discussion "The pandemic destroyed my life" can yall tell me why?

[Distantconstellation]

Im always here people saying it destroyed their life. Im curious as to why. Asking cause my life didn't change because of it, for better or worse. If anything i actually enjoyed the chaos of it all. Where I live things didn't really close down and even if they did, they were things like clubs and gyms which was like whatever big deal to me. 

 

 

Edited yesterday at 04:30 AM by Distantconstellation

[JO1s]

It gave people in power more power to ruin our lives with things like supply line interuptions they used an excuse to price gouge and keep prices up. 

[Lady Claire]

A lot of people lost some of their favorite people in the world, developed depression (or it got worse), lost their jobs and so on... some stuff that happened is worthy of a PTSD. I'm lucky that i went to therapy and had major support from my family and friends, but it's not the case with everyone.

[Kavish]

For me it's the weight gain. Prior to Covid, I always had a lean physique. During lockdown, the lack of physical movement coupled with emotional eating made me gain some kgs. This made me lose confidence in myself. I disliked my new body and felt ugly most of the time. Clothes didn't look right on me anymore. I refused to go on dates because I thought no one would want to date me further. I refused to hang out with friends because I thought they would judge me for what I've become. 

 

Now I'm down bad crying at the gym. 

[Distantconstellation]

7 minutes ago, Kavish said:

For me it's the weight gain. Prior to Covid, I always had a lean physique. During lockdown, the lack of physical movement coupled with emotional eating made me gain some kgs. This made me lose confidence in myself. I disliked my new body and felt ugly most of the time. Clothes didn't look right on me anymore. I refused to go on dates because I thought no one would want to date me further. I refused to hang out with friends because I thought they would judge me for what I've become. 

 

Now I'm down bad crying at the gym. 

The weight gain part happened to me to, like 10lbs - 12lbs more. So from like 125 to like 138lbs. But in 2022 I lost like 10lbs because I was house sitting for a meth head friend who went to Thailand/Vietnam to get laid  for 2.5 weeks. I saw a house in his rat and that grossed me out so much that I didn't eat anything for 3 days, just fluids and the  the days after that I had one small meal a day, like one apple and a burrito. So by the time my friend got back i had lost all the weight. 

Edited yesterday at 05:19 AM by Distantconstellation

[PrettyHurts]

i flourished during the pandemic because i'm an introvert, however i do sometimes wonder if i could have achieved even more had it never happened 

[Lüwís]

I actually really miss the social distancing in public. I hate people standing too close to me and I don't know where they've been. I always assume other s are dirtier than me because I'm very clean. I think that should have been kept in place. 

 

I miss the quietness. Fewer noise from vehicles and you could hear the natural world more. I never knew how noisy humans are. 

 

I felt cleaner too. I still try to use antibacterial hand gel as much as possible when hand-washing isn't an option, although I've noticed it's not available as much in shops. 

[RoseGold]

My dad died and I couldn't even see him

[Europe]

Lockdown enabled me to work 2 jobs at the same time and excel at both and no one ever knew.

[Alldeezy]

lockdown just ruined a lot

Music/Tours are more harder to attend

We got so used to being a home that a lot of us are now afraid of the open world

lots of jobs/businesses never reopened 

lots of fights and relationships broke during it

travel costs have gone up way more 

 

like you can't tell me life hasn't changed after it?   

 

oh yeah and when my dog got put down I couldn't be in the room with him since 1 person at a time at the VET

when my cousin past away from cancer I wasn't able to see her often and had to watch her funeral from a steam  

[TeeJay]

My school closed down, stopped me from getting credits needed which led to me not graduating. Which led to me not pursuing the career I always planned for and enjoyed. My depression got so bad I attempted to take my own life twice, a depression that I still, to this day, years later, have not managed to pull myself out of. I lost my job, which led to me losing my car, going into debt for the first time, ruining my credit which was perfect before this, and just straight up destroying the life I had before. I will most likely never fully recover from the financial destruction that covid caused. No  telling how the mental parts of it will end up, but i'm still dealing with that as well.

[Jotham]

For me, I was in the middle of college during the pandemic. When COVID happened, I had to move back to my hometown and support my parents. Going to college helped me become more independent and helped me develop my interests. This was all gone when COVID happened. Now, I feel isolated and passionless - I haven't seen many of my friends since the pandemic and I still feel like my life has zero direction.

[Gladiator]

The only thing I noticed that affected me was that I developed a case of social phobia that I'm hoping I can continue to work towards removing. I did not have that before, but I have noticed it in a lot of ways since and it has quite a few impacts that disrupt my day to day. Pretty sure it was from the prolonged isolation. During it, I moved away about 7 hours from where I lived and didn't know anyone, and also shifted to working remotely and I never adjusted back entirely.

