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mirtilo Posted Wednesday at 09:50 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 09:50 PM Yes! It's none of your business Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LegaMyth Posted Wednesday at 09:54 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 09:54 PM That s*** will start a fight. Why does one want to know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiqui4eva Posted Wednesday at 10:19 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 10:19 PM Only if it's in a pointed or judgmental tone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theoghon Posted Wednesday at 10:21 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 10:21 PM Interestingly, someone did so at my workplace recently. I found it extremely awkward and uncalled for tbh, please mind your own business and keep pushing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trent W Posted Wednesday at 10:29 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 10:29 PM 6 minutes ago, theoghon said: Interestingly, someone did so at my workplace recently. I found it extremely awkward and uncalled for tbh, please mind your own business and keep pushing Just ask them if they wanna **** you or something, men or women would be embarrassed It's extremely invasive to ask this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nightingale Posted Wednesday at 10:36 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 10:36 PM It would make me feel a bit awkward but I think that's just my internal issues. I don't necessarily see it as rude if someone asks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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