BrentB Posted January 24 Posted January 24 (edited) Honestly it's looking like that should be the case IMHO . Like what even is the point anymore of guys with a high sex drive & can't keep his D in his pants being in a lifetime monogamous relationship? Should that be akin to mental torture? Or do men just need to all collectively shut up and have their urges tamed & curbed by lifetime monogamy? Is it fair that it works so well a lot of times for women since they tend to (not all of course) have a lower sex drive? If ONLY men with a low libido were encouraged to pursue monogamous relationships, do you think there would be enough to go around in the dating pool, as far as men whose looking for monogamous lifetime relationship? Let's discuss Edited January 25 by BrentB 2 3
ATRL Moderator Popular Post Legend E Posted January 24 ATRL Moderator Popular Post Posted January 24 I wish there was a " " reaction sometimes 4 2 19
St. Charles Posted January 24 Posted January 24 I thought this was another @Asscatchemthread at first 1 11
Popular Post Trent W Posted January 24 Popular Post Posted January 24 Every day this forum manages to create a more idiotic thread outdoing the past one It’s impressive 3 13
shookspeare Posted January 24 Posted January 24 well yes! I've had a low libido since I turned maybe 25 and my current boyfriend does, too. It's the best relationship I've ever had tbh, it's so nice to have someone who just wants to do cute things like cuddle or bake together without the constant expectation of sex 3 2
BrentB Posted January 24 Author Posted January 24 2 minutes ago, Legend E said: I wish there was a " " reaction sometimes No, let's just not with the "" reactions and just think about this it for a second with a CLEAR & OPEN mind. I'm not saying men with high smex drive should not EVER be allowed to get married. But this whole monogamy system has become unsustainable for many & it's like trying to fit a square into a circle for a lot of men out there, let's just call a spade what it is (not all of course). Perhaps high libido men should all, en-masse, be encouraged to alternative single lifestyle & call it a life. It would save a lot of time, money & heartache for all parties involved. I mean just go on Grindr rn & see all these married DL guys with whole wives still looking & browsing at 2 in the morning to get their back blown, meanwhile they have NO place to host because wife is at home & ain't nobody about to do car fun in this weather. And when you confront & ask them if they're happy in their relationship, they insist with everything in them that they are. It's like this y'all's monogamy ?
Popboi. Posted January 24 Posted January 24 If you don’t want or can’t see yourself in a monogamous relationship… just don’t be in one? It’s simple and nothing to do with marriage. 1
St. Charles Posted January 24 Posted January 24 Just now, BrentB said: No, let's just not with the "" reactions and just think about this it for a second with a CLEAR & OPEN mind. I'm not saying men with high smex drive should not EVER be allowed to get married. But this whole monogamy system has become unsustainable for many & it's like trying to fit a square into a circle for a lot of men out there, let's just call a spade what it is (not all of course). Perhaps high libido men should all, en-masse, be encouraged to alternative single lifestyle & call it a life. It would save a lot of time, money & heartache for all parties involved. I mean just go on Grindr rn & see all these married DL guys with whole wives still looking & browsing at 2 in the morning to get their back blown, meanwhile they have NO place to host because wife is at home & ain't nobody about to do car fun in this weather. And when you confront & ask them if they're happy in their relationship, they insist with everything in them that they are. It's like this y'all's monogamy ? If anything I just think open relationships shouldn’t be stigmatized and should be explored more. I know we all sometimes scoff at them, but that’s the best answer to a lot of people who want a lifelong partner but aren’t able to commit sexually to one person. If we try to force everyone into monogamy, we get a ton of people who then cheat as they’re unable to maintain that (they should still be held accountable though obviously). But yeah it’s 2024, if you don’t think you can commit to a monogamous relationship then don’t have one. 1
Redstreak Posted January 24 Posted January 24 6 minutes ago, BrentB said: No, let's just not with the "" reactions and just think about this it for a second with a CLEAR & OPEN mind. I'm not saying men with high smex drive should not EVER be allowed to get married. But this whole monogamy system has become unsustainable for many & it's like trying to fit a square into a circle for a lot of men out there, let's just call a spade what it is (not all of course). Perhaps high libido men should all, en-masse, be encouraged to alternative single lifestyle & call it a life. It would save a lot of time, money & heartache for all parties involved. I mean just go on Grindr rn & see all these married DL guys with whole wives still looking & browsing at 2 in the morning to get their back blown, meanwhile they have NO place to host because wife is at home & ain't nobody about to do car fun in this weather. And when you confront & ask them if they're happy in their relationship, they insist with everything in them that they are. It's like this y'all's monogamy ? I mean for a lot of people monogamy is kind of an unrealistic lifelong expectation? Some people are just better at hiding their infidelities 1
Dialamba Posted January 24 Posted January 24 2 minutes ago, St. Charles said: If anything I just think open relationships shouldn’t be stigmatized and should be explored more. I know we all sometimes scoff at them, but that’s the best answer to a lot of people who want a lifelong partner but aren’t able to commit sexually to one person. If we try to force everyone into monogamy, we get a ton of people who then cheat as they’re unable to maintain that (they should still be held accountable though obviously). But yeah it’s 2024, if you don’t think you can commit to a monogamous relationship then don’t have one. Open relationships only work if both sides are consentent.
