discussion Why do some gays think it's cute to be a sidepiece to a "straight" man?

[WhateverYouWant]

2 hours ago, Sept said:

Well for some people sex is just sex, like physical contact

 

So if he's hot af, does it matter if he's married or single or str8 or gay? 

This. Mind ya own uglies 

[John Slayne]

3 hours ago, dussel_06 said:

Well they’re there to do the “nasty stuff” like fellatio. Straight men “respects” their wives/gf so much.

this is more common than people think, many straight men have the madonna/wh*re complex. straight relationships and gender expectations are really weird. 

[Chris]

I was never anyone's side piece.

[Fanta]

3 hours ago, ~Start The Music said:

Yes it does you sex obsessed weirdo!

 

I think it’s usually either the delusional confidence boost of “changing” a “straight” man or them just being horny and attracted to masculine men while not caring whether they are in a relationship or not at all. I also think there’s a few sickos out there that get off on being home wreckers. 

Edited June 26, 2022 by Fanta

[Planet Mars]

9 minutes ago, Chris said:

I was never anyone's side piece.

Sure sis...

 

OT: Loving the honesty @ConceptD, alot of gay men want to be with men who are basically straight at all costs.

[GeeDuval]

4 hours ago, EtherealCat said:

they delude themselves into thinking that they are just so attractive that they can turn straight men 

This.

 

daddy issues much? Instead of focusing on their careers, personal growth etc. somehow they still manage to make it about them. Bragging over brunch table talks all proud about “having” a married man blah blah blah. Sweetie you’re just community azzz.

 

I mean kudos to them if it makes them feel empowered or better than anybody else for being home wreckers. 

Edited June 26, 2022 by GeeDuval

[ProudLBS]

Too much Lana Del Rey

[Chris]

9 minutes ago, Planet Mars said:

I'm a hater...

I'm sorry, did you say something?

[Planet Mars]

20 minutes ago, Chris said:

I'm sorry, did you say something?

Yes, I spoke facts

 

[ConceptD]

57 minutes ago, Planet Mars said:

Sure sis...

 

OT: Loving the honesty @ConceptD, alot of gay men want to be with men who are basically straight at all costs.

It’s something a lot of people won’t admit but I’d say it’s true for the vast majority of us. Two bottoms don’t make a top and all the good tops are closeted 

[besaid]

4 hours ago, Sept said:

Well for some people sex is just sex, like physical contact

 

So if he's hot af, does it matter if he's married or single or str8 or gay? 

This. The feminine gay men sniping from the back of the class about these types of guys just come across as jealous that masculine men aren't interested in them 

[ConceptD]

51 minutes ago, GeeDuval said:

This.

 

daddy issues much? Instead of focusing on their careers, personal growth etc. somehow they still manage to make it about them. Bragging over brunch table talks all proud about “having” a married man blah blah blah. Sweetie you’re just community azzz.

 

I mean kudos to them if it makes them feel empowered or better than anybody else for being home wreckers. 

Jesus Christ. Isn’t **** shaming against the zero tolerance policy? Nobodies trying to take anyones husband, they can go home to their wife afterwards because it’s just sex and closeted men who have been forced to marry a woman due to societal pressure/community they grew up in have to get it from somewhere too. 

[D_Man3379]

No self-respect. Think very lowly of themselves. 

[Planet Mars]

15 minutes ago, besaid said:

This. The feminine gay men sniping from the back of the class about these types of guys just come across as jealous that masculine men aren't interested in them 

But masculine men tend to be into that type though. On Grindr most of the men who fit the description of those in the OP make it known on their profiles that they're looking specifically for effeminate men who dress like women or do make-up and/or trans women.

 

Most of those men want to dabble in the male pond, but are obsessed with "dominating" feminity, they still want the feminine because they're attracted to it. It's why they go after the skinny, twinks in make-up who do their nails and might wear stockings from time to time

Edited June 26, 2022 by Planet Mars

[Blade]

Because a lot of gay guys (not all) are embarrassing to be around. I'd rather be a sidepiece to a man who is put together, handsome, and I can at least show off to my friends than a "man" who people look down upon.

