discussion Is It Racist if You Don't Prefer to Date Other Race?

[Jude]

If a white man says he does not find Asians attractive so he won't date one, does that make him racist? Discuss.

Edited April 6, 2023 by Jude

[Eternal220]

No that’s not racist and I’m asian

[Devin]

Race-based dating preferences is a weird but deep subject. Then you have those people who race-fetishize.

 

In most cases ppl are subconsciously prejudice. I guess it depends on the person, they intentions, and their dating history.

[MingYouToo]

See that's a pretty complex topic. Personally I love all guys regardless of race however, if someone or a friend tells me they don't find guys of race xyz attractive it raises my eyebrows. HOWEVER, it doesn't open them up to immediate judgment from me. I still have to ask them, why not or what makes them unattractive? If its something like dick size, facial features (some people just aren't attracted to races they aren't exposed much to in their day to day life and that's absolutely okay) or height I roll my eyes but its not something I consider racist however this is something that only applies to communities that are racially homogenous. If its something like, I hate dark skin or some variation of colorist crap then I start to think they're racist.

 

P.S. If you live in a racially diverse community especially in the coastal United States, I'd expect that you'd be willing to date any race tbh.

 

 

Edited April 6, 2023 by MingYouToo

[Into The Void]

I've mostly dated white guys and I'm white but its just how's it happened. 

 

This as in actual relationships.

 

I've been on dates with pretty much every race it just never turned into a relationship 

Edited April 6, 2023 by Insanity

[Zedd]

Many people may think so, but I don't. I don't think it's racist - everyone have their own preferences - just because a man prefers women instead of men, means he's straight, because that's his preferences, but it doesn't have to mean he's homophobic. If you don't find someone attractive, but you could've been friend with someone who's other race, and you don't feel hate to other race, I think that's okay.

[Jotham]

Yes, you're generalizing an entire race based on specific physical traits. Also, the fact that racial preferences are almost always in favor of white people and against Blacks and Asians shows that a lot of these preferences are just based on a racist hierarchy that views minorities as "less desirable."

[Likingstars]

Most marriages happen within the same race. It’s ok if you only date within your race, and have a preference, but to say that you’re not into one specific race for example is racist 

[Rotunda]

Can y’all find new topics

[Devin]

Just now, MingYouToo said:

some people just aren't attracted to races they aren't exposed much to in their day to day life and that's absolutely okay

This is also a fair point. Where I grew up was all Black and Hispanic, you had to visit other neighborhoods to see more diversity and such.

 

+ There’s families that influence kids to stay within their race whether its for cultural reasons or past traumas (it might not be as strong today since we have so many interracial couples and children). 

[MingYouToo]

Just now, Devin said:

This is also a fair point. Where I grew up was all Black and Hispanic, you had to visit other neighborhoods to see more diversity and such.

 

+ There’s families that influence kids to stay within their race whether its for cultural reasons or past traumas (it might not be as strong today since we have so many interracial couples and children). 

Exactly. When you come from a country/community in which all people look like you, its harder for you to acclimate to being actively friendly and intimate to people who don't look like you. It doesn't mean you're racist, you just need more exposure to other communities of people and I think its time people need to accept that.

[Into The Void]

For me its about personality and attraction.  

[brenda-walsh]

i find it weird when people say they're not into entire races of people 

[Intuition]

No, the vast majority of people date those who are similar to them.

[LittleStarmen]

6 minutes ago, brenda-walsh said:

i find it weird when people say they're not into entire races of people 

This.

 

Having a prefference is something . Dismmising others, being disrespcfull , saying this such as NO #### is racist

[suburbannature]

It's an inherent bias that is rooted in racism even if it's not always overt bigotry. 

[Erotic]

I’m Mexican and I don’t touch latino men, is that racist? 

[Donquizote]

No

[LikeATattoo]

I don’t think so, personally.

If one likes a certain array of physical traits and those same traits generally aren’t found on a particular race, then it’s okay not to be attracted to that race in the general sense.

 

It’s also very normal to be primarily attracted to people who share your phenotype. The appeal of familiarity is universal.

 

I think that outright dismissing any possibility of dating a particular race is when it starts to feel somewhat pointed, though. And megaphone-style announcing your unyielding romantic/sexual disinterest in X race on your dating site profile is also very weird. I’m a proponent of having whatever type that you naturally have, whilst also remaining tactful lol.

Edited April 6, 2023 by LikeATattoo

[Dula Peep]

Yes, if you count out an entire race of people as “preference”…that is racist.

 

And mostly its due to ignorant people just not having any friends or spending time with x given race.

 

[305]

Nope

[Rino]

as long as that person doesn't view other races as unequal to their own, it's fine to me. I don't think sexual/romantic preferences completely define a person. 

Edited April 6, 2023 by Rino

[Into The Void]

6 minutes ago, Dula Peep said:

Yes, if you count out an entire race of people as “preference”…that is racist.

 

And mostly its due to ignorant people just not having any friends or spending time with x given race.

 

Question tho...should someone be forced to be attracted to someone their simply just not physically attracted to?

 

I mean who wants to be with someone who's not attracted to them?

 

Edited April 6, 2023 by Insanity

[Aren]

What about white gays who love having sexual encounters with back men, but when it comes to relationships only date other white men? I’ve met plenty of them in real life and always thought it was weird.

[Zoe_]

Yes.

 

How can you say no to an entire race? Tf? There is unattractive and attractive in all races. 

 

Also, gays tend to befriend those they'd have sex with. So, you'll create a racists mindset when it comes to friendships and the way you see people. People respect "attractive" individuals more than "unattractive."