Demi Lovato Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 Tbh I asked myself this when I met this guy, he was really great and we had amazing chemistry but he is overweight (a lot) and I was doubting seeing him again but I had to CHECK myself and think about it… that’s kinda fatphobic isn’t it? But then again I’m not sexually attracted to him. Wanted to ask yall… Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bicassie Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 different strokes for different folks don’t force yourself to date guys you’re not physically attracted to if physical attraction is important to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
305 Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taylucifer Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BILLIONAIRE✘BOY Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KillingYourCareer Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 No. While I don't care about body types and someone underweight and someone chubby can both be attractive to me, obese is too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demi Lovato Posted July 24, 2022 Author Share Posted July 24, 2022 5 minutes ago, Bicassie said: different strokes for different folks don’t force yourself to date guys you’re not physically attracted to if physical attraction is important to you He is 100% my type except the weight though and how would I even tell him that I don’t want to see him cause he’s overweight without being rude?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demi Lovato Posted July 24, 2022 Author Share Posted July 24, 2022 5 minutes ago, hurricane326 said: As an obese person myself that doesn't look obese, just overweight, it is not wrong to not be attracted to somebody - just don't tell them that or put that preference on your dating bio. I'm my own type - I like other chubs/bears Me: Ohh you’re cute! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rotunda Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 3 minutes ago, Demi Lovato said: He is 100% my type except the weight though and how would I even tell him that I don’t want to see him cause he’s overweight without being rude?? Just say you’re not feeling as strong as a connection as you need to (which isn’t a lie). No reason to say that the physical connection is what’s lacking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruelcooper Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 No. My lifestyle is too active to be compatible with an obese person. We’d have little in common. If you’re not physically attracted to them why would you waste your time and theirs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
igotabigfatass Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 Someone slightly chubby with little dad bod is more than fine, but someone obese no. I just don't find such guys physically attractive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hallucinate Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilish Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 I love a good dad bod/some chub but obese? I don’t think i would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauvender Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 yea, if he was nice and treated me good. idk how obese we’re talking but some people that aren’t even that big are considered obese technically. If he was like 300+ pounds then no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bicassie Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 34 minutes ago, Demi Lovato said: He is 100% my type except the weight though and how would I even tell him that I don’t want to see him cause he’s overweight without being rude?? Just be nice and polite about it without being rude Saying it’s cause of his weight is kinda nasty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vrajesh Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 I don't really have an option. Nobody would date me anyway. This thread being proof Been overweight all my life and I fluctuate between obese and overweight. I worked hard to get "fit" for 2 years, and then just rebounded. Guess in my case I'm helpless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Jobs Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 Yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ascareus Kratos Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 Sorry nope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bloodflowers. Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 If he's rich, yes! If he has massive dique, also yes! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guthix Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 (edited) 26 minutes ago, Vrajesh said: I don't really have an option. Nobody would date me anyway. This thread being proof Been overweight all my life and I fluctuate between obese and overweight. I worked hard to get "fit" for 2 years, and then just rebounded. Guess in my case I'm helpless. I mean, you’re in control. Calorie deficit and exercise. No need to play victim unless there’s an underlying reason like a medical issue. And only reason I’m being this blatant about it is because I’m in the same (but opposite) circumstance by being a twig. That’s like me saying nothing I can ever do will gain me weight or muscles, which is false - I just don’t want to commit to it. I also committed myself to a gym 4-6 days a week for 2 years straight. I saw results, but not enough for me to continue committing to it as I’ve always hated working out. No one else’s fault but mine Edited July 24, 2022 by Guthix Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shookspeare Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 no, I used to be chubby as a teen but was able to lose a ton of weight and tone up over the years. I want a partner who looks after themselves in the same way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Slayne Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 idk, i don't like to make generalising statements because you never know who you might end up dating that being said, i don't really find myself attracted to obese people but i don't know that many either, so probably not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyPony87 Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 (edited) Yeah…it‘s kinda weird to rule out an entire group of people based on their body weight or shape? Plus, in America, the arbitrary parameters to be considered “obese” are bullshït. Most hot bears and daddies at the local are considered “obese” under these austere guidelines, and that is not the case. It’s ok to have preferences, but to rule out an entire category of people based on this is really sad and unfortunate. You’re not fatphobic for not being attracted to him. It’s fatphobic to not be attracted to him BECAUSE he is and cannot consider anyone else in this category as attractive unconditionally. Edited July 24, 2022 by DirtyPony87 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julia Fox Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 (edited) I wouldn’t date an obese person as the same as I wouldn’t date an anorexic person just because they just don’t attract me… but it’s weird because I dated a boy for 3 years and the last months we spent together he gained weight and now he’s overweight -not obese tho- and I still loved him and even to this day we have some hook ups and **** like that… so maybe I would if I met the person before being obese? I don’t know Edited July 24, 2022 by Julia Fox Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tropez Posted July 24, 2022 Share Posted July 24, 2022 1 minute ago, DirtyPony87 said: Yeah…it‘s kinda weird to rule out an entire group of people based on their body weight or shape? Plus, in America, the arbitrary parameters to be considered “obese” are bullshït. Most hot bears and daddies at the local are considered “obese” under these austere guidelines, and that is not the case. It’s ok to have preferences, but to rule out an entire category of people based on this is really sad and unfortunate. This isnt true. What’s happening is our perception of larger bodies has gotten worse. Because there’s so many bigger people now, the scales that we view people have changed. Because we are so used to it. From a body fat percentage. Those bears are in fact obese. That does not make them unattractive however. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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