My son is spiralling out of control; orgies, drugs, throuple situation

[toast]

3 hours ago, PoisonPill said:

Unfortunately, that lifestyle has become normalized and celebrated in the NYC gay world. So many young gay men have been deluded into believing that extreme unsafe sex, constant anonymous partners and nonstop drug use is what it means to live freely and authentically.

Yep! There's a thin line between liberation and compulsion

[Dolce Vita]

so in other words, the average hells kitchen resident 

[PoisonPill]

3 hours ago, Cain said:

Yes Europeans never do this, famously

Of course gays in Europe party hard, but they just seem more together and less messy compared to what I see here.

[Rotunda]

3 hours ago, Katamari said:

Oh this host seem like a good person  

 

I thought it was some right wing stuff

He's affiliated with Dave Ramsey so in a sense he is kinda right wing, but he's generally compassionate.

[John Slayne]

he's 25, he should be at the club 

[Dera]

3 hours ago, Matchatea said:

@PoisonedIvy SIS THEY ARE SPILLING UR TEA!!! DO SOMETHING! 

 

[Hollywood.]

13 hours ago, Hollywood. said:

Sounds like the son is living a fun life. 

I didn't mean for this to be taken serious, but on reflection was inappropriate as these are a real problem within the community. 
 

Hopefully he gets the help/guidance he needs. 

[katara]

This is a huge problem in the gay community and it is present in all ages actually. I had to stop dating a lot of guys when I found out that they use substances regularly. This is a huge red flag and I don't tolerate that sh*t a tiny bit. 

[Kern]

50 minutes ago, katara said:

This is a huge problem in the gay community and it is present in all ages actually. I had to stop dating a lot of guys when I found out that they use substances regularly. This is a huge red flag and I don't tolerate that sh*t a tiny bit. 

I basically lost all my gay friends when they started abusing drugs to the point when they were almost never sober

[katara]

4 minutes ago, Kern said:

I basically lost all my gay friends when they started abusing drugs to the point when they were almost never sober

Thankfully my gay friends are "just" guys next door who happen to be gay so they are not at all involved in the scene so I never had that problem.

 

But with online dating it happens a lot. Like just some months ago I got to know this hot spanish guy and we had lots of chemistry but then after a while all his drug addictions came out on top of being a huge alcoholic. Obvi it didn't last long with him after that. 

[Last Boy on Earth]

It's all fun and games when you notice a lot of your friends were not doing drugs for a fun night out but are actually dependent on them, and then they start mixing it with sex and then cannot even sex without the drugs anymore. It's a cycle that I've seen happening countless times and I wonder when the community will stop and think for a second that we're actually living an epidemic of drugs and the compulsion of having pleasure 'right now' no matter what is gonna destroy many lives.

 

i can count on my hand the gays who still have sex without drugs here in Barcelona. Last month there were 3 guys who died in the same weekend.

 

The curious thing is most of the time these are pretty successful people partaking in this, including doctors.

Edited November 21 by Last Boy on Earth

[Dear Reader]

2 minutes ago, Last Boy on Earth said:

It's all fun and games when you notice a lot of your friends were not doing drugs for a fun night out but are actually dependent on them, and then they start mixing it with sex and then cannot even sex without the drugs anymore. It's a cycle that I've seen happening countless times and I wonder when the community will stop and think for a second that we're actually living an epidemic of drugs and the compulsion of having pleasure 'right now' no matter what is gonna destroy many lives.

 

i can count on my hand the gays who still have sex without drugs here in Barcelona. Last month there were 3 guys who died in the same weekend.

 

The curious thing is most of the time these are pretty successful people partaking in this, including doctors.

this is so true! 

 

I have literally been blocked by many guys for saying I don't do drugs or that I don't enjoy that my partner is under the influence while having sex… how do these people even feel pleasure in having sex while not sober?

[Last Boy on Earth]

13 minutes ago, Dear Reader said:

this is so true! 

 

I have literally been blocked by many guys for saying I don't do drugs or that I don't enjoy that my partner is under the influence while having sex… how do these people even feel pleasure in having sex while not sober?

