Grumpy Cat Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 6 minutes ago, Johnny Jacobs said: That's sad tbh.. I don't know what I would've done without my friends. it's ok sis, above this there is a plant thread thats growing (pun intended) we might all die virgins (now that for sure not just might) but we'll look fabulous when it happens.
KillingYourCareer Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 People nowadays have less friends and more oomfies and bestianas!
helikesitheymikey Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 I mean…myself included, but we shouldn’t have been like wah wah boys don’t have feelings for like forever, because of course they do, and that mindset has been destructive not only towards males relationships with each other, but with women, and children. It’s about time we collectively work on that and not in a totally self absorbed, mens rights kind of way, but in a way thats also inclusive of all of the **** we have caused.
Marco_g2 Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 I would say i have like 3 friends and some acquaintances. That's fine. But this recession is to blame to gaming tbh, not trying to sound like a boomer but it's a nice enough hobby, i myself game too. But it doesn't require going outside and meeting up with the people you spend your time/hobby with.
Daddy Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 23 minutes ago, KillingYourCareer said: People nowadays have less friends and more oomfies and bestianas! I screamed
Miracle Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 16 hours ago, Happylittlepunk said: As someone who work in psych facilities as a nurse . I will tell main reason is many of these guys don’t work on themselves. Many ppl rather flee than face reality and always blaim in someone else. Many of the guys need therapy, need to work out and lose weight and care for there health and appearance once that done it really solves 90% of the problem. Yes some folks need to work on there Social skills but that also comes with the help of therapy. Losing weight boost your confidence skills and gives you the motivation to be more social, therapy will help solve your mental issues and any deep issues you might I’ve had. What does the thread and what the OP said have to do with weight loss?
Grumpy Cat Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 (edited) 42 minutes ago, Miracle said: What does the thread and what the OP said have to do with weight loss? tell that nurse, that me, a doctor, disagrees. psychotherapy + proper meds + proper diet from a dietitian + supplements made after your whole blood work was checked will do magic to your psyche because you will have the will and the energy to do **** you would usually ignore. that approach- just lose weight bro and u'll be happy bro is too joe rogan and proven to be bs too many times. Edited August 28, 2022 by Grumpy Cat ***** error 503
Cloudy Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 Seeing this thread made be on one side feel relieved and sad at the same time. Relieved in the sense that I thought I was weird for going through what I've been struggling for years and on the other side sad because it doesn't seem like it's going to get any better. I've always struggled socializing and making friends since young. Nowadays I have 0 friends, let alone close ones and as time passes it seems more unlikely and difficult to meet new people and make friends. I consider myself an introvert and it takes a lot of effort for me to get out of my confort zone, but I've always tried to befriend people and never works. I can't help but feel demoralized and think I am the problem. I've had a few friendships but they always end up bad and I'm always made to be the problem and I don't know what I am doing wrong. All my friendships have been females and lemme tell you once they don't have any use for you or dare to stand up for yourself they can be the most vicious and cruel beings ever. I've always tried to be the one to propose plans or spend time with people or ask how they are doing, cheer or help people out and I always feel like people take advantage of me. It comes to a point that I can't carry on with that kind of dinamic because I feel it's more harmful to my mental health than smiling and faking it. I mean they never answer your messages, they never took you into account when making plans, they exclude you, etc. Once you bring up these issues they always make you to be the bad guy to the point of being cruel as to exclude you and flaunt it on social media. I'm just exhausted and at this point I don't feel like going out at all unless it's necessary, but each day I can help that feel more and more lonely and sad tbh, don't really know how much I'll be able to carry on like this tbh.
terrorblade Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 15 hours ago, Grumpy Cat said: putting a tablet or ipad in your babys hands IS NOT AND WILL NEVER BE PARENTING. thisss so much. like don't give birth if you're just gonna do that to your child
Solaria Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 (edited) That's why it's so important for people to make other people feel heard and seen. When I'm in a group, I always try to include anybody, especially the ones that are quiet because I know what it feels like to be intimidated by people and feeling like anything you say might be stupid or not interesting enough to share with others. Not to get all spiritual and all but love and genuinely listening for others is so important, especially because society is stepping more and more away from that ''community'' feel that was so present in the 50s and 60s. Capitalism has brought a level of hyperindividuality that is hurting and affecting so many people. People don't know how to socialize anymore, and because men especially have been thought to repress their emotions, they feel like sharing and being emotional is wrong. It's extra hard for them. It also doesn't help that the TikTok generation goes so hard in their hatred for men. Yes, misogyny is rampant in male circles, yes, a lot of men treat women like ****. But contiously pushing that ''men suck'' narrative will drive certain male individuals further into a corner because they will start to believe the **** they read or see online and that's how they spiral. Social media's impact on this is so dangerous. That's why I often really need a break from TikTok (and Twitter) because the hatred on there just gets too much Edited August 28, 2022 by Love Again
Cain Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 This year I really leaned on my community and I have more friends than ever, if you’re a genuine and nice person it’s easy to find similar people
Grumpy Cat Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, terrorblade said: thisss so much. like don't give birth if you're just gonna do that to your child imagine 1.st becoming preggo, keeping it all healthy through 9 months which is a job itself, give birth to that child and than it gets all ******* ruined by the family- dad or someone from the family puts a ******* ipad in the babys crib while you are trying to raise the baby tech free And what i HATE is- taking pics. Even if it's something like- taking a shi. Omgg it's soooo cute, ur grandma needs to take a cute lil pic and post it on her flopbook wall for her geriatric friends. I'd ******* sue that ***** if pics of me shitting were posted on some ugly, geriatric wall. I'm generally against putting pics of kids online. It's feeding the creeps and the pedobears like- can we not as a collective? The world is ****** up. Raising a kid in this century will be a ******* hell. Because of utter bs like I've mentioned (and that's just the iceberg of it). Edited August 28, 2022 by Grumpy Cat
katara Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 I find it so fascinating in a bad way that the blame is always put on the individual and not on the societal environment we live in. Typical individualist western thinking. "If something is wrong then it must be you and not the collective. Go to therapy or something" I mean have yall looked around in what kind of society we live in? People are trapped in jobs that barely keep them alive and are so drained after work that they have zero energy to socialize. There is also the huge issue with instant gratification tools like social media which drain out your soul even further. Society just wants you to work, spend that little money you earn immediately, keep yourself entertained with stuff or social media / movies / series so you have no time to revolt againtst the system and then die. There are no community values present. People are not lonlier and more isolated because they want to be or because there is something wrong with them. It's just that society is actively raising and steering them to go in that direction.
Theshigo Washidu Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 11 hours ago, Grumpy Cat said: facts my dad told me how when he turned 18, he and his buddies would go downtown and just flirt openly with girls of their age. And it was super easy to find a gf or bf regardless if you were thin, thick, tall, small, bald. It didn't matter. You could easily find someone for you. Now, all the guys you see in your place are either staring down or they are doing some bs on their phones. and ofc, a phone has to be a size of a baby head and they have to have those giant headphones because- big broosss bro We now live in the age of MeToo and clout-chasing so stuff like the bolded is something one should be cautious about.
Grumpy Cat Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 1 hour ago, St. Francis said: We now live in the age of MeToo and clout-chasing so stuff like the bolded is something one should be cautious about. That was 54 years ago. Cautious of what? Stories old more than 50 years? I know this is not the case in 2022 and don't nanny me how I'm some anti metoo dude. I'm a girl and I just told a small story how it was back in his time Take a seat and calm down.
Harrier Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 6 close friends seems like a lot, I have two and that's plenty to me I suppose it depends on your definition of close, there's other friends in my life but only 2 I talk with on a daily basis. Also, I'm really disheartened to read all the people in this thread saying they have no friends or talking about how hard it is. I really do wish those of you looking for connection all the best. Truly the world is a **** place. We owe it to our fellow human beings to reach out and be kind, especially to those who are struggling with loneliness.
Saddy Posted August 28, 2022 Posted August 28, 2022 On 8/27/2022 at 2:15 PM, schnetzka said: I would have more friends if everyone stopped ghosting me. This and in my case it also happens that my so-called "friends" call/text me or invite me to hang out only when their friends are busy.. like for them I'm literally a backup friend
blueberries Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 It's a shitty time to be a young male adult specially if you're shy and introvert
CottageHore Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 Men tend to be more individualistic and I think it has to do with the way society encourages and promotes passive behavior, a lack of emotional expression and intelligence, and therefore men are so much less inclined to develop meaningful connections with, well, anyone, honestly. It’s like if they’re not talking about “b!tches”, politics, drinking and watching football together where they can circle a conversation about one fixed thing, they have no idea what to discuss and how to do so in a way that develops connection and friendship. I’m happy I’m gay because I just naturally feel the need to gravitate toward women and more feminine-expressing people and I’ve developed so many deep, life-long friendships with them.
saucy Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 It's not surprising tbh. We all live in every isolated dwellings, community spaces seem rare, plus who has time for a lot of socialisation anymore. I'm lucky enough to have close friends, but life does cut down on the time we spend with each other. In between work, family, kids, house upkeep you're exhausted. Community and social support is so important for good mental health and to avoid polarisation, but society just isn't structured that way anymore.
FreeXone Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 People are obsessed with being Depressed. Thank Jesus I was gifted with social skills
Cloudy Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 10 hours ago, Saddy said: This and in my case it also happens that my so-called "friends" call/text me or invite me to hang out only when their friends are busy.. like for them I'm literally a backup friend Yeah this happened to me too and I was sick of it. The way these people would continually ignore you when you ask them how they are or if they want to hang out, but then when they message you after months of even a year they expect you to be ready and available. It's like some people think the rest of the world is on stand by until they decide to press play.
Theshigo Washidu Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 21 hours ago, Grumpy Cat said: That was 54 years ago. Cautious of what? Stories old more than 50 years? I know this is not the case in 2022 and don't nanny me how I'm some anti metoo dude. I'm a girl and I just told a small story how it was back in his time Take a seat and calm down. Who said you were anti-MeToo? I didn't invalidate your story. It's just that times have changed and people are quick to whip out phones and record these days. Not to say that men can't approach women and flirt straight off the bat, however unfortunately some people use the moment to twist the narrative.
Grumpy Cat Posted August 29, 2022 Posted August 29, 2022 2 minutes ago, St. Francis said: Who said you were anti-MeToo? I didn't invalidate your story. It's just that times have changed and people are quick to whip out phones and record these days. Not to say that men can't approach women and flirt straight off the bat, however unfortunately some people use the moment to twist the narrative. ah ok, sorry for the misunderstanding
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