discussion Is It Racist if You Don't Prefer to Date Other Race?

[velocity]

8 hours ago, BionicWooHoo said:

Ok well the answer is no so how does that fit in with your original statement?

Well if you read it again I said most people, not everybody. Gay Asians are hardly a majority, are they?

[Theshigo Washidu]

It depends on the reasoning. If it's for a racist reason then yes it is racist.

 

Most people date one another from their own backgrounds as that's what they are either used to or exposed to.

[spiritboy]

No.

[Vermillion]

Wait why is this in Civics? Or was that already resolved....

[Cloudy]

Yes

[cockatoo]

Yeah it is.

 

You can't definitively say you don't find all members of a particular ethnicity attractive as it's not possible for you to have met every member of said ethnic group. So you're making a broad generalisation based on the limited number of people from that ethnicity you've met or seen in the media/online.

[RunUpDoneUp]

Any racial hangup is going to be racist. There's no reason otherwise, lmao.

 

Most people date mono but that's by population distribution largely. When you go out of your way to find another race unattractive or "bad" you're just plain racist.

[Venice B]

If one of your reasons to not date someone is their race, well, I have news for you  

[CrimsonX]

Yes tbh.
 

I love all ***** especially the brown/chocolate ones.

 

Hot guys come come from every race and there’s fuglys in every race.

Edited April 8, 2023 by CrimsonX

[HeavyMetalAura]

I would say no because it doesn’t make me misogynistic to not be attracted to women, or ageist to not be attracted to men in their 80s and 90s. And before anyone says “but this is different!!1!1!!” I need you really stop and think about whatever it is you’re about to argue because… it’s really not  

 

That being said, it’s not one of those preferences that needs to be advertised, because it’s rude. No one needs to say “no one of ___ race” just like we don’t need to say “no fats” or “no flat chested girls” or “guys over 5”10 only.” It’s not racist, but it’s rude to say out loud. 
 

edit: to be clear, I’ve dated white, black, Asian, and Hispanic men, so I don’t personally have any racial preferences. I just don’t think it’s racist to have them

Edited April 8, 2023 by HeavyMetalAura

[Bosque]

It's racist and makes people sound uneducated, especially if they say "I'm not attracted to Asians"  I mean really, not a single person from Syria, India, China, Philippines, Japan, Kazakhstan, Saudia Arabia and Indonesia is attractive to you? Ohhkay then

[Beyonnaise]

Making blanket statements like "_______ are unattractive" or "no rice no spice" is obviously racist. By any measure, there are beautiful people from every ethnic background, and you don't have to be a douche about who you prefer to sleep with.

 

Is only dating people of a particular race racist though? Most people are primarily (or only) interested in dating and marrying people of the same race, for obvious reasons. I don't think that this is racist in any meaningful way. Choosing a partner is selective and exclusionary by its very nature. I have several Latino friends who are only interested in dating black/darker skin Latin men, I think even "social justice warriors" (for lack of a better term) would agree there is nothing wrong with this. Obviously white people hold power in society and beauty standards, but I don't think white people only wanting to date other whites hurts anyone else. It's not the kind of thing you go out of your way to say, just like you shouldn't say "I'm not interested in fat people". No group is entitled to being in someone's dating pool. I get iffy when people try to police who (among consenting adults) people date, it's not something dogmatic. There's plenty of people available for all races.

Edited April 8, 2023 by Beyonnaise

[mylicious]

It’s not.

[Dula Peep]

Wow I guess this poll has proven that ATRL is, In fact, racist. 

[samsclubPRESENTSavam]

it's a red flag.

[Cryptique]

I dont think so

 

-i'm Asian.. making almost everything "RACIST" is the American way not Asian way

[Cryptique]

On 4/6/2023 at 11:27 AM, Jude said:

If a white man says he does not find Asians attractive so he won't date one, does that make him racist? Discuss.