Yes, these people never want to do the stuff by themselves. But I get it, I've done chemsex and it does make it much more intense and dare I say fun, this is why it's dangerous, people then start doing it regularly and when they notice it's too late, now they can only have sex while on substances.

 

i have friends in their early 30s that cannot get an erection without GHB anymore , it's ****** up

Edited November 21 by Last Boy on Earth

[Dear Reader]

6 minutes ago, Last Boy on Earth said:

Yes, these people never want to do the stuff by themselves. But I get it, I've done chemsex and it does make it much more intense and dare I say fun, this is why it's dangerous, people then start doing it regularly and when they notice it's too late, now they can only have sex while on substances.

 

i have friends in their early 30s that cannot get an erection without GHB anymore , it's ****** up

oh I see, I honestly thought it desensitized people and relaxed them and that's why they did it. But if it makes it more intense I can see the appeal but would never try it anyway 

[katara]

12 minutes ago, Last Boy on Earth said:

Yes, these people never want to do the stuff by themselves. But I get it, I've done chemsex and it does make it much more intense and dare I say fun, this is why it's dangerous, people then start doing it regularly and when they notice it's too late, now they can only have sex while on substances.

 

i have friends in their early 30s that cannot get an erection without GHB anymore , it's ****** up

They can. They just need to get sober and their dick will start working normally again after the brain rewires itself after some weeks/months.

[єѕℓαм]

The fact that this lifestyle is normalized in the gay community is very concerning 

the mother has every right to worry about her son 

[Mr.X]

17 hours ago, Trash said:

Whats the handle?

 

same

[terrorblade]

 

[OrgVisual]

1 hour ago, Last Boy on Earth said:

It's all fun and games when you notice a lot of your friends were not doing drugs for a fun night out but are actually dependent on them, and then they start mixing it with sex and then cannot even sex without the drugs anymore. It's a cycle that I've seen happening countless times and I wonder when the community will stop and think for a second that we're actually living an epidemic of drugs and the compulsion of having pleasure 'right now' no matter what is gonna destroy many lives.

 

i can count on my hand the gays who still have sex without drugs here in Barcelona. Last month there were 3 guys who died in the same weekend.

 

The curious thing is most of the time these are pretty successful people partaking in this, including doctors.

In my experience, doctors/executives/professors tend to be the kinkiest and wildest gays  I guess since their life are so stressful, they are craving for these recreations + they have the financial means to buy drugs and stuff

[AvadaKedavra]

I was near to join that lifestyle but then i realized

-All my friends-ex friends in that lifestyle had really bad STDS and they suffer for them
-I wanted to have kids 
-I dont have the money to pay for STDS treatment. In my country the healthcare system is a mess now thanks to the new disgustin president
-That lifestyle looks fun but to me was like empty fun. I realized i enjoy more to spend time with my fam and do my hobbies and stuff

Something i also realized is........I have cravings for that lifestyle when im feeling depressed about something.
If im ok with my life i just dont look for it

Hope the guy is able to find a balance or escape from that.
 

Edited November 21 by AvadaKedavra

[brazil]

Does the mom feel that taking personal issues such as this one to a public talking show will solve things? Talk to a therapist, talk to friends, why create more exposure to this situation, this will likely only lead her son to resent her more!

[alexrex]

The issue comes when these things get out of control. 

 

You can live your life the way you want, but anyone saying that constantly going to orgies, taking drugs and having multiple partners is a normal thing is being delusional. 

[Oktober Knight]

Mom, back the fk off. He's living his life and having fun. There's nothing wrong with him having sex at orgies and I obviously don't see anything wrong with him being in a throuple. The only thing she has a right to be concerned about is his substance use. And why is she watching videos of him? Like is she on his Twitter feed every day watching her son get gang banged? Girl leave him alone.

 

The way the niece started all this drama. 

[STMG23]

PM me his contact info, sis 

[getBusy]

On 11/20/2024 at 1:58 PM, Johnny Jacobs said:

Why share it.  

 

His life his problems. There is, nothing you can do to help an addict unless it's coming from him. I'm talking from experience unfortunately 

Some of you have the empathy of a rock