discussion Men Have Fewer Friends Than Ever, & It’s Harming Their Health

[scenekiller]

22 minutes ago, Aristide said:

Not surprised. Thanks Leftists for vilifying masculinity.

How do you say this nonsense directly after this:

 

50 minutes ago, Aristide said:

Because they're seen as "weak" or "vulnerable" if they're in touch with their emotions.  And if they are in touch with their emotions, they actually may find it harder to feel close to other men because so few are that way too. So it's not always obvious to work on themselves when society perpetuates these harmful standards for men.

You realize our societal idea of "masculinity" that "Leftists are vilifying" is exactly what perpetuates what your second post is talking about?

Edited August 27, 2022 by scenekiller

[Daddy]

"At least 6 close friends" 

 

LMFAO, that's... a LOT.

[scenekiller]

36 minutes ago, jadeabove said:

I wanted to add that there's a lot of men on men crimes also. The way we are being told when we are young that we are faggots because we cry. That a lone wolf that is mysterious is more attractive. That you should be heartless and break her heart and cheat on her. That getting attached is for girls. I mean, growing up with other men, the only thing that it made feel is that; I should never trust other men. It's interesting since it seems to be a general sentiment that is not necessarily said out loud, but it seems to be echoed one way or another, through actions and inactions. 

 you've struck on something very important, particularly with the bolded.

[Last Boy on Earth]

I have my group of friends and I’m very grateful for but as more adult I become the more I notice how almost everyone is addicted to something and unbearable to deal with or people who just don’t leave the house and become incredibly boring. I think all these crisis we’ve been going though + social media is not helping people’s social skills 

[Grumpy Cat]

sometimes when im super lonely and as i only have few close online friends who arent always online, i just call suicide hotlines and pretend im suicidal

 

sometimes i am, sometimes im not. but its still some kind of talk.

 

sometimes i'll just go to a store even though i dont have to and try to talk to a shop woman or man- asking where is this or that,..**** just so i talk

 

but thats all in 2022 for me.

 

 

[Grumpy Cat]

Just now, Daddy said:

"At least 6 close friends" 

 

LMFAO, that's... impossible

fixed it for u sis

[EtherealCat]

stop trying to scare me into getting cancer

[Mrs Smartie]

12 minutes ago, Grumpy Cat said:

sometimes when im super lonely and as i only have few close online friends who arent always online, i just call suicide hotlines and pretend im suicidal

 

sometimes i am, sometimes im not. but its still some kind of talk.

 

sometimes i'll just go to a store even though i dont have to and try to talk to a shop woman or man- asking where is this or that,..**** just so i talk

 

but thats all in 2022 for me.

 

 

This made me a little sad . I don't know you but I hope you find someone to talk to 

[Grumpy Cat]

2 minutes ago, Mrs Smartie said:

This made me a little sad . I don't know you but I hope you find someone to talk to 

nah sis im doomed af me thinks

[Aristide]

19 minutes ago, scenekiller said:

How do you say this nonsense directly after this:

 

You realize our societal idea of "masculinity" that "Leftists are vilifying" is exactly what perpetuates what your second post is talking about?

Yeah traditional masculinity tends to hinder men's abilities to be in touch with their emotions, but that doesn't mean Leftists should vilify it or falsely refer to it as "toxic" though, either, right? Lets face it, yeah they're vilifying masculinity, but that doesn't mean they're doing this because they want to help men. It's most likely the opposite.

[wish]

23 minutes ago, P!nk Forever said:

The lonely heterosexual young guys should come find me. I‘m sure we gonna make good friends.??

Therapy is calling

[Grumpy Cat]

1 minute ago, wish said:

Therapy is calling

Don't be cruel or sarcastic....don't add fuel to the fire. Both sexes suffer from this. If you don't have anything kind to say- just dont say anything at all pls.

 

 

[Take Me Apart]

All the friends i’ve had ended up disappointing me or left me so I don’t care anymore tbh, my family>>   

 

But I hope all the lonely atrlers on this thread find themselves someone they can trust 

[Ichinaru19]

45 minutes ago, Daddy said:

"At least 6 close friends" 

 

LMFAO, that's... a LOT.

