Devin Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 10 minutes ago, Armani? said: How is 22 and 18 wierd to you but not 21 and 45 Both age gaps are weird to me wdym. Being 21 and dating older isn’t frowned upon cause u an adult and can start making decisions (even if they are dumb ones). Whereas 16-19 yo are easier to manipulate, brainwash, and in most cases they parents still interfere and make decisions. Why would a college student ever date someone in high school?
Thuggin Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 Definitely. Let's go back to when we just called 30+ year olds who date people in their early 20s weird creeps and not pedos. Controversial opinion but Gen Z's fear of aging is definitely contributing to this being an issue all of a sudden. The whole "I'm not a full adult until 25 because frontal lobe development" strikes me as clinging to adolescence. And then there are people in their 30s and older who are bitter about people their age seeking younger partners because it reminds them of the reality that they've aged, so they try to compare people in their early and mid 20s to actual children so they don't feel as far removed from their physical peak.
bad guy Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 5 hours ago, Devin said: In my opinion, anyone 21+ can be with whoever they wanna be with. But 17-20 yo dating 25+ and vice versa concerns me. This but I think there's a bit more nuance to it. I think anybody in college dating/hooking up with someone else in college (18-25) is fine, but I do think getting into relationships as a 21+ year old with 18 year olds is…weird. But if you’re out of college already and dating/hooking up with only 18-19 year olds then that’s concerning. Especially if you’re in your late 20s and above. It’s very easy to date someone in the same age range as you I also think if you’re 40-50 and getting with anybody that has a teen in their age you’re simply a creep.
Sesame Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 7 hours ago, Roman Holiday said: If that's the argument, I would argue that I could date a man my same age and he could still be a manipulative and predatory POS. Yes you're right, but it should be treated on a case by case basis. You’re right, I agree it is a case by case basis. I don’t agree with the people saying a 22 year old with an 18 year old is wrong, but it has become more commonplace for people turning 30 to be dating these 18 year olds and for what. 8 hours ago, Trent W said: I’m 28 turning 29 this year and I don’t go under 23. For me men 18-22 are not very attractive. But it’s normal if other people feel attraction. You probably are in one of the categories I mentioned tho. As if going under 23 is even an option for you. Gen Z probably wouldn’t want to be with someone who has all those boomer takes all across this website. 7 hours ago, sourtwink said: just say you’re an ugly loser who gets no d*ck and therefore has to devote all of your time to accusing people with 1-2 year age gaps of grooming and go. maybe go to the gym or get some surgery and then you’ll be able to find someone The example I gave was an 18 year old with a 36 year old, but go off @sourtwink. At least the username is fitting I guess.
The7thStranger Posted January 12, 2023 Posted January 12, 2023 I've never taken it seriously because it's always been disingenuous and disrespectful of people's honest attractions. I've been in an age gap relationship for nine years, and Gen Z's particularly conservative narrative about love and sex isn't going to stop me from dating whomever I like.
Trent W Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 1 hour ago, Sesame said: As if going under 23 is even an option for you. Gen Z probably wouldn’t want to be with someone who has all those boomer takes all across this website. Hmmm you need to get out more 20-23 gay guys hit on me the most You are the definition of chronically online
Tropez Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 11 hours ago, Trent W said: It’s an online thing, it’s been going on for a few months. And like the other member said it’s mostly ugly people that can’t have one complaining about it, and honestly they like to deny it a lot but 30+ year old single women are the ones making the most of it. Age gap relationships have been going since the beginning of time and that won’t change older and young are naturally attracted. I cannot believe you are using that as an excuse. When historically it was older men taking on young women. Often times girls or preteens as wives. Old men have historically preyed on young women. Your comment comes off unintentionally creepy.
Sesame Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 1 hour ago, Trent W said: Hmmm you need to get out more 20-23 gay guys hit on me the most You are the definition of chronically online Okay sis
Trent W Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 1 hour ago, Tropez said: I cannot believe you are using that as an excuse. When historically it was older men taking on young women. Often times girls or preteens as wives. Old men have historically preyed on young women. Your comment comes off unintentionally creepy. Is natural. Women age faster and mature faster, a 25 year old woman is most of the time as mature as a 35 year old man. This is mentally and physically. Also in heterosexual relationships young women need resources and protection, they look for that. Straight men in their 20s are poor and miserable 99% of the time. There’s obviously exceptions but most of the time this is the case. It’s natural. I agree that 20+ year old relationship gap is weird, but to each their own.
ATRL Moderator madonnas Posted January 13, 2023 ATRL Moderator Posted January 13, 2023 There’s a lot of nuance to age gaps but a lot of online discourse over it has gotten a bit silly yeah.
Tropez Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 6 minutes ago, Trent W said: Is natural. Women age faster and mature faster, a 25 year old woman is most of the time as mature as a 35 year old man. This is mentally and physically. Also in heterosexual relationships young women need resources and protection, they look for that. Straight men in their 20s are poor and miserable 99% of the time. There’s obviously exceptions but most of the time this is the case. It’s natural. I agree that 20+ year old relationship gap is weird, but to each their own. Yes, I would have agreed with you if this was the 1950s. Because that’s where you seem to be stuck in if that’s your outdated, misogynistic view of women. Women don’t age faster or mature faster than men. Women on the other hand and socially conditioned to act a certain way. Not only that, women in their 20s out earn and are usually more educated than men their own age. They aren’t looking for older men to take of them. Considering women today have much higher standards for men. So what the hell are you even on about? And why are you so desperately trying to defend such age gaps by using outdated logic?