[Blade]

2 hours ago, ConceptD said:

I feel terrible even typing this and owning up to it and it’s embarrassing, and it’s probably some type of trauma induced internalised homophobia but I can’t help it so here goes. I’m attracted to men who come across as just like an everyday straight man. I’m not attracted to feminine gays in the slightest and I’m not sure why because they’re always the nicest, least complicated ones to be in a relationship or just hook up with but I just don’t feel it. A lot of the time if you do want to go for someone who does come off as 100% straight then you have to make peace with the idea of being a side ***** because they normally want to live a normal straight life with a wife and children and it’s a sacrifice. It’s not common to find a straight acting gay who’s willing to walk the walk. 

There's nothing wrong with this. I'm sorry it has to be said but most gays that hate on us that go for these type of men are jealous that they can't get them. It's their fantasy though they just don't want to admit it. You think these queens on here are watching twink ****? Nah they search masc, muscular men then come on here and say it's bad that we're only attracted to these types of men. It's just jealousy.

[Johnny Jacobs]

They think its an accomplishment or something 

 

Usually have something or everything to prove 

[imabadkid]

Yeah, I know it's been happening since forever but it does seem more prevalent now? And gayz seem to brag more openly about it... girl he's only using you for one thing but idk I think some guys are ok with that but it's not a good look. It's 2022, stop feeding off of attention from straight men.

[Fanta]

2 hours ago, Blade said:

There's nothing wrong with this. I'm sorry it has to be said but most gays that hate on us that go for these type of men are jealous that they can't get them. It's their fantasy though they just don't want to admit it. You think these queens on here are watching twink ****? Nah they search masc, muscular men then come on here and say it's bad that we're only attracted to these types of men. It's just jealousy.

It kind of seems like both sides are just looking for reasons to tear the other side down to be honest. I mean both sides of the argument are mostly just generalizations people are making based on what they think they know about the other group. 

 

3 hours ago, Chris said:

I was never anyone's side piece.

 So you don’t mess with DL men then? 

[imabadkid]

5 hours ago, ConceptD said:

I feel terrible even typing this and owning up to it and it’s embarrassing, and it’s probably some type of trauma induced internalised homophobia but I can’t help it so here goes. I’m attracted to men who come across as just like an everyday straight man. I’m not attracted to feminine gays in the slightest and I’m not sure why because they’re always the nicest, least complicated ones to be in a relationship or just hook up with but I just don’t feel it. A lot of the time if you do want to go for someone who does come off as 100% straight then you have to make peace with the idea of being a side ***** because they normally want to live a normal straight life with a wife and children and it’s a sacrifice. It’s not common to find a straight acting gay who’s willing to walk the walk. 

there's nothing wrong with liking what you like - even if it's straight or bi men. I just don't like when gays mess around with married men and openly brag about it and insult the wives. It's too much.

Edited June 26, 2022 by imabadkid

[Blade]

1 minute ago, imabadkid said:

there's nothing wrong with liking what you like - even if it's straight or bi men. I just don't like when gays mess around with married men and openly brag about it and insult the wives. It's too much.

I agree that's too much to brag about it. I personally don't SEEK men with gf's/wives. but unfortunately most men who like women especially those 25+ WILL have a gf or wife. It comes with the territory and it sucks but in the end they're the ones being unfaithful not the "sidepiece".

[Orsay]

attraction and shame go hand in hand for some. I really don't have a problem with it.. they're only hurting themselves. Unless the straight guy is in a committed relationship with a woman in which case it becomes messy to keep pursuing it.

[Planet Mars]

2 hours ago, Blade said:

Because a lot of gay guys (not all) are embarrassing to be around. I'd rather be a sidepiece to a man who is put together, handsome, and I can at least show off to my friends than a "man" who people look down upon.

Girl bye x 10, we're talking about a married man who probably got a couple kids, unless your talking about photos on your phone then keep dreaming. This man isn't going anywhere with you in public

Edited June 26, 2022 by Planet Mars

[Planet Mars]

The hit dogs hollering in this thread, some gays are mad because they "can't get them", get who? A bored, married, conservative suburban dad of 4?

 

The complete lack of self awareness, y'all be weak in the knees, STAND UP! 

[Blade]

5 minutes ago, Planet Mars said:

Girl bye x 10, we're talking about a married man who probably got a couple kids, unless your talking about photos on your phone then keep dreaming. This man isn't going anywhere with you in public

not all straight men are married with kids.