discussion I f*** up, bragged about buying an apartment and now my co-worker will be a neighbour

[Raptus]

 Double standards are real. OP is a 100% creep. Imagine if he was talking like that about female co-worker POLICE!

[Almodusa]

1 hour ago, Hot Volcano said:

Now I'm thinking how to sabotage this guy.

[Raptus]

OP at work:

 

Edited November 21, 2023 by Raptus

[fememeist]

You say these are your inner thoughts but you’re plotting a sabotage against this innocent person?! Girl…

[AMIT]

the system has failed and this thread is the proof

[AMIT]

the lashings in here though 

[Keter]

The gays are outta control. 

[Vespertine]

1 hour ago, uusagii said:

Buying? In this economy?

She's worried about her crush when she should be worried about the current interest rates! 

[suburbannature]

1 hour ago, Khal said:

This seems like an extremely important problem. 

 

I think you obtain a canister of gasoline, some matches, and head to this apartment complex. 

When this post is shown in court after he literally burns the place down  

[glitch]

Good god get a grip 

[Bears01]

1 hour ago, AMIT said:

the system has failed and this thread is the proof

He’s from Europe fam, EU ATRLErs, come get your man’s 

[BionicWooHoo]

That’s enough crazy for today, lemme log out of ATRL real quick

[John Slayne]

2 hours ago, Hot Volcano said:

but I'm not expressing any of this in real life  You are making it seem like I'm a stalker or something. I'm actually giving him cold shoulder most of the time, cuz I also have an ego and don't want to make it seem like I'm lusting over someone who barely has any interest in me. Again, these are my exaggerated inner thoughts.

it's still maladaptive af and will get worse unless you learn to control your thoughts. you are a grown man who just bought a flat and you're envious of you coworker because he's better friends with another coworker who you secretly lust over despite the fact he's never expressed any interest in you? there's no way you can convince us that this is a good and/or normal situation to be in. i'm really NOT trying to sound b*tchy or judgmental here but you have talked about this extensively in another thread months ago and nothing's changed since then.

 

let this be a lesson for you to stop living in your head and daydreams and focus on your actual life, not what could be with someone you have no business being with anyway seeing as you work together.

[selena_lavigne]

Why don’t you invite both of them over? Your co-worker likes you, you like the other guy. 

Edited November 21, 2023 by selena_lavigne

[OrgVisual]

Your story is evolving in a concerning way 

[Bears01]

6 hours ago, Hot Volcano said:

So basically I just bought an apartment in this new building that has yet to be built. Couldn't wait to brag about it to my co-workers. This guy I bragged to, is quite a nice guy, I think he likes me, but what annoys me about him is the fact that he is BFF with my crush who is also a co-worker.  They are all the time together and I'm jealous. Whenever I'm with them I don't fit in, cuz they have certain topics of their own...and the worst thing is my crush is living in the building next to this building, so I already had this fantasy in my head of us getting closer since we are gonna be neighbours, him coming to my place to watch a movie, hang out and vice versa. But now with this guy being our neighbour aswell, its quite clear they are gonna hang out even more now   and I'm probably gonna be left out, my fantasy has gone to ****** because of my dumb ass wanting to brag.

Now I'm thinking how to sabotage this guy. How can I make him change his mind? I have bought my apartment already, but he has yet to have a meeting about it, didn't even find an apartment is thinking between two. What would you do??

Dawg, this is straight up not healthy. At all. Like everyone said: love yourself, get yourself a man (I’m always a sext away if you want hehe), and stop being obsessed with someone you will never be with. 

[harwee]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited November 22, 2023 by harwee

[M.R.]

Whether or not any of this is true, it’s amazing how even with all this money that you have nothing can’t make you a good/sane person.

[Bears01]

This thread is absolutely hilarious though, the replies have me in TEARS 

[Bacardo Royale]

Time to sacrifice some chickens sis

 

[McNulty]

atrl chill, let the man be jealous in peace ffs

[zasderfght]

On 11/21/2023 at 1:29 PM, Hot Volcano said:

So basically I just bought an apartment in this new building that has yet to be built. Couldn't wait to brag about it to my co-workers. This guy I bragged to, is quite a nice guy, I think he likes me, but what annoys me about him is the fact that he is BFF with my crush who is also a co-worker.  They are all the time together and I'm jealous. Whenever I'm with them I don't fit in, cuz they have certain topics of their own...and the worst thing is my crush is living in the building next to this building, so I already had this fantasy in my head of us getting closer since we are gonna be neighbours, him coming to my place to watch a movie, hang out and vice versa. But now with this guy being our neighbour aswell, its quite clear they are gonna hang out even more now   and I'm probably gonna be left out, my fantasy has gone to ****** because of my dumb ass wanting to brag.

Now I'm thinking how to sabotage this guy. How can I make him change his mind? I have bought my apartment already, but he has yet to have a meeting about it, didn't even find an apartment is thinking between two. What would you do??

As soon as I read "I already had this fantasy in my head of us getting closer since we are gonna be neighbours," I knew it was going to be downhill from there. 

 

As someone who's lived with best friends & my partner, I can tell you right now, these people have their own lives to live. Your crush might like you back and all is going well! But what if he wants to spend the weekend at his parents' or go clubbing with his friends? I rarely saw my friends-- I spend quite a bit of time with my partner, but even he will still hang out with friends and family without me. And that is totally fine.

 

Moreover, if you're hoping for this crush to turn into a relationship, you should know that:

 

-Gay men have crushes on another gay men. He might like your coworker. He might like you. Who knows? 

 

-Maybe he's in a relationship. 

 

-I don't think you specified, but are you sure he's not straight? 

 

Let's say he's single, not in a committed relationship, and agrees to go on a first date. Just because y'all had a first date does not mean it will translate into a relationship. 

 

Don't try too hard. The best relationships are the ones where both parties take the time to learn about each other and make the decision daily "yes, I choose to love X person." 

 

Relationships can also be hard/difficult. Are you ready to resolve conflict? Can you be confrontational? What will you do if your partner is angry at you and wants his alone time? 

[apasionata]

8 hours ago, M.R. said:

Whether or not any of this is true, it’s amazing how even with all this money that you have nothing can’t make you a good/sane person.

Like..

[Bears01]

36 minutes ago, zasderfght said:

As soon as I read "I already had this fantasy in my head of us getting closer since we are gonna be neighbours," I knew it was going to be downhill from there. 

 

As someone who's lived with best friends & my partner, I can tell you right now, these people have their own lives to live. Your crush might like you back and all is going well! But what if he wants to spend the weekend at his parents' or go clubbing with his friends? I rarely saw my friends-- I spend quite a bit of time with my partner, but even he will still hang out with friends and family without me. And that is totally fine.

 

Moreover, if you're hoping for this crush to turn into a relationship, you should know that:

 

-Gay men have crushes on another gay men. He might like your coworker. He might like you. Who knows? 

 

-Maybe he's in a relationship. 

 

-I don't think you specified, but are you sure he's not straight? 

 

Let's say he's single, not in a committed relationship, and agrees to go on a first date. Just because y'all had a first date does not mean it will translate into a relationship. 

 

Don't try too hard. The best relationships are the ones where both parties take the time to learn about each other and make the decision daily "yes, I choose to love X person." 

 

Relationships can also be hard/difficult. Are you ready to resolve conflict? Can you be confrontational? What will you do if your partner is angry at you and wants his alone time? 

His crush doesn’t like him back. His crush is a straight guy who barely even wants to be his acquaintance, he’s told this story about his crush in multiple threads now 

[DeadInside]

Get the keys to his apartment, put dead animals inside before the crush comes over so he thinks ur neighbor is a seriel killer. Then he'd get weirded out and stop being friends with him, which gives you an opening. One night, text ur crush that ur really scared, neighbor will invite you over. Bring over wine, say you need to drink it to recover from ur scary neighvor, insist crush has some too. From there, he will be in the palm of ur hands and you can do anything you want .