[Thin White Duke]

Two of my closest people died within a week of each other and had to basically be buried in a bag like toxic waste. Then it's the general depression overall and the leftover social anxiety that I'm still working on today.

I had work at least, otherwise I would have lost my mind probably.

[jordanjm]

The levels of ignorance to make this kind of thread is actually astonishing. 

[Dante Silva]

I lost someone very dear to me during the pandemic, they desperately needed me to be there for them and I was banned by hospital administrators from visiting my loved one. It's was genuinely traumatic.

 

I will never get over the guilt of being barred entry from the hospital just to sit by my loved one's bedside, offer support and hold their hand.
 

Both myself and my loved one were denied closure and I am haunted by the gut wrenching thought that my loved one was too far-gone/ ill - to know I physically was not allowed to be with them as they lay dying - and they instead inaccurately believed I was not there for them and that I didn't care.

 

If I had been in the room with the doctors I could have directed the care my loved one received in such a way that different medical choices could have been made for them that would have prevented them from dying!

 

Living through those personal circumstances at any other point in time would have led to closeness, warmth, sincere compassion and understanding.
 

I will literally never get over being separated from someone I loved so dearly and the trauma of hearing them calling out my name over the phone is genuinely horrific, knowing that rules of society were legally and literally forcing us apart!

 

Edited yesterday at 09:43 AM by Dante Silva

[ScorpiosGroove]

i don't mean this in a mean way, but are you stupid ? 

[Darius]

I flourished in a lot of ways, but something that's taken a major hit since then is my social life. My social anxiety has skyrocketed and I basically only socialize with my best friends (and even then, mostly on Facetime). I miss having more acquaintances/activity friends and randomly going out after work, brunches, etc. It's one of the only drawbacks of remote work

[Dolce Vita]

girl

[katara]

Covid wasn't just a hiding game in your apartment dummy.

 

People died or got seriously sick. A lot of families had some kind of trauma because of it. i know I did.

Edited yesterday at 10:09 AM by katara

[TeeJay]

1 hour ago, Dante Silva said:

I lost someone very dear to me during the pandemic, they desperately needed me to be there for them and I was banned by hospital administrators from visiting my loved one. It's was genuinely traumatic.

 

I will never get over the guilt of being barred entry from the hospital just to sit by my loved one's bedside, offer support and hold their hand.
 

Both myself and my loved one were denied closure and I am haunted by the gut wrenching thought that my loved one was too far-gone/ ill - to know I physically was not allowed to be with them as they lay dying - and they instead inaccurately believed I was not there for them and that I didn't care.

 

If I had been in the room with the doctors I could have directed the care my loved one received in such a way that different medical choices could have been made for them that would have prevented them from dying!

 

Living through those personal circumstances at any other point in time would have led to closeness, warmth, sincere compassion and understanding.
 

I will literally never get over being separated from someone I loved so dearly and the trauma of hearing them calling out my name over the phone is genuinely horrific, knowing that rules of society were legally and literally forcing us apart!

 

I'm sorry that happened <3

I've seen first hand how terrible of a situation that can be, my neighbor's son ended up in the hospital and 4 days later died there, alone. His mother was denied entry to see him because of covid. She doesn't drive so I would take her to the hospital and she would just sit outside on the bench and cry, she would sit there all day, waiting for updates and hoping they would let her in. They never did.

[Illuminati]

I didn't mind it at the time but in retrospect it feels like I aged 3 years overnight, like that time existed in some alternate reality

[Princess Aurora]

I think the pandemic ruined everybody's life....

[Virgos Groove]

I mean, besides the obvious stuff already mentioned (millions of deaths, inflation), the pandemic and the lockdown changed society. Work from home, remote learning, increase in loneliness and relapse into alchoholism for many, etc. Such a sudden, globalized change is bound to affect people.

 

Teachers I've spoken to have said the kids who were 1st graders in 2020 are not as literate as previous generations, and are now struggling with their education.

 

Plus - and I know how insignificant this is -, but Covid absolutely derailed younger people's lives, trajectories and plans. I missed most of my college experience because of lockdown and plenty of teenagers didn't even get to experience graduation. Does this really matter in the face of 7 million deaths? Of course not, but it's natural that people are going to harbor some resentment over it, however irrational it may be.

Edited yesterday at 11:50 AM by Virgos Groove

[Fitzswiftie]

mainly lost job opportunities, I was supposed to go to Beijing in April 2020 to teach English as a 2nd language, that didn't happen for obvious reasons.

 

I pivoted to nursing to all good now