Happylittlepunk Posted January 24 Posted January 24 Only people who don’t like being in relationships think that men with strong labido can’t handle marriage. Go outside and touch grass. Men in general have always had 8x higher sex drive than women. Stop watching tik tok and instagram all day. Despite that there are many women who have a strong sex drive too the difference between men and women is that men will admit it more than a woman. There equal amount of women who also want sex all the time. It all comes down if both partners are compatible or not. If sex is massively important in a relationship then the person needs to make it known. I have never met a married couple who have no sex or lack it who are happy in a relationship. Which means sex is a important in a relationship. 1
Revolution Posted January 24 Posted January 24 m*n need to learn self-control (as well as basic hygiene and other skills) 1 1
Happylittlepunk Posted January 24 Posted January 24 10 minutes ago, BrentB said: No, let's just not with the "" reactions and just think about this it for a second with a CLEAR & OPEN mind. I'm not saying men with high smex drive should not EVER be allowed to get married. But this whole monogamy system has become unsustainable for many & it's like trying to fit a square into a circle for a lot of men out there, let's just call a spade what it is (not all of course). Perhaps high libido men should all, en-masse, be encouraged to alternative single lifestyle & call it a life. It would save a lot of time, money & heartache for all parties involved. I mean just go on Grindr rn & see all these married DL guys with whole wives still looking & browsing at 2 in the morning to get their back blown, meanwhile they have NO place to host because wife is at home & ain't nobody about to do car fun in this weather. And when you confront & ask them if they're happy in their relationship, they insist with everything in them that they are. It's like this y'all's monogamy ? Just cause you see a bunch married men having sex with you on Grindr doesn’t mean that is the norm. Be real here. Majority of men are not going to gay apps too hook up with other men just too have sex. Are there a bunch of men and women cheating and hooking up with other people yes. Is it majority of married couples doing that? No. And majority of men always prefer too have sex with there gf/wives then strangers. It’s will known. 1
glitch Posted January 24 Posted January 24 You can have a high libido and be satisfied in a monogamous relationship. Cheating isn't simply about having a high sex drive, often it's actually nothing to do with sex and more to do with searching for an emotional connection they've lost/was never there in their marriage. 2 1
Khal Posted January 24 Posted January 24 How old are some of y'all? Do you have friends? Do you go outside? Do you talk to actual human beings? 2 3 1
glitch Posted January 24 Posted January 24 32 minutes ago, BrentB said: mean just go on Grindr rn & see all these married DL guys with whole wives still looking & browsing at 2 in the morning to get their back blown, meanwhile they have NO place to host because wife is at home & ain't nobody about to do car fun in this weather. A lot of gays/bi men lie about being married/DL/straight because they know other gay men find that hot. They probably don't wanna host because they don't want you to come over to their flat with their 5 roommates 1 1
RideOrDie Posted January 24 Posted January 24 you constantly typing smex instead of sex is more concerning than whatever this thread is 4
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