Trent W Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 6 minutes ago, Tropez said: Yes, I would have agreed with you if this was the 1950s. Because that’s where you seem to be stuck in if that’s your outdated, misogynistic view of women. Women don’t age faster or mature faster than men. Women on the other hand and socially conditioned to act a certain way. Not only that, women in their 20s out earn and are usually more educated than men their own age. They aren’t looking for older men to take of them. Considering women today have much higher standards for men. So what the hell are you even on about? And why are you so desperately trying to defend such age gaps by using outdated logic? Women age faster than men and they are much more mature than men, it’s not misogynistic to say the truth . A lot of women look for older men, in the current times, there is nothing wrong with that. Some aren’t here for that and that’s okay too, it’s a preference. The real question is why so many 20-something old virgins who think they are children still in their 20s have that much of a problem with other adults personal preference and the way they live their lives. I’m always going to fight against other people invading people’s personal life. That’s invasive and disgusting.
Sesame Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 20 minutes ago, Trent W said: Women age faster than men and they are much more mature than men, it’s not misogynistic to say the truth . A lot of women look for older men, in the current times, there is nothing wrong with that. Some aren’t here for that and that’s okay too, it’s a preference. The real question is why so many 20-something old virgins who think they are children still in their 20s have that much of a problem with other adults personal preference and the way they live their lives. I’m always going to fight against other people invading people’s personal life. That’s invasive and disgusting.
Machete Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 It has gotten unserious but it is also funny seeing the older people desperately fight for their right to date fresh adults
fountain Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 A bit. As long as no one is being hurt then who cares? Most of the time it’s a very presumptuous conversation too. Ultimately you don’t know these couple’s relationships, and it’s the people around them whose opinion should truly matter.
flower moon Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 internet always takes conversations/topics to extremes.
Tropez Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 10 hours ago, Trent W said: Women age faster than men and they are much more mature than men, it’s not misogynistic to say the truth . A lot of women look for older men, in the current times, there is nothing wrong with that. Some aren’t here for that and that’s okay too, it’s a preference. The real question is why so many 20-something old virgins who think they are children still in their 20s have that much of a problem with other adults personal preference and the way they live their lives. I’m always going to fight against other people invading people’s personal life. That’s invasive and disgusting. What the hell are you even talking about. None of what you say is true or even makes sense. You sound like an old man rambling at the clouds.
Trent W Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 22 minutes ago, Tropez said: What the hell are you even talking about. None of what you say is true or even makes sense. You sound like an old man rambling at the clouds. And you sound like a miserable virgin rambling about other’s grown ass adult’s private life online. I’ve never dated someone 3-4 year older or younger than me. But people who care too much about this topic are too miserable
Oktober Knight Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 Who gives a fk. If you're 18, you're free to date anyone no matter what age.
truthteller Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 if it's mutually consensual, i dont see a problem. /endthread
whtvrdude Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 11 hours ago, Trent W said: Women age faster than men and they are much more mature than men, it’s not misogynistic to say the truth . A lot of women look for older men, in the current times, there is nothing wrong with that. Some aren’t here for that and that’s okay too, it’s a preference. The real question is why so many 20-something old virgins who think they are children still in their 20s have that much of a problem with other adults personal preference and the way they live their lives. I’m always going to fight against other people invading people’s personal life. That’s invasive and disgusting. I mean yeah, females age faster than males but during puberty. That's where it ends, by the age of 18.
Trent W Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 40 minutes ago, whtvrdude said: I mean yeah, females age faster than males but during puberty. That's where it ends, by the age of 18. I don’t think so, I think that there are a lot factors in between, like nutrition and skincare but normally a women in her 20s/30s age faster without proper care. There are a lot of cases especially in the influencer era and now women look younger. Things are changing. But biologically women after giving birth several times and going through all that age faster. It takes a lot off them.
Tropez Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 2 hours ago, Trent W said: And you sound like a miserable virgin rambling about other’s grown ass adult’s private life online. I’ve never dated someone 3-4 year older or younger than me. But people who care too much about this topic are too miserable You literally defended huge age gaps, by using ancient examples. Not knowing the history of why things the way they are, and then used outdated ideas to defend them. Sit this one out.
Trent W Posted January 13, 2023 Posted January 13, 2023 13 minutes ago, Tropez said: You literally defended huge age gaps, by using ancient examples. Not knowing the history of why things the way they are, and then used outdated ideas to defend them. Sit this one out. Im not defending all age gaps if you are in your 20s dating a 18-19 it’s definitely creepy I just say after 23+ you can mix it the way you want it. It really doesn’t matter after those ages. About the outdated part, it’s extremely conservative to think that you should only date people your age btw. For gays is even worse since the dating pool is already extremely small. It’s a backwards way of thinking.
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