Archetype Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 You guys are still having sex tho, just non penetrative. I will stress that as you get older, it becomes exponentially more difficult to meet people who you are genuinely interested in and attracted to. I feel like sides are growing in numbers and it’s just a reality that people will need to learn to cope with. If I had to choose one or the other, I would rather be with someone who I would want to spend the rest of my life with than someone who wants the D constantly. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frappucino Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 Sure, I’ll take him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Into The Void Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 2 hours ago, Asscatchem said: an android. :/ (no for real but he has an ipad/macbook) Oh hes a keeper. If he used a iPhone I would dump him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeingRicardo Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 My bf is a side and I do like topping or bottoming from time to time, we talked about it and he sometimes agrees to do it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cOe Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 I'm a side (no penetration) and that's not really a thing where you can find a compromise tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suburbannature Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 Y’all won’t last either way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilish Posted February 17 Share Posted February 17 I fear this might be a dealbreaker for you ATRL user “Ass”catchem 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maroonx Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Does he drink soda? coz if he does, u are doomed x 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tudors Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Leave you already lost interest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Life Savers Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Cheat on him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Funnyfatty Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Girl you don’t know ANYTHING about sex. I’m tired of this bullshit go educate yourself about sex, read some books about sex (not porn) and try again. Sometimes its the body experience, sometimes its the energy, sometimes the emotions. Sometimes all of them. I’m sure he will change for you if he thinks you look loyal and care about him. We all change for the person we love WHICH IS NOT TOXIC but your first thought being “should i leave him” is a red flag. + you need to realise that you can’t get everything you want in your life and that its not supposed to be like that. Otherwise everyone would be married to the same kind of people. you give us 10 different + traits 1 negative one and run here to ask if you should leave him. Pls do weirdo so he can find himself someone logical 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxlamb Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 get the bag sis and buy a toy with his money 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Mendes Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Honestly I would suggest you talk to him before you ask people on an online music forum whether or not you should just dump him. Talking to your partner about how you feel, what you're interested in, and what they're interested in is absolutely in all cases the first thing you should do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlyManInTheWorld Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Leave him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asscatchem Posted February 18 Author Share Posted February 18 8 hours ago, Funnyfatty said: Girl you don’t know ANYTHING about sex. I’m tired of this bullshit go educate yourself about sex, read some books about sex (not porn) and try again. Sometimes its the body experience, sometimes its the energy, sometimes the emotions. Sometimes all of them. I’m sure he will change for you if he thinks you look loyal and care about him. We all change for the person we love WHICH IS NOT TOXIC but your first thought being “should i leave him” is a red flag. + you need to realise that you can’t get everything you want in your life and that its not supposed to be like that. Otherwise everyone would be married to the same kind of people. you give us 10 different + traits 1 negative one and run here to ask if you should leave him. Pls do weirdo so he can find himself someone logical did u even read the OP is it really that simple getting a nonpenetrative person to genuinely be into penetration 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Slayne Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 10 hours ago, Funnyfatty said: I’m sure he will change for you if he thinks you look loyal and care about him. We all change for the person we love WHICH IS NOT TOXIC this reminds me of those reddit stories where two people with differing thoughts about having children get together, and then 10 years later the person who wanted kids realizes that actually the other person was serious about not having kids and they have to break up... like yes this guy MIGHT come around and compromise in the bedroom, but what if he doesn't. if two people are incompatible in something that's a dealbreaker for one or both of them, waiting for one of them to change is foolish imo. yes we all change throughout our lives, but a relationship should work with people as they are, not as they could be in the future. it's giving 'i can fix him' 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
znake Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 Give him a couple of weeks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brenda-walsh Posted February 18 Share Posted February 18 honestly depends how much you like him. you can always use toys to satisfy your penetration needs and also have an open conversation with him about everything he's into/ open to doing but sex is an important part of a relationship so if you feel like its enough of a dealbreaker, then end things Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnusualBoy Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 Have you guys talk about it? If not, you should. Sex isn't the most important thing but if you're into penetrative sex and he's not, that will lead into problems in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bethenny Frankel Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 get the sprinkle sprinkle? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katamari Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 On 2/18/2024 at 2:45 AM, xxxlamb said: get the bag sis and buy a toy with his money Like for real! seems like no one wants work these days 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alldeezy Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 sex shouldn't be everything .. if his perfect with everything else .. and you leave him over the sex? carely you don't care for him i've had many relationships and ones with the best sex were the ones that cheated. I spent my first relationship 3 years without sex because I mentally wasn't ready or could do it and he stuck around for most of it. only thing that broke us was my mental health started to play up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danny789 Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 That’s a lot of pros to end it for one con Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hypnodemiluv Posted February 25 Share Posted February 25 are you sure you wanted this to be more than hookup? you must sort out is sex that important to you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homebrand Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 I personally find foreplay boring after like 5-10min max so I get you But if he's well off idk the idea of not having to work is very appealing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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