If he generalizes?? Definitely

 

But dating preference?? NOPE, i dont think so

[Tropez]

Not racist. Some people just prefer not to date white people. Don’t see that as an issue. 

[Otter]

When it comes to people's attractions:
1. Mind your business.
2. Date who you want.

Most people's attractions are way too nuanced for them to backwards engineer in full. Why someone is attracted to x features but not y could have a many reasons, many times informed by social constructs, experience and personality type. Ultimately treating people equally, does not mean equal attraction or opportunity to sleep with you.

Running around saying you're not into x or y race, is obviously offensive in the same way that telling someone you're not into them because they're too fat/skinny, tall, short, big-nosed, small-nosed, pointy-nosed, flat-nosed, dark, pale, thin-lipped, big lipped etc. Some peoples preferences are more exclusionary than others but everyones is exclusionary, and this is only touching on the physical aspect...

[Selegend]

I find it racist. 

I've already had some arguments about it with a friend of mine that doesn't date black people at all and he's not even white tho, very mixed. 

like he can see michael b jordan or lucien laviscount and he just doesn't care. if he see's just a solid 6/10 white man he's on his knees. 

 

i think it's very weird just erasing a race from ur dating list. like, how is this not racist?

no one is saying u should be attracted to anyone in particular, of course not. 

but how u just erase an entire race and be okay with it instead of thinking this is for sure messed up?

i don't even get how (a lot of) people don't find it racist lmao 

 

Edited April 10, 2023 by Selegend

[zasderfght]

If you like a guy and the only dealbreaker is his race, that's racist. 

 

If you don't like a guy, no matter the race (and race doesn't have anything to do with you liking the person), that's not racist. 

 

If it's an arranged-marriage situation, I like to be culturally-sensitive. Arranged-marriage in certain religions tend to be members of minority religions/groups, so they don't have the privilege us white folks do. I don't consider arranged-marriages racist-- it's a cultural thing. 

 

Just my 2 cents. 

[Aethereal]

2 hours ago, Selegend said:

I find it racist. 

I've already had some arguments about it with a friend of mine that doesn't date black people at all and he's not even white tho, very mixed. 

like he can see michael b jordan or lucien laviscount and he just doesn't care. if he see's just a solid 6/10 white man he's on his knees. 

 

i think it's very weird just erasing a race from ur dating list. like, how is this not racist?

no one is saying u should be attracted to anyone in particular, of course not. 

but how u just erase an entire race and be okay with it instead of thinking this is for sure messed up?

i don't even get how (a lot of) people don't find it racist lmao 

 

Micheal B Jordan without the muscles is pretty average or slightly above the average.

 

 

Also beauty is very subjective. Some are into blonde twinks, some are into crossdressers, some into  bears etc.  Many  black women that I know feel nothing about a white man, they can appreciate him as piece of art but are not attracted to him. 

[Siberian Tiger]

Having a preference for people who look like you and share same language/culture is not racist. But saying you won't date certain nationalities/races can be seen as xenophobic/racist.

On 4/8/2023 at 11:01 PM, HeavyMetalAura said:

I would say no because it doesn’t make me misogynistic to not be attracted to women, or ageist to not be attracted to men in their 80s and 90s. And before anyone says “but this is different!!1!1!!” I need you really stop and think about whatever it is you’re about to argue because… it’s really not  

 

That being said, it’s not one of those preferences that needs to be advertised, because it’s rude. No one needs to say “no one of ___ race” just like we don’t need to say “no fats” or “no flat chested girls” or “guys over 5”10 only.” It’s not racist, but it’s rude to say out loud. 

 

edit: to be clear, I’ve dated white, black, Asian, and Hispanic men, so I don’t personally have any racial preferences. I just don’t think it’s racist to have them

It's ridiculous how these kind of arguments are always ignored when it's literally the same thing. You can't force someone into liking something and it has nothing to do with being "ignorant".

[Lost In Paradise]

whether you think it's racist or not, my next question to you would be:

 

 

[Material Girl]

yes and it’s not complicated