liam13 Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 I attended my friends' weddings this weekend and got updated about my high school friends' lives. They all have good jobs, some have cars and houses, marriage and stuff. Pretty successful, right? Then there's me, no home no car no lover no nothing, have a job but i'll quit in a month or two cuz it's sucked lately. I know it's not good comparing myself to others but i can't help it. I literally have no idea what i'm doing tbh. It's like i'm just here, doing the bare minimum to survive. i'm not living life nor having an idea about it. i'm totally lost. **** me 10
PillowCase Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Interesting. And you don't even have that many posts on here. 5 1
Vixen Eyes Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 me waking up every day because id rather move on to the next one.
Anthinos Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Yes, although I personally don't necessarily need the things you mentioned. So the "traditional" life. But I turned 30 this year and since then I've been asking myself more and more often what I'm actually doing with my life. I'm still young, but somehow I feel the pressure of time and have the feeling that I'm missing out on something. I want to turn my life around 180 degrees in my 30s. I have the feeling that I'm wasting a lot of time on social media etc. and not using my potential. 4
Jotham Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 In my last full-time job, I worked as an executive assistant. I remember having a mini breakdown while setting up an event and realizing how much I hated the job and how toxic it was. It did motivate me to seek counseling through employee assistance though, which then convinced me to quit that job. 3
Aethereal Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 13 minutes ago, liam13 said: I attended my friends' weddings this weekend and got updated about my high school friends' lives. They all have good jobs, some have cars and houses, marriage and stuff. Pretty successful, right? Then there's me, no home no car no lover no nothing, have a job but i'll quit in a month or two cuz it's sucked lately. I know it's not good comparing myself to others but i can't help it. I literally have no idea what i'm doing tbh. It's like i'm just here, doing the bare minimum to survive. i'm not living life nor having an idea about it. i'm totally lost. **** me Been like this for 2 years but it really peaked the past months. I feel you 100%. 1
LovingDays Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 (edited) 20 minutes ago, liam13 said: I know it's not good comparing myself to others but i can't help it. Not to sound like someone's corny English teacher, but... Spoiler "Comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt If you were satisfied with where you were before the wedding, I don't think you should feel bad about that. At the end of the day, it's your life. If being married and having kids and all that isn't going to make you happy, then you shouldn't do it. Spoiler But I also struggle with comparing myself to others, so I feel you Edited October 20, 2024 by LovingDays 1 2
Dante Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Comparing yourself to others is never a good idea, and it's kind of pointless. Makes no sense. Everybody is born in a different situation, conditions and surroundings. 1
Dante Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Also there are plenty of people, married, great jobs, have kids, but still extremely unhappy. 1
glitch Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Yes I had a moment like this last year. My solution was to find some hobbies, things I actually enjoyed doing. I started taking dance classes and decided I was gonna finally learn how to swim (despite being extremely afraid of water). I've taken a bit of a break from the dancing lately, but both were a great way to get me out of my comfort zone. Swimming has also been great because it's given me a goal to work towards (and also everyone asks how it's going so it's a good talking point). The funny thing I realised is a) I already had hobbies, I just was so used to them that I barely considered them worth talking about and b) now I feel way more interesting than the friends in relationships who I used to think had it all. 2
Paddy Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 I have one of these at least once a week, and if I stop exaggerating, then perhaps once every month or two. I have a good job, and a car... but sometimes the grass still feels green on the other side, and I don't mean I'm greedy, just sometimes feel like where I am at, is not where I want to be. 2
skwonderfactory Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 I used to but they've gotten a lot less frequent. The reality is that everyone is doing their life at their own pace; there is no right moment or correct age to do specific things. Even those who seem to be doing really well and have it all have their own personal struggles too. As long as you are happy for the most part, that is what ultimately matters. If you're not, evaluate why and make the necessary changes to achieve the success you wish to see. Not what someone else's definition of success is, but your own. Remember that growth does not happen overnight and it is not linear. Half of what you're doing is not knowing what you're doing at all until you know what you're doing and then doing it until you're comfortable enough to be satisfied. 3 1
artc0cx Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Yes, especially when about to hookup with someone in an abandoned yard 1 4 1
fememeist Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 (edited) I've been feeling like this since 18(I'm 24 now) I'm starting therapy on this… (and other things)I can't wait and im really scared Edited October 20, 2024 by fememeist 1
Kern Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 9 minutes ago, Dante said: Comparing yourself to others is never a good idea, and it's kind of pointless. Makes no sense. I don't think it's possible to not compare to others. It's in our dna We have to use the feelings we get when we compare ourselves to others as information on what we desire 2
swifthino Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 everyday for the past two years now but im starting to get back on my feet and going also don't be too hard on yourself cause we all progress at different paste 1 1
Terrielle Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 35 minutes ago, liam13 said: Then there's me, no home no car no lover no nothing, have a job but i'll quit in a month or two cuz it's sucked lately. I literally have no idea what i'm doing tbh. It's like i'm just here, doing the bare minimum to survive. i'm not living life nor having an idea about it. i'm totally lost. I feel the exact same. It's making me depressed. 1
jore Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 You're doing well, buddy, just follow your own path and don't look at other people's achievements. 1
ATRL Moderator Legend E Posted October 20, 2024 ATRL Moderator Posted October 20, 2024 Unfortunately, yes, almost every day in the past few months. Mostly because of a job I hate that I feel will dictate my whole life and because I always end up in situations with horrible bosses
liam13 Posted October 20, 2024 Author Posted October 20, 2024 i know i'm not the only one feeling like this but thank you all for your kind words 1
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