discussion A straight friend wants to set me up with someone because we both happen to be gay

[prettyinpink940]

I have this female acquaintance/friend, she's straight and we mostly connected because of our dogs lol but I saw her today. She knows that I'm gay and single and now she's trying to set me up with her one other gay friend. This woman is a lot older than me and so is this guy (18 years older than me to be exact). She showed me a picture of him and he's just not my type at all. She asked if maybe all three of us could meet at her place so I could get to know him. The only thing this guy and I have in common is that we both happen to be gay. So of course this woman thinks we're a match made in heaven.

 

I told her I'd think about it but I'm just not interested at all.

 

 I'm sure she'll ask me again next time I see her. How do I politely decline this invitation?

Edited October 21, 2024 by prettyinpink940

[Orsay]

Just set a hard line and be honest that with her that you're not interested. If she's a good friend she'll accept it and move on. Use the age difference as an excuse cause 18 years is crazy.

[DAP]

Say yes and set up the date as a rendezvous to extort money from him. 

[brazil]

My intern wanted to set me up with her mother's friend. Some straight people think that just because youre gay and they know someone else who is gay they should set you up lol. It happens to be all the time. 

 

If youre not into the guy just tell her, say youre not really interested, or youre looking to someone closer to your age range or something

 

 

[Illuminati]

Be straight forward and say you're not interested rather than give maybes as a way to signal that you're interested but shy. Set up a date for her with someone straight

[Quiqui4eva]

Invite her over, get the wine going, and tell her exactly what you told us

[liam13]

set her up with a straight and single friend of yours who's not her type and if she's smart enough, she'll understand.

[makeme]

I'm sure she doesn't mean harm but tell her exactly what you told us. You are not into him and theres no reason to get her friends hopes up by even meeting. 

[BlossomSoul]

It's nice of them but also very ignorant.

[Princess Aurora]

If he's not your type, say no to that. 

[superglowy]

"It's really sweet of you to try and set me up but I would want someone closer to my age". Done,

[katara]

Simply tell her no?

 

That mouth of yours is also to speak, not just to choke on c**k

[Daddy]

Call her homophobic and ghost her.

[SupremeGoddess]

sleep with her dad as revenge that'll teach her 

[Vixen Eyes]

What's he look like? I love older men

[loveisdead9582]

It's very common for straight people to try and set a gay man up with their other gay friend. I don't think it's meant to be insulting or anything. Just say that he's not your type or something along those lines and move on. Or, meet him - doesn't hurt to make a friend even if you aren't romantically interested. 

[GentleEarthquake]

I know this is an ignorant thing to do, but I kinda want it to happen to me...

[Baddie B]

just tell her that you're not interested  and that age gap makes you uncomfortable. if you can you san then start setting up some boundaries with her about that so that she doesnt get up your ass about it some other time

[Katamari]

sounds like a couple looking for a third

 

be careful mama! 

[Dragonfly]

Tale as old as time

True as it can be

Barely even friends

Then somebody bends.

[Distantconstellation]

Weird that u aren't into older dudes. Atrl members are known for sleeping with 70+ year olds

[glitch]

41 minutes ago, Distantconstellation said:

Weird that u aren't into older dudes. Atrl members are known for sleeping with 70+ year olds

You're projecting once again. Please go to therapy and stop subjecting us to your issues

[Fav]

Set her up with the first straight male you see because they're both straight!

[dumbsparce]

Tell her that you're gay, not a desperate pensioner looking for some company in his final years. How can she have at least 2 gay friends and still be so close minded regarding how m2m attraction, or attraction in general, works.