discussion Is It Racist if You Don't Prefer to Date Other Race?

[BGKC]

Depends on the context. I think it’s natural to have a physical attraction towards certain features which can be more prevalent in whatever the race or nationality, but I’ve dated “my type” and kept setting myself up for disappointment almost every time lol so why stick to that mundane mentality of “having a type” ? The person I’m with now is left field from what I’m used to (physically) and it’s working out better than any relationship I’ve ever had. Plus “preference” in my experience expanded with age and interactions I’ve had in the world. I also grew up in one of the most diverse cities on the planet. 

“Ugly” or conventionally unattractive people are treated less than human and typically have to work harder to earn respect than universally attractive people who are treated like royalty by comparison. No matter the race. So saying you wouldn’t date a certain race all together because you deem them unattractive suggests you deem them inferior to you and your type. That’s where it becomes racist. Even if you don’t feel that way, it’s just better left unsaid all together. 

Edited April 10, 2023 by BGKC

[dumbsparce]

This is the only area where racism is excusable. As long as you stfu and don't say the stuff you shouldn't in front of them then I don't see an issue since no one gets harmed by not being preferred by people outside their race.

 

[pearlmercury]

nope but if your friend group only contains people of the same race in an ethnic diverse area then that's prolly a sign 

[harwee]

More likely yes than no.

 

In terms of dating "prefer" usually implies initiative more than a response to a choice.

[Johnny Jacobs]

As long as you dont dismiss dating outside your race,  your good. 

[FreeXone]

Depends on your reason. 

I don’t think preferences are racist but you are def racist if you find yourself attracted to someone then when you find out they they are a certain race you don’t like them then that’s racist.

 

I have a preference and Asian guys generally are not my top type but have I still dated and slept with them. Yes… like I’m not gonna stop myself from meeting a nice person over a racial preference! That is absurd.

Edited April 12, 2023 by FreeXone

[taylamour]

Yes because it's inherently excluding a group of people on perceived traits/backgrounds/etc.

 

To have not dated or been attracted to a person of a particular race is obviously fine, but to make a blanket statement and say you don't want to date x or y races is explicitly and proactively exclusionary and racist. 

[JBJT2786]

If you're still open to dating other races then no.

 

It becomes an issue when you outright deny another person a date because of their race.

[P.O.P]

I can understand if someone said "I don't want to date outside of my culture".

 

But not wanting to date millions of people alone just because their race is racist

[Miss Show Business]

The poll results 

 

Attractive people come in all races. If you're excluding an entire race of people from your dating prospects... That's textbook racism. You're rejecting someone based on physical features they cannot change... There's no getting around that or sugar coating it.

[Chemist]

I wouldn't say full racist but definitely something sus going on

All races have beautiful people it's very weird to not be attracted by any of them

[brooklyndaddy]

Can’t control what your d*ck goes up for. If this is racist then not liking women is sexist 

[SchmoodRing]

On 4/10/2023 at 6:02 PM, Lost In Paradise said:

whether you think it's racist or not, my next question to you would be:

 

 

this just made you sound racist lol

On 4/12/2023 at 5:54 PM, brooklyndaddy said:

Can’t control what your d*ck goes up for. If this is racist then not liking women is sexist 

not surprising coming from a lana fan

[brooklyndaddy]

34 minutes ago, SchmoodRing said:

this just made you sound racist lol

not surprising coming from a lana fan

… so you’re in control of what your d goes up for, Ava Max and Bebe Rexha stan? Am I racist because I can’t get hard for white boy, Ellie Goulding fan? What are you gonna do about it? 

[SchmoodRing]

1 hour ago, brooklyndaddy said:

… so you’re in control of what your d goes up for, Ava Max and Bebe Rexha stan? Am I racist because I can’t get hard for white boy, Ellie Goulding fan? What are you gonna do about it? 

You can't be so sure what you're into in life is guaranteed because you're then cheating yourself out of possibilities and experiences because you assume that you have a fixed attraction is weird. 

[SchmoodRing]

Yes I am a fan of all of those girls, problem saweetie?

[brooklyndaddy]

16 hours ago, SchmoodRing said:

You can't be so sure what you're into in life is guaranteed because you're then cheating yourself out of possibilities and experiences because you assume that you have a fixed attraction is weird. 

so im supposed to sit there limp d**k with 200 white men til I'm feeling the French vanilla fantasy? Are you insane? As if p*rn for years isn't enough indication that I prefer darker skin and dark hair? GTFO

[Tropez]

On 4/12/2023 at 3:02 PM, Miss Show Business said:

The poll results 

 

Attractive people come in all races. If you're excluding an entire race of people from your dating prospects... That's textbook racism. You're rejecting someone based on physical features they cannot change... There's no getting around that or sugar coating it.

Lol no this ain’t true. Some people just aren’t attracted to some people. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to your own race. Some people only have sex with people of other races to collect them like toys. 

[Jude]

On 4/14/2023 at 11:02 AM, SchmoodRing said:

this just made you sound racist lol

not surprising coming from a lana fan

[brazil]

Yeah. I mean it's OK if you say you don't find the average Asian or so attractive, but Asian and any other race has so many varieties of people, for you to say you're not a attracted to a single one, feels kind of racis ngl

[GraceRandolph]

I think it’s racist. It’s one thing to have a preference for your own race or another race, but to categorically exclude an entire race or races from your dating pool is racist. 

[Shelter]

I think so. You can’t find some people from every race attractive? 

[Beyonceist]

How is it racist to choose the person I want to ****? Like math ain't mathing. 

[Kassi]

I’ve thought about this question from multiple angles over the past decade and it boils down to: yes, it’s 100% racist.

 

But it doesn’t mean that it’s malicious. The preference could be driven by familiarity, lack of exposure, or ignorance. Doesn’t mean you wish bad things on them, it’s just not something you’re willing to explore (and maybe only for a certain point in time… cause a lot gays see their options dry up and tend to get less picky with age ).

 

That said, hot people, as in fit, ripped, conventionally attractive guys, can be rightly thought of as their own “race”. Cause they relate to everyone else in the dating pool quite differently than your average Joes. There’s an element of fantasy and validation that comes with interacting with hot guys, which does tend to dampen the severity of the racial preference. For example, a lot of white ppl are into Idris, a lot of black ppl like Chris “Jamal” Evans, and tons of people everywhere thirst for Zayn Malik.

[WBTlove]

Unless you consider not dating female as sexist, then the answer is NO.

Sexuality is such a mystery.

Edited June 7, 2023 by WBTlove