!!! What happened to having quality friendships?

[Oxy]

I have a difficult time making close friends, I have good friends but never close ones.

 

But deep down I feel at the stage of my life I don’t want to be close to anyone but myself. 

[Oxy]

57 minutes ago, Grumpy Cat said:

sometimes when im super lonely and as i only have few close online friends who arent always online, i just call suicide hotlines and pretend im suicidal

 

sometimes i am, sometimes im not. but its still some kind of talk.

 

sometimes i'll just go to a store even though i dont have to and try to talk to a shop woman or man- asking where is this or that,..**** just so i talk

 

but thats all in 2022 for me.

 

 

Expand your interests and hobbies, join social clubs like a sports team or even book clubs. 
 

these are just examples of where to socialize, the next thing to do is to remind yourself, whatever you say about yourself can manifest to reality so don’t bring yourself down and remember no one will cheer you up but you. 

[Grumpy Cat]

2 minutes ago, Oxy said:

Expand your interests and hobbies, join social clubs like a sports team or even book clubs. 
 

these are just examples of where to socialize, the next thing to do is to remind yourself, whatever you say about yourself can manifest to reality so don’t bring yourself down and remember no one will cheer you up but you. 

hun i'm on the meds so i just dont off myself. why do u think i'm so often online? because im hoping if i help others, i'll get better. and i do but...its not the real world unfortunately

 

irl i have no friends, just people i work with and know. friends-no. :( ghosting is the biggest cause of me not having them. they'll reply once or twice ever and thats it.

[Oxy]

3 minutes ago, Grumpy Cat said:

hun i'm on the meds so i just dont off myself. why do u think i'm so often online? because im hoping if i help others, i'll get better. and i do but...its not the real world unfortunately

 

irl i have no friends, just people i work with and know. friends-no. :( ghosting is the biggest cause of me not having them. they'll reply once or twice ever and thats it.

Even when u are on meds, exercise your mindset to be a 180 of how you view yourself and your surrounding. 
 

Not denying the power of science but add spirituality and physical work to it too. 
 

Your journey requires good care of your mind, body and soul. 

[Grumpy Cat]

yeah...anyways, lemme stream folklore and just cry

 

:I

[Aristide]

2 minutes ago, Grumpy Cat said:

yeah...anyways, lemme stream folklore and just cry

 

:I

Honestly, life is lonely. Might as well learn to be your own best friend if you haven't already.

[Grumpy Cat]

1 minute ago, Aristide said:

Honestly, life is lonely. Might as well learn to be your own best friend if you haven't already.

here's an idea most of u wont be up for it- lets form a chat group for us the loneliest so we can vent there

 

[wish]

1 hour ago, Grumpy Cat said:

Don't be cruel or sarcastic....don't add fuel to the fire. Both sexes suffer from this. If you don't have anything kind to say- just dont say anything at all pls.

 

 

It's a joke babe he deserved it for delusionally thirsting over straight men

[Katamari]

can we blame this on millennial parenting too cause

[Theshigo Washidu]

To be honest, aside from the world telling men to not show emotion, toughen up etc, I find that a lot of men (heterosexual ones in particular) are just....rigid when it comes to forming friendships or connections with other men whom they don't consider part of their world view or what they're used to.

Of course people are going to gravitate to others who they have more in common with, but it just seems so different with men and toxic masculinity has a big part to play in that.

 

While it may sound like generalisations, if you're not into girls, cars, sports, Hip-Hop, Rock music or any other stereotypical-straight thing, it's as if other men are less likely to befriend you.

There's a bit more leeway with this when it comes to queer men and women tho.

Edited August 27, 2022 by St. Francis

[Grumpy Cat]

Just now, Katamari said:

can we blame this on millennial parenting too cause

late gen x and millenials. putting a tablet or ipad in your babys hands IS NOT AND WILL NEVER BE PARENTING.

